How to identify the right partner for love among your female friends?

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trofimus

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I think it's fine, and reasonable, for everyone to feel some affection for their homeland.

I think this is normal.

I think what is abnormal is when people do not.
If you do not feel any affection for your homeland, you stop taking care of it.


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On the other hand, its a sign of a weak mind, to have a need to identify with "powerful organization", mostly with nationality, state, country.

We must have in mind that "our country is not best in everything", that other countries have something they are "best in" too and mostly, that we are not from this Earth and our citizenship is in heaven :)
 

trofimus

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Second, why do people think Americans should know every detail of every other country?
Nobody thinks that.

But what is quite visible, I think, is an arrogance of many Americans who simply think that they are the norm of everything and everybody else must have it in the same way or else its automatically wrong.

And, maybe, just maybe, Americans happen to be especially loud about what they do not know...?

Third, maybe a different education system. While people in Europe, Asia etc must memorize from elementary schools facts about the world, its history, geography etc, I heard (I am not sure if it is true) that in the USA ppl are more learning how to think and how to express their opinions than memorizing facts. To be "individual". Which can be better for everyday living, but, of course, you lack some knowledge about the world what other people know, then. If you are not interested in it later.
 
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LaVieEnRose

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It's ironic that your sentence, "A typical illiterate...." is missing a subject and is therefore incomplete. Perhaps you're an atypical illiterate.
It was not a sentence. Please do not be a typical boring Canadian and bore us all to death with grammar corrections.

Message board forums do not require formal writing.
 
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LaVieEnRose

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Nobody thinks that.

But what is quite visible, I think, is an arrogance of many Americans who simply think that they are the norm of everything and everybody else must have it in the same way or else its automatically wrong.

And, maybe, just maybe, Americans happen to be especially loud about what they do not know...?

Third, maybe a different education system. While people in Europe, Asia etc must memorize from elementary schools facts about world, geography etc, I heard (I am not sure if it is true) that in the USA you are more learning how to think than memorizing facts. Which can be better for everyday living, but, of course, you lack some knowledge about the world what other people know.
The OP originally asked which one of the girls in his friendship group should he date.

Now, I think the “spirit” in which the OP asked this question escaped some users who responded to the thread (including myself, upon first reading).

The OP assumes the girls in his friendship group want to date him- this is arrogant and presumptuous, regardless from which country a person may hail.

NONE of the girls in his friendship group may even want to date him. They may all think he is undateable for whatever reason.

YOU said that I was being an arrogant American and not taking his Philippine culture into account.

This makes me very sad for Philippine women if part of their cultural traditions include dating men a woman does not like simply because he asked for a date.

Hopefully, this has clarified the situation.

I freely admit I am extremely ignorant about Philippine culture or Asian culture as a whole. My interests lie with the occident more than with the orient. I do not apologize for this, as I don’t find Asian culture all that interesting.
 

trofimus

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I freely admit I am extremely ignorant about Philippine culture or Asian culture as a whole. I do not apologize for this, as I don’t find Asian culture all that interesting.
Ok...

Which cultures except of your own do you find interesting?
 
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LaVieEnRose

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Ok...

Which cultures except of your own do you find interesting?
I am an anglophile, I have been from a child. I find Norway interesting, Germany, Ireland, Scotland.
 
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LaVieEnRose

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What especially about Norwegian culture do you like?
I suppose it is quiz time- let us quiz the ignorant American to see if she knows anything or is a poseur.

Some of my ancestry is Norwegian. I am interested in ship building, and how some of the buildings were made with ships turned upside down as roofs, Viking culture, the althing, and how Norwegian women ran things when their husbands were a- viking. I read Kristin Lavransdatter.

Now, contemporary Norwegian culture- I know very little. But I do know they have the most humane prison in the world, and I think all civilized countries should model prisons after this model as it is so humane.

I know that Norway and other Scandinavian countries are routinely chosen as the “happiest country” in the world, because of low crime rates, high literacy rates (I believe Finland is the most literate country in the world). I THINK Norway has an excellent economy, or they did recently.
 

Lynx

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On the other hand, its a sign of a weak mind, to have a need to identify with "powerful organization", mostly with nationality, state, country.

We must have in mind that "our country is not best in everything", that other countries have something they are "best in" too and mostly, that we are not from this Earth and our citizenship is in heaven :)
On the other, other hand, it is always possible to find in people signs of something you can disparage if you look hard enough. So now nationalism is a sign of a weak mind? Hmm... I thought atheists claimed religion was a sign of a weak mind. You know, those silly christians have to find something they can lean on, something to take comfort in as they deal with the big, wide world. If you look hard enough you can find something in anybody that you can claim is a sign of a weak mind.

I guess the important thing is now you have found a way to feel superior to people who like the country they live in.
 

Tommy379

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All of Europe would be speaking German, and the Filipinos would be under the rule of imperial Japan, if it weren't for the weak minds of Americans.
 

