+ because i believe that God's will for my life was to be single for years while He was preparing me, and i was living, doing what needed to happen as a single woman.
+ because i spent some years being rebellious, which probably only delayed the work that God was doing in me, and yet, provided much in the way of precious learning, broken parts and evidence of God's unfailing mercy and grace.
+ because i never believed that my life would only matter, have value, or be worthwhile when/if i married
+ because it has been hard to find the right guy for me. i wanted my heart's desire, not "adequate". see, the downside in growing in Christ is that you find yourself less capable of overlooking what you know better than to ignore.
+ because i believed that God would eventually bless me with the right spouse at the right time, or give me the grace to be content without him.
+ because i am too joyful and grateful for what i have and have been blessed with to not be obedient to what i know is right. i can become cranky and jaded any old time, and bad relationships seem to have that effect.