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Let's see, what else...I've been thinking a lot about my singledom state. I've really become alot less of a downer i guess you could say. Becoming more accepting of where i am and whatnot and just working on loving others and growing in God!
Also, this semester I've learned a bit about being more self confidant about myself in all my classes and tackling bigger goals( like going for a masters in a year or so...) Anyhoo...random stuff in life going on with me.
Also, this semester I've learned a bit about being more self confidant about myself in all my classes and tackling bigger goals( like going for a masters in a year or so...) Anyhoo...random stuff in life going on with me.
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Hey I have been thinking a lot lately about being single and how it is a gift right now.
I mean I have been learning to except it for now I have no idea what God might bring my way but I am done with chasing guys around.
So i know what is most important right now and thats to grow in a relationship with God. I know there is a lot of growth i need to do before I just into a relationship or marriage. Also i am realizing benefits of being single right now. I can do Nannying which i have wanted to do for awhile now. I mean it would be hard to nanny once i am married. I want to be able to travel more. I know thats only one but thats one that is pretty clear to me.
I find as a single women its really hard because all my friends are getting married now and it seems like the world is pushing women to go find a mate. Even some christian people. I have liked this guy before any everyone was just telling me i should tell him but i knew God would bring it to him if me and him were ever suppose to be together. I want my love story to be written by God. So i never told him and i have lost those feelings for him. I am not sure what God will do with our friendship because i am still friends with him but whatever he does I know it will be better then if i went ahead and told him about how i felt towards him. I can't imagine what it would have looked like if i did.
I mean I have been learning to except it for now I have no idea what God might bring my way but I am done with chasing guys around.
So i know what is most important right now and thats to grow in a relationship with God. I know there is a lot of growth i need to do before I just into a relationship or marriage. Also i am realizing benefits of being single right now. I can do Nannying which i have wanted to do for awhile now. I mean it would be hard to nanny once i am married. I want to be able to travel more. I know thats only one but thats one that is pretty clear to me.
I find as a single women its really hard because all my friends are getting married now and it seems like the world is pushing women to go find a mate. Even some christian people. I have liked this guy before any everyone was just telling me i should tell him but i knew God would bring it to him if me and him were ever suppose to be together. I want my love story to be written by God. So i never told him and i have lost those feelings for him. I am not sure what God will do with our friendship because i am still friends with him but whatever he does I know it will be better then if i went ahead and told him about how i felt towards him. I can't imagine what it would have looked like if i did.
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Oh haha sorry!
thats funny
well its different for men because they are suppose to be the leaders and the initiators.
although it is good to know when not to initiate something. I mean it also has to be on Gods timing for guys.
I was talking to a lady about 10 years older then me who is married about this and she was saying it was so much harder to be a female. But I sort of disagree because men some times have to deal with rejection. But then again women are not suppose to be initiating a relationship... it seems pretty confusing to me. But I know I am still very young. So its not something I should worry about at all.
I don't think either postion is harder to be in. they both have things easy about them and hard.
for women they will not be rejected if they ask someone out but they could have to wait a very long time for someone to ask them. but it is worth it in the end...
thats funny
well its different for men because they are suppose to be the leaders and the initiators.
although it is good to know when not to initiate something. I mean it also has to be on Gods timing for guys.
I was talking to a lady about 10 years older then me who is married about this and she was saying it was so much harder to be a female. But I sort of disagree because men some times have to deal with rejection. But then again women are not suppose to be initiating a relationship... it seems pretty confusing to me. But I know I am still very young. So its not something I should worry about at all.
I don't think either postion is harder to be in. they both have things easy about them and hard.
for women they will not be rejected if they ask someone out but they could have to wait a very long time for someone to ask them. but it is worth it in the end...
Hey, ain't nothing wrong with a woman initiated some things. Like i dunno...a conversation, gouing out on a date etc etc. i think guys have more of a tendency to BE initiators, but i don't think it is set in stone on some issues ya know? i think it's harder being a guy, but I'm a guy so i can only post from my point of reference lol
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I've been out of town for a while and missed the offers of pet and human dates. When is me and my cat, and the other human and pet owners going out? BTW, Baptist you have a cat too so don't even try to act like you're not in the same boat.(don't take it harshly, just harmless teasing) 
G
being single for me is really hard....this is gonna sound like really cliche...but i am a major hopeless romantic in every sense of the word...
Every time i see a cute guy...and he gives me any attention...I start liking him and thinking about how we would be great together...
Some I pursue...talk to them...and then ruin it by telling htem i like them and them getting scared....otheres i jsut have the oh they are cute for a day and its done...
Im thinking about a couple of things....
If I have all these crushes...will I ever have a real stable relationship...
And i feel like i need a guy to complete me...
The feeling of having someone there
when youre pretty or ugly...happy or sad...lonely or excited...there for whatever...
I long for that...that attention..that love...
Everytime i see a couple...i swoon
any advice...i could really use some...except for the usual just wait and be patient...ive heard that wayyy to often lol
thanks guys
god bless!!!
Every time i see a cute guy...and he gives me any attention...I start liking him and thinking about how we would be great together...
Some I pursue...talk to them...and then ruin it by telling htem i like them and them getting scared....otheres i jsut have the oh they are cute for a day and its done...
