What about Disabled Singles?

[jmary1392]

Hello all...!!!

I'm Priyanka from India.
I'm disabled with Spastic Cerebral Palsy.
I'm 22 & doing my B.A. Degree.
I was a Hindu, but I'm in Christ since from the age of 12.
My parents & other relatives r still Hindus. :-(
My main problem is that I'm suffering with depression & loneliness.
No one is here to support me, I can't express my feelings to my parents because I don't wanna give them tension anymore.
As I'm dependent on them, they also want to get to rid of me. I also don't want to be dependent on them & don't want to live with them but the problem is that I don't know where to go. :-(
I've all the feelings which every young girl used to have. But here in India men doesn't take/show any interest towards disabled girls & they will never do, I know that. :-(
I want someone who will support me, take care of me, believer in Christ & the main thing is that he would ready to take my responsibility & remain loyal to me.
I know that I'll never find such a person & no one will ever come in my life to get me with him.
My question is that -
People who born with some disabilities don't have right to expect love from someone & to marry someone?
Is disability is a curse?

 

[Lynx]

John chapter nine:
1 And as Jesus passed by, he saw a man which was blind from his birth.
2 And his disciples asked him, saying, Master, who did sin, this man, or his parents, that he was born blind?
3 Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him.

Disability is not a curse. It's just something we have to live with. When God created this world animals did not kill other animals for food, storms did not happen, mosquitoes did not bite, plants didn't have thorns... everything was good. But sin marred God's creation. Now there are some things we have to live with, like storms, thorns, animals that hunt, mosquitoes, and the occasional physical disability.


Sometimes there is a reason for what you have to suffer. Sometimes it's because of something you did, or sometimes it's because of something God is about to do. And sometimes there is no reason except that we live in a world that is no longer perfect.

 

[Rachel20]

Hey Priyanka.

Firstly, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I know it can be really hard and painful to think that you are unloved or unwanted.
People, circumstances, and their acceptance and rejection of us can be really cruel.

I also want to commend you for being a Christian among Hindus. It's definitely not easy.
However you are not unloved or unwanted. That is a lie.

God loves you. Very much. And His love is much more beautiful and constant than any human being.

I also want to encourage you that, love does happen, despite disabilities.

I want to mention Nick Vujicic, who was born without limbs and has now found love and is happily married now with a child. He has used his experience and his disability to encourage millions of people across the globe and preach Christ.

In my own family, I have a cousin, who married a woman, after hearing how she had been through a terrible car accident with major head trauma.
He decided to meet her and marry her despite no one else willing to do the same.

Love is beyond the way we look and beyond our physical imperfections. It has happened and can happen.

I just want to caution you though, that seeking solace in human beings isn't the answer to your pain of loneliness and depression.

Human beings can only help so much. True healing and true comfort can only come through God who gives us peace that He loves us so much.

You are very much loved Priyanka and God is there with you to comfort you and guide you.

Cry out to Him. Go to Him with your burden.

Meanwhile just focus on finishing your degree and don't worry so much

Give your hopes and dreams to God and relax.

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. (Matthew 6:33)




PS - You can always PM me and meet me on chat. Would love to be a friend and I am sure many others are here who would love to be there and provide support, guidance and friendship

You are very much loved in the body of Christ.

 

[Jimbone]

Hello Priyanka, I am sorry to read about your struggles, but so very happy to read that you love and trust Jesus. I was born a fully able male in the US, so I really can't offer any insight of value into your exact situation, but at 31 I lost full function of my dominate arm and became disabled in that way. I caught depression and all that, I got to the point all I prayed for was death. The only thing that saved me was Him. I love you little sister and I will pray for His peace to come into your heart, the peace that only our Lord can provide. Just rely on Him and He will provide you everything you need. Welcome to CC, it's an honor to meet you.

 

[jogoldie]

My dear sweet girl......that is not so......I have friends who have spouses with disabilities....
and they have good marriages....God says our words have power....if you speak negative thats what you "will" for your self
...because
it shows you have no faith......with our words we can "will" things in our life....if you say this wont happen ....it wont...
What you must do is thank God for providing someone for you...never say never my sweet girl....it will happen..
If you speak positively and thank God in everything.......peace ...jo

Father God I thank you for my baby sister....thank for providing the love and family she so rightly deserves.....
for keeping her close and strong ....for providing her needs. In Jesus,s loving name....amen

 

[Bate]

Being positive and choosing to instead being happy, will lift you to higher places jmary1392.


I've learnt something amazing from someone in the following links via youtube. (I may totally be short of words, but this may be of great help to you)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c62Aqdlzvqk - YouTube

I Choose To Be Happy Lizzie Velasquez at TEDxYouth@Austin - YouTube

Some specific question had risen about her, but then.....

Who's Adam?! - YouTube

This is being hopeful and free indeed. I pray that it'd be helpful to you in one way or the other.

Stay encouraged His child!

 

[jmary1392]

Thank u so much everyone for encouraging me & understanding my circumstances.
I know that GOD has a right plans for me. I trust & love him so much.
My only ambition is to preach the love & power of GOD to all.
Right now I'm focusing on completion of my degree.
But my parents & relatives r tired of me, coz I'm dependent on them.
I'm a unwanted person on them & they wanted to get rid of me... :-(
I don't know what to do & where to go? I'm crying to GOD everyday to show me the right way, since from last 10 yrs.
There is no any provisions or facilities from the Govt. or NGO's here in India for disabled. If there r some, fees r very expensive. I don't know what plans GOD has for me, I also knew that GOD is testing my patience.
Please keep praying for me.


Thank You All.