Worried about my type of mate

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troubledgirl

troubledgirl

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This is not a search advertisement...

My type of guy is a very peaceful Christian guy who is older than me (but not over 35 years older than me) and AT LEAST 6'1/185cm tall and has black long hair (AT LEAST necklength) and pale or light skin...

I am worried if all the guys of this type what I describe are taken or married... Especially the Christian ones...

Are all the Christian guys of this type what I describe taken or married, or do the single ones of this type what I describe exist too? I really want one of my type what I describe... I am a bit worried because I cannot fall in love with any other type of guy... And please don't tell me anything that I have to fall in love only with the personality or with the thing that how much a guy loves me because I really want the type of guy what I am describing... Will I ever get one who is my type what I am describing?

And again, this is not a search advertisement. I am just asking that if all the Christian guys of the type what I am describing are taken or married, or is there one of my type what I am describing who is single too in this world?

How rare is black long hair that's at least necklength? And how many Christian goths or Christian metalheads exist in the world? And no, goths and metalheads are not always Satan worshippers or Pagans, I know Christian goths and Christian metalheads for sure...

And I am serious and honest by the way, so I hope you don't call me a troll or think that I am a troll, but I am very weird and I have a lot of emotional problems.

And please, read this whole post carefully before you say anything. I don't want you think something about this post that is not true.
 
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MissCris

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I um...I...oh dear.


 
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zaoman32

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There are a lot of people in the world. There are a lot of christian goth/metalhead guys around. No one's judging you, at least not yet.

I will say this, you're not going to get together with anyone or marry anyone who you are not physically attracted to. Physical attraction is big with me, why would God want you with someone who just didn't look that good to you? It just doesn't make sense. You're still pretty young, this look may be attractive to you now, but it also my change in the future, who knows. Either way, don't worry too much about it.
 
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persNickety

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There are a few Christian metal heads still single and I am sure around these parts. However, the specificity (a word right?) you have will make it hard to find. What if you do find a guy who matches all your requirements, however is an abusive man? Or has a personality that conflicts with yours. Values that conflict with yours? Doesn't have feelings for you? When you have a small population pegged as your ideal, it will be very difficult to find.
 
posthuman

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lol i just have to say sorry, i'm over 35, i cut off my hair, and i'm married. actually my wife cut off my hair :)

but there doesn't have to be "many" men that fit the bill. you only need "one" husband after all!

best wishes.
 
troubledgirl

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Thank you, people... Now my hope is restored...

But I am still scared if all the guys of my type who are single are in some Christian denominations, and not like born again non-denominational Christians...
 
CatHerder

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yep. They're taken or married...all of them.
 
rachelsedge

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I tend to find men with darker hair more "attractive" (in quotation marks because there's more to attraction than that) but three of my crushes in college had blonde hair.

Don't box yourself in so much. You never know what you may miss out on by doing so.
 
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MissCris

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Am I the only one disturbed by the "but not over 35 years older than me" bit?

Maybe having the cutoff at 53 is the problem. Maybe all the Christian goths/metal heads of a certain height with long black hair who are still single are in the 54-95 age range :/
 
secularhermit

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troubledgirl said:
This is not a search advertisement...

My type of guy is a very peaceful Christian guy who is older than me (but not over 35 years older than me) and AT LEAST 6'1/185cm tall and has black long hair (AT LEAST necklength) and pale or light skin...

I am worried if all the guys of this type what I describe are taken or married... Especially the Christian ones...

Are all the Christian guys of this type what I describe taken or married, or do the single ones of this type what I describe exist too? I really want one of my type what I describe... I am a bit worried because I cannot fall in love with any other type of guy... And please don't tell me anything that I have to fall in love only with the personality or with the thing that how much a guy loves me because I really want the type of guy what I am describing... Will I ever get one who is my type what I am describing?

And again, this is not a search advertisement. I am just asking that if all the Christian guys of the type what I am describing are taken or married, or is there one of my type what I am describing who is single too in this world?

How rare is black long hair that's at least necklength? And how many Christian goths or Christian metalheads exist in the world? And no, goths and metalheads are not always Satan worshippers or Pagans, I know Christian goths and Christian metalheads for sure...

And I am serious and honest by the way, so I hope you don't call me a troll or think that I am a troll, but I am very weird and I have a lot of emotional problems.

And please, read this whole post carefully before you say anything. I don't want you think something about this post that is not true.
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Oh! I´m glad i´m farly missed :P
 
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persNickety

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I use to only be attracted to dark haired guys. That's my ideal, I told myself. But this past year, I was in a relationship with a light blonde-haired blue-eyed guy. He didn't end up being a mutant so hey, I guess there always that option XD :p
 
troubledgirl

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Well, I can't and I also refuse to fall in love with someone who is not my type...
 
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persNickety

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troubledgirl said:
Well, I can't and I also refuse to fall in love with someone who is not my type...
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That is OK that you have type perference, my only suggestion is to look at males that are closer to your age. The are wolves out there. I wish you well on your journey.
 
Fenner

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troubledgirl said:
Well, I can't and I also refuse to fall in love with someone who is not my type...
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There are a lot of single Christian men. I am sure you'll find one who you find attractive. Do you have a group around for young Christians you can go to? Just to let you know when I was 17 I thought I was going to marry John Taylor from Duran Duran. Tastes change as you age. I married a cute mailman who has no rhythm. That's OK God Blessed me.
 
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