Reasons why you should never chase a guy who runs away

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Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
I think the key words here are "running away". Let them go. I want a man who will come toward me and stay there.
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I should elaborate a bit and say that running away isn't always a bad thing. Not everyone is going to be right for everyone else. I just want to be the with someone who really wants to be with me. The worst thing that can happen in a relationship is to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
 
secularhermit

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JesusLives said:
SH - my friend.....it is o.k. for you to disagree with me however in my 35 years of single life the guys were running away from commitment. But then after being married once and a divorce I was afraid of commitment too......

So I would say that most guys fall in that category. You, tourist and your friend you spoke of believe me are the exception to the rule not the norm....
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I believed you now, sister.

And if that one how asked "how much have you saved" run, I want him to run the more; because people are chase at their pocket convenience and without traveling that far I have learned "people could be the same", no matter I´m labeled myself as Christian, because I could be preying on people as those wolves who fled from you.

I said I didn´t believe that point and know that I believed, less I will disagree with you, because I was short-sighted.

:cool:
 
secularhermit

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
I should elaborate a bit and say that running away isn't always a bad thing. Not everyone is going to be right for everyone else. I just want to be the with someone who really wants to be with me. The worst thing that can happen in a relationship is to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
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Could it be something written like the "prodigal spouse"?

One friend is dealing with that idea and I see his ex is giving baby steps to it...

I don´t care I´m liked or read... But that is true!
 
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Grace-Like-Rain said:
I think the key words here are "running away". Let them go. I want a man who will come toward me and stay there.
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Rain or shine!

Under a cold rain.

Is it only a feminine thought?

I bet everybody´s heart is the same inside.

:eek:
 
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JesusLives said:
SH - my friend.....it is o.k. for you to disagree with me however in my 35 years of single life the guys were running away from commitment. But then after being married once and a divorce I was afraid of commitment too......

So I would say that most guys fall in that category. You, tourist and your friend you spoke of believe me are the exception to the rule not the norm....
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Another thing I knew, personally, most people are interested in receiving the benefits... At my age, grown old, I see those I liked are few now... I´m happy I´m getting old and learning another way... Kids are those to help, now.
 
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Can't get into a relationship with someone who runs away because the faster you chase after them, the faster they'll run.

... Or maybe it's my intimidating looks that scare them off.
 
secularhermit

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vic1980 said:
Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

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Proverbs 19:14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.

God is Good always :)
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What´s the best version I can use?

Pro 18:22 If you find a wife, you have found something good. She shows that the LORD is happy with you. (ERV)

1) Within the context it´s obvious men has "the need" but girls have the right to choosing.

2) Old times Fathers gave their sons their wives, but TODAY there are a lot of countries where families picked husbands and wives to keep their "culture" on, such as those in the East (Hindu people have written a lot about it).

3) Isaac was blessed from his father´s wealth.

4) Jacob toiled 14 years to get Rachel (that´s the manly Biblical example I like the more)

Because Adam had no choice (5) and probably received the BEST, as Prov 18:22 said.

If I were 20 or 30 I will wait for that prudent (Prov 19:14), but I´m done: I lived enough.

:eek:
 
gypsygirl

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when this thread got changed from "reasons why you shouldn't chase a guy" to "reasons never to chase a guy who runs away" it changes the entire meaning of this thread. and one that i'm really confused by.

what i said in my comment in the previous thread is different than this thread title, and when you chose to quote me as your OP then change the title to this, you've used my own words to infer something that i didn't say. good gravy.

and adding that phrase "who runs away" makes this a second version of your original "disappearing" thread.

if you need reasons to know why you shouldn't chase a man who disappears on you--we've got a whole new problem.

honestly, it seems a little like a cheap shot to change the title (and meaning) of a thread after people have actually answered in the thread.
 
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secularhermit

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JesusLives said:
SH - my friend.....it is o.k. for you to disagree with me however in my 35 years of single life the guys were running away from commitment. But then after being married once and a divorce I was afraid of commitment too......

So I would say that most guys fall in that category. You, tourist and your friend you spoke of believe me are the exception to the rule not the norm....
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As a matter of research I have read about those animals that are in a zoo get bored soon to get food (sometimes they get sick) for the limitation they don´t have their natural environment and, reading this: " If the guy does pursue you then that means he is interested in you." and almost sure human kind has an atavic system of "rewards" that seems reluctant to die after cave men...

I´ll find the answers one way or another, because that issue is not yet dead, particularly when divorces are increasing (no matter I would say)
 
gypsygirl

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JesusLives said:
SH - my friend.....it is o.k. for you to disagree with me however in my 35 years of single life the guys were running away from commitment. But then after being married once and a divorce I was afraid of commitment too......

So I would say that most guys fall in that category. You, tourist and your friend you spoke of believe me are the exception to the rule not the norm....
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FYI, i also disagree as that's been my exact opposite experience. if anything, i've seen guys way too eager to be committed, and i think your statement is way off.
 
Tinkerbell725

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gypsygirl said:
when this thread got changed from "reasons why you shouldn't chase a guy" to "reasons never to chase a guy who runs away" it changes the entire meaning of this thread. and one that i'm really confused by.

what i said in my comment in the previous thread is different than this thread title, and when you chose to quote me as your OP then change the title to this, you've used my own words to infer something that i didn't say. good gravy.

and adding that phrase "who runs away" makes this a second version of your original "disappearing" thread.

if you need reasons to know why you shouldn't chase a man who disappears on you--we've got a whole new problem.

honestly, it seems a little like a cheap shot to change the title (and meaning) of a thread after people have actually answered in the thread.
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Im not too good with words and was not able to say clearly what I meant but it was really what I meant. Hope you understand, I apologize for misleading you...
 
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Why you should never chase a guy who runs away? Just the thought of chasing or running makes me tired. I'm not Mulan, more like a Sleeping Beauty over here :p In all seriousness though, because your better than that is my answer. If he doesn't want to stay or didn't, he's not worth anymore energy. Don't be a Maleficent and run for him just for him to take your wings away(the thing that matters most to you), fly the other way!
 
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