Lynx

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Oh hush Tommy. What do you know anyway? Everybody knows Virginians are weak minded. All that green around them affects their minds after a while. :p

(Yeah Tennessee has a lot of greenery too, but that's beside the point...)
 

Tommy379

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Virginia is green from the blood of our enemies, but we are weak minded.
 

Lynx

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My but we have strayed far afield of the original thread topic! Being unable to focus on a topic is THE definite sign of being weak minded. I guess that means trofimus is more weak minded than all the rest because he got us off on a nationalism tangent.

OP I recommend finding a partner for love that is the diametric opposite of almost everybody you have seen post in this thread, including myself. You definitely do not want to marry anybody who is anything like most of us.
 

trofimus

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On the other, other hand, it is always possible to find in people signs of something you can disparage if you look hard enough. So now nationalism is a sign of a weak mind? Hmm... I thought atheists claimed religion was a sign of a weak mind. You know, those silly christians have to find something they can lean on, something to take comfort in as they deal with the big, wide world. If you look hard enough you can find something in anybody that you can claim is a sign of a weak mind.

I guess the important thing is now you have found a way to feel superior to people who like the country they live in.
A need of an individual to identify with some powerful organization is a common known sociological/psychological phenomenon.

I have it, you have it. No need to talk about superiority.

The most fearful, though, are the most nationalistic. A strong individual does not care too much if he lives in Austria, Germany or Italy. Its all temporal. But we are eternal.
 

Mel85

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Is that why you are angry with God ?
Cos He united you two for real with a dream and all that but the evil one mislead her heart ?
That happens on daily basis! Now tell me that hearts cannot be influenced by Spirit after all that which happened!

Although you went against what i shared i will share again for your sake cos i really want you recovered.
1. The source of happiness is not you alone, happiness is fruit of the Holy Spirit.
2. You think that God didn't gave me people that strayed into evil for whom I pray to this very day?

Judah was one of the given to Jesus and he sold Him for 30 silver coins.
Eve was truly given to Adam and Adam to Eve but she hearkened to the serpent and Adam to her.

Grow in the Word Tommy, don't drawn into the bitterness.
I'm saying this for your sake to guard your heart. I don't share non-sense or falsities.

People sinned against God all the time and He restores them again and again.
Nothing is too hard for God.
God is able.

Every living being not grown in Maturity in God is in danger of falling away.

Can you make by thought a single hair on your head white?
Listen to me and don't harden your heart, don't worry, do what is right in the sight of God. He is more loving and more important than all and He will surely bless you.
Relieve the oppressed, feed the hungry, seek justice for the poor, keep His commandments. Do all that and those that left you will crawl in anguish in front of you.

it's not about 2000 years or 20000 years, God is One, Eternal, never changing, forever able, just because there are no records doesn't mean God does not bless and give in secret. He is able to this very day and God and many around me be my witness of the miracles i have seen.
God is able with power greater than imagination and the world.

The resurrection of Moses was revealed through Stephen by the Spirit of Truth way after it happened.

God unites his children in His Kingdom after they are scattered. You will get to know what this means.
I pray that God teach your children in secret so that they come and be with you. Just do what is right in His sight, not fasting with starvation, fasting with doing righteous works through Faith in His Word and teaching.

p.s. I don't have miserable sexual frustrations, God provides for my needs and i delight in Him.
God be my witness i will consider you as a brother in Christ for the time being but if you mock me and offend me for calling out people that say: God is not able, human rights blah blah, people that haven't heard of God... i will consider you as a heathen. Don't take me wrong, you might say i don't need all this, I don't need Faith, all I do is suffer... but you do.

everyone does, this is a Christian site.

I speak the Truth: God have destined people to the sword and to what so not, destining two souls together is hard ? And I fear God as much as I delight in Him.

don't say why are you giving me winter after summer, or hunger after food, even harder times are coming for the whole world and blessings for all His Children that are grafted into the Holy Tree of Israel, His Children won't see night nor hunger nor thirst nor winter anymore with Him.
“The resurrection of Moses was revealed by Stephen....”

Sorry, but you lost me there. What does that even mean bro?
 

Dino246

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“The resurrection of Moses was revealed by Stephen....”

Sorry, but you lost me there. What does that even mean bro?
Being lost in this regard may be the wiser course.
 

Dino246

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It was not a sentence. Please do not be a typical boring Canadian and bore us all to death with grammar corrections.

Message board forums do not require formal writing.
Please do not be a stereotypical American, miss both the setup and the pun, and then get haughty about it.
 

Lynx

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Please do not be a stereotypical American, miss both the setup and the pun, and then get haughty about it.
Stereotypical Americans don't have time for any of that setup and pun stuff. They are way too busy with very important matters. Very, very important matters.

Fortunately I know very few stereotypical Americans. Just as I know very few stereotypical Mexicans, Scotsmen or French. Most of the people I know are just individual people.