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I am going to be going away for school soon but I have been having feelings for my best friend for at least a year now. We have been friends for probably half of our lives (I'm 18 she is 17) I want to tell her that i like her more then a friend but I don't want to ruin or friendship. I also don't want to keep these feelings inside. We also are both solid believers and are in many different ministies together.
 
Olerica

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Have you prayed about it? If so, what are you hearing from God?
 
Jilly81

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Do you think she feels the same way about you? If not, I wouldn't tell her. This is something to pray about, btw; Jesus knows if you'd make a good pair, or if you're a better friends-only match :).
 
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I pray about it so often... Like I am in prayer about it for a combined hour a day at least. I think God has been telling me to tell her I feel. But I don't know how to come across not being weird. I have 2 male leaders that are in their twenties that know us both that are saying I should talk to her. But j have a few opportunities and haven't said anything. I feel very disappointed when I let the opportunity slide away. I just don't want to be weird or ruin our awesome friendship
 
Olerica

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Just say, "I enjoy you and our friendship so much. I've developed deeper feelings for you, and I would like to pursue a relationship with you."

Just be straight forward, and give her time to process it and time to think about it. She may not realize that she has feelings, or... she's been waiting for you. And if she isn't interested, you are going away and spending time apart will be good if that's the case. Praying for you, young sir. :)
 
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Myrealname

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Thank you very much this has been encouraging I am going to pray about it tonight and ask god for more wisdom and opportunity!
 
Olerica

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Praying for wisdom is awesome! God promises to give us wisdom when we ask. :)
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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Sometimes all it takes is a simple "I just want you to know that I really care about you" to get things started. It's pretty safe to say to a best friend, but it touches on "more than friends" if she chooses to take it in that light. :)
 
Jilly81

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In addition to it being good that you're leaving if she DOESN'T feel the same*, I don't feel it's bad at all that you're leaving if she DOES feel the same. I rather appreciate the long-distance way of getting to know the men I have; it's not like you can't meet up later :).

*like Olerica said

Also, l agree with what Grace said, and maybe smile extra-nice at her as you're talking, and put emphasis on the "REALLY", to help make sure she gets the idea. Also, hold eye contact with her for longer than normal after you say it :).
 
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Olerica

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Long distance is excellent for developing communication skills without having physical temptations. Just sayin.
 
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Yeh im like 3hours away from my guy friend so when we meet in the city tomoro its not so often because its a long way the distance and effort of us both travelling to meet each other makes us appreciative
 
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I agree with others to look to God. Have you thought that maybe you are experiencing a deep understanding of one another and that it is a fantastic friendship that is meant to be a lifelong friendship without romantic involvement? Search yourself and pray. If she doesnt feel romantic towards you maybe you should be asking yourself why you want to tell her. Is romance a possibility? Or if just getting of your chest then maybe jeopardizing friendship for selfish reasons? Pray for God to search your heart for true intentions?
 
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