Please Help :)) Need Advice

[TruthWord]

To tell a little about myself: I am a young adult Christian woman with high moral (Biblical) values and interests...
I have a long, dramatic, kinda depressing back story but the main focus is; I have never EVER been on a date or have formerly had any guy ever strike up a relationship or date.

And as you can imagine I'm pretty stressed and very much not at ease in trying to put myself out there (even though I would greatly love and honour a Godly, Christ-centered man for myself & relish the desire to one day date/marry)

Anyway, I have a long list of good Godly women that I trust for advice and potential relationship matters-and have some connections with my local BCM group. When I was randomly thumbing through endless friend's posts and links from the BCM, I happened upon the profile of a young man that recently moved 6-hours away from my current location to fulfil his career goal(s), yet was a highly engaged, totally devoted leader in the church group & an avid seeker of Christ.
As I 'investigated' I learned we have so many things in common and that our brains are wired the same. Not that my relationship goals have been to meet a guy through Facebook, I figured it would be neat to ask one of my trusted girlfriends (knows him/friends on FB) about the possibility of getting the chance to know him (long distance of course)

But bc of nonexisted past relationships an my horrible fear of talking to guys (???) I don't know if I should or not!

Any advice is helpful thank you brothers and sisters in The Lord!

 

[Pipp]

I'm 32 and have never been on a date... after years of asking God to give me grace to accept whatever he has for me I've learned to be pretty content waiting. I say go for a friendship and see if it develops into anything more. If you go into it expecting a relationship to bloom and it doesn't then of course it'll hurt, so try to go with the mindset of I'd like to become friends with this guy and find out more about him... and you never know, something lovely might come from it.

 

[garet82]

Well you can start to greet a guy by smile n say hi he wont hurt you if you just say hi or smile. N who knows by sending him say hi you both can talk. But most of all pray coz pray can knocking heaven's door n also ppl hearts' doors

 

[Pemican]

I can understand your anxiety about dating, but you should really down play the significance of it in your own mind. You can learn to relax by going out with groups from work, or church whenever you can. I know a pastor who says it takes about two years minimum of interaction / dating with someone before you really know them. And you really do not want to marry someone you don't know. Another pastor I've known described marriage as an on-going conversation. The conversation started when the couple begin interacting / dating and goes on for the rest of their lives. I would say be cautious but start the conversation with this online guy, on any subject you like. Keep it casual, knowing it takes time to develop trust. If nothing else, it gives you practice in interacting with someone. BTW I noticed you didn't give us your age. I'm not trying to be nosy but it helps to know what age group you're in. Most everyone here is OK with revealing this. Me, I'm 64 and never married.