Deal Makers.

[ww_21]

So, the opposite of my deal breaker thread, what are some of the things that would interest you in someone? Mine are:

-Confidence

- Intelligence

- Be kind to me

- Be able to make me a stronger christian (verses distracting me from God)

- Patience

- Honesty

- Humor

- If I feel 'safe' around said person.

Let's hear yours!!

 

[just_monicat]

this is an easy one for me. i actually have this list somewhere, but it's pretty much memorized now.

+is kingdom-minded. seeks to walk in the spirit and has real evidence of fruit in his life. intolerant of sin. values fellowship with christians. has a deep desire to serve and honor God with his life.

+a curious, answer-seeking intellect

+a sense of humor about life. can laugh at one's self, with me, and values the *fun* factor in life

+a co-adventurer--passionate about seeking shared (and individual) dreams, willing to take risks; can value the unconventional or meandering path.

+a gentleness of spirit, in the way he treats me and others.

+capable of open and healthy communication. can resolve conflict without games and tactics. able to apologize when necessary.

+takes personal responsibility to address and work on the issues that stand in the way of being the best version of who he can be--holistic health (spiritual/emotional/mental/physical health). avoids blaming others and circumstances, but holds self accountable for growth.

in other words, doesn't make me or anyone else (personally) responsible for happiness, growth and the like.

 

[wisebeardman]

I honestly have no idea.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Kindness/compassion
Similar habits/interests
Open/honest
Spiritual growth/health

...

Must love slashes/backslashes.

 

[Jullianna]

Must love slashes/backslashes.

Love it <<<<<<<<<<<<<

 

[BananaPie]

A godly man who consistently protects me with his very life has my loyalty and my fixed adoration upon him.

...and he must love chocolates, bananas & the smell of lavender.

 

[Jullianna]

- Compassionate
- Patient
- Protective
- Self-controlled
- A spiritual leader
- Confident
- Excited about life
- Curious
- Wise

 

[keep_on_smiling]

this is an easy one for me. i actually have this list somewhere, but it's pretty much memorized now.

+is kingdom-minded. seeks to walk in the spirit and has real evidence of fruit in his life. intolerant of sin. values fellowship with christians. has a deep desire to serve and honor God with his life.

+a curious, answer-seeking intellect

+a sense of humor about life. can laugh at one's self, with me, and values the *fun* factor in life

+a co-adventurer--passionate about seeking shared (and individual) dreams, willing to take risks; can value the unconventional or meandering path.

+a gentleness of spirit, in the way he treats me and others.

+capable of open and healthy communication. can resolve conflict without games and tactics. able to apologize when necessary.

+takes personal responsibility to address and work on the issues that stand in the way of being the best version of who he can be--holistic health (spiritual/emotional/mental/physical health). avoids blaming others and circumstances, but holds self accountable for growth.

in other words, doesn't make me or anyone else (personally) responsible for happiness, growth and the like.

This all sounds ideal to me

 

[kayem77]

There are many qualities that I could list, but the ones I would appreciate the most would be:
-Purpose driven/Kingdom Driven. This would include passion for fellowship with other Christians beside me, and passion for spiritual growth and spiritual goals.

-Kind and compassionate. A soft heart in a man is one of the things that make me melt. Tender words for those who are hurting, sacrificing time to do something for someone in distress, or simply hugging a child who is crying reveal a heart of gold.

-Sense of humor, especially a witty one. No need to explain.

-A good listener. Someone who actually listens and doesn't just pretend to do so.

-Smart and curious. This to me shows a lively side of him, a side of him excited about life, which I would like to share and enjoy with him.

 

[BananaPie]

Okay, all horsing around aside, I readily agree with ya'll.

Top behaviors I gravitate to are:
1. Genuinely humble
2. Habitually hygienic (mentally & physically)
3. A keen listener who draws logically godly conclusions.

 

[SparkleEyes]

a sense of humor
gentleness
selflessness
kindness
OBVIOUSLY a man who loves God more than he loves me

 

[zeroturbulence]

she's kind

she's easygoing

she's caring even to strangers

she respects the elderly

she likes dark cable tv dramas and medical dramas (dexter, breaking bad, house, greys anatomy, etc..)

she likes cats

she likes goldfish and tropical fish

she likes the outdoors

she likes sightseeing

she likes PLANES!

oh and... she appreciate's nature's beauty

 

[CatHerder]

a godly woman

a confident woman

a strong woman - but not loud or aggressive. Why do so many women thing strong = loud or aggressive? I'm thankful for the examples of godly, strong women here on CC who are still very feminine.

an adventurous woman - What honey? God wants us to go to the Congo? Alrighty, I'll pack the mosquito nets!

a woman who is brave enough to share her hopes and dreams, is able to encourage me in mine, and open enough to discover new dreams together with me

OK - stopping here. I'm sure there's more but I'm beginning to sound like a Hallmark card...

 

[zeroturbulence]

I forgot one very important one..

she likes old songs, especially love songs from the 60's and 70's.. and she has to like elvis too!