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I become a christian in 2009 but recently I have trouble against my feeling toward girls. I am not a person with a lot of confidence, but I really want to peruse a relationship with a girl that shares my beliefs. I find out that in my church that there are several girls that meet my requirement. I started to peruse everyone of them in the same time, needless to say it didn't work out very well as I was being struck out by every single girl that i have tried. Things have turned even worse last year when one of them started a relationship, my friendship with that particular brother ceased to exist the moment i know their relationship started and it drained so much of my energy and devotion towards God. Even when they broke up a few months later, she still decided not to start dating with me, which is heartbreaking to me.
This year I heard another girl that i like in church is starting a relationship and that partner is once again not me, I really don't want to go back to what i did last year, not only it takes me away from God, it drains so much of my energy that i could otherwise used on more useful matters. However, i still have the same jealousy as i did last year. Maybe this year instead of doing nothing when the girl is about to start a relationship, maybe i should just tell her right now and hope miracle happens? But then a lot of my good friends in church already suggested that she knew that I am perusing her because my action is so obvious.
Another thought is that if somehow miracle does happen and I do start a relationship with the girl, I decided to start a "no-touch relationship" with my girlfriend, which means no physical contact at all, including hugging, kissing, cuddling or holding hands. Would it be a sign that i respect the girl? Or would she dislike it?
This year I heard another girl that i like in church is starting a relationship and that partner is once again not me, I really don't want to go back to what i did last year, not only it takes me away from God, it drains so much of my energy that i could otherwise used on more useful matters. However, i still have the same jealousy as i did last year. Maybe this year instead of doing nothing when the girl is about to start a relationship, maybe i should just tell her right now and hope miracle happens? But then a lot of my good friends in church already suggested that she knew that I am perusing her because my action is so obvious.
Another thought is that if somehow miracle does happen and I do start a relationship with the girl, I decided to start a "no-touch relationship" with my girlfriend, which means no physical contact at all, including hugging, kissing, cuddling or holding hands. Would it be a sign that i respect the girl? Or would she dislike it?
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