Im thinking about a couple of things....
If I have all these crushes...will I ever have a real stable relationship...
And i feel like i need a guy to complete me...
The feeling of having someone there
when youre pretty or ugly...happy or sad...lonely or excited...there for whatever...
I long for that...that attention..that love...
Everytime i see a couple...i swoon
any advice...i could really use some...except for the usual just wait and be patient...ive heard that wayyy to often lol
thanks guys
god bless!!!
I think the line " I need a guy to complete me" is the main thing you want to focus on. Trust me when i know what you mean about being a hopeless romantic lol. When we have that mindset i think we have too much of a subjective mind of what we think we should do in relationship, rather than an objective mind of what we SHOULD do according to God's Word. i think God wants us to be so mindful of Him before we get into relationships. Ya know why? Because once you get into a relationship...it is SO easy to lose track of everything else, including God...
So while you;re being patient( lol I know I HATE hearing that too) build up your mindfulness of God. Become a hopeless romantic towards God! Something like that. Does that help?
So while you;re being patient( lol I know I HATE hearing that too) build up your mindfulness of God. Become a hopeless romantic towards God! Something like that. Does that help?
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i know this is kinda semi pathetic...but im not sure how to do that...focus on God...
what you said really helps...thanks!!!
im not gonna lie...cuase i like to be honest....
I get bored when i try to read the bible...my mind is distracted when i try to pray...i go to mass every sunday...but...i dont feel very close
i love listening to worship songs...but thats about as far as i get...
thanks agian for your advice...
what you said really helps...thanks!!!
im not gonna lie...cuase i like to be honest....
I get bored when i try to read the bible...my mind is distracted when i try to pray...i go to mass every sunday...but...i dont feel very close
i love listening to worship songs...but thats about as far as i get...
thanks agian for your advice...
i know this is kinda semi pathetic...but im not sure how to do that...focus on God...
what you said really helps...thanks!!!
im not gonna lie...cuase i like to be honest....
I get bored when i try to read the bible...my mind is distracted when i try to pray...i go to mass every sunday...but...i dont feel very close
i love listening to worship songs...but thats about as far as i get...
thanks agian for your advice...
what you said really helps...thanks!!!
im not gonna lie...cuase i like to be honest....
I get bored when i try to read the bible...my mind is distracted when i try to pray...i go to mass every sunday...but...i dont feel very close
i love listening to worship songs...but thats about as far as i get...
thanks agian for your advice...
Understandable. I have the attention of a gnat. Going to church and reading your bible isn't necessarily focusing on God. You are doing things that are associated on focusing on God, but it's not the same. It's kinda like...going to a doctor's office and reading medical book does not make you a doctor does it? I'm kinda having a hard time saying this right lol.
In your mindset, when you read the bible, and when you go to church, don't do them because they are things to do, but do them because you know that through those things you can be more like Christ. Why should we do this? Theres no point to anything if you don't know the "why" behind it because that is what gives motivation! The reason we want to become more like Christ is because through his death and ressurection, we have died to sin, and we now live with Him, and he is our intersessor and sacrifice for our sins so that we are made perfect through him because of our faith! Because of that we are appreciative and love God and do what he says in the bible to live a life like Christ. Love is the key motivator!
So, basically you have to get the order right. You have to establish your relationship with God up first in order to WANT to do those things. My dad never MADE me read the bible. He just told me it was important to do and that I should and he left it at that. I saw that through him focusing his life in what God wants and through that i saw that focusing on a relationship with God was important and it worked so I wanted that. So I have faith that through Jesus I would be saved and establish my relationship with God and through my appreciation and love of that i read the bible and went to church because I wanted to increase my understanding on that relationship.
It's kind of like the same way when getting to know a guy. How do you focus on a guy? You get to know him because you want to get to know him and you focus your attention on that. It's the same for God, except we have a manual that tells us how, and things about him. If only all guys and girls came with manuals lol
I can never summarize this like this. I'm horrible at it lol. I hope this helps!
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Hey Kakashi
that was really good information I was gonna reply almost the same thing for the first part but then i read your reply and decided not too.
and glfjb trust me a have the same problem sometimes but i find with a lot of prayer and reading it is getting better and God is really working on me a lot. I have realized a life of singleness is better then a life without God and I want God to fill that spot for me right now and well any relationship needs to be built around God so he will always fill that spot in my heart. I still find myself falling for guys sometimes but they can't give me what my heart truly desires. it took a long time to realize it. well I will be praying about that situation and i hope to talk with you more about it if you would like. I totally understand were you are coming from though. Its hard sometimes.
that was really good information I was gonna reply almost the same thing for the first part but then i read your reply and decided not too.
and glfjb trust me a have the same problem sometimes but i find with a lot of prayer and reading it is getting better and God is really working on me a lot. I have realized a life of singleness is better then a life without God and I want God to fill that spot for me right now and well any relationship needs to be built around God so he will always fill that spot in my heart. I still find myself falling for guys sometimes but they can't give me what my heart truly desires. it took a long time to realize it.
well I will be praying about that situation and i hope to talk with you more about it if you would like. I totally understand were you are coming from though. Its hard sometimes.