I love those moments when someone (not you, Goji, just people in general) might have assumed things about me... And then certain elements of my life will just blow their theories out of the water.
I actually found the prison ministry to be very cathartic because it sure did stretch my boundaries at the time. I miss it a lot, but stopped because I felt God was saying I needed to get out due to safety concerns. I'll never regret it though and it was one of the most rewarding, albeit it harrowing, times of my life.
I'm so sorry for the bullying and loss you have been through, most especially the loss of your beloved wife. You certainly seem like a very strong and resilient person, and I appreciate your taking the time here to help the rest of us grow through our pains right along with you.