Seeking Woman Under 30 for Christian Marriage

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28Man_Seeking_Wife

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I'm not one to be overly discreet, so here goes :) I've been day dreaming of finding my wife since I was sixteen years old (no joke)! I've looked up at the moon and prayed for whoever this beautiful person is, many times. I figure since it's been a long time searching, maybe I'll be meeting her soon! That would be awesome :) An important quality that I am attracted to in a Christian woman is a mature acceptance of the condition of imperfection in oneself and in others. I think this is what allows the possibility for unconditional love. I'm interested in knowing what anyone thinks of this [especially if you are a woman under 30! haha] Feel free to inbox me!
 
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Pie

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This sounds desperate...... Nothing wrong with looking but posting ads? Haha. =X Put your focus on God first and foremost... develop friendships and trust God to bring the right person into your life. If you get desperate, you may just jump into a relationship that really you would have been better off not having.
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife

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@ Pie, I should specify, when I wrote "I'm interested in knowing what anyone thinks of this" I did not mean I am seeking anyone's approval or opinion as to whether or not I ought to be posting an ad like this. Neither did I say anything which would grant your insinuation that I do not have (or seek) friends and relationships in real life outside the internet, and there is no evidence that would grant your insinuation that I do not have a living relationship with God. I was referring to the actual meaning of the content that I wrote, I am curious to know if anyone thinks along these same lines as well, or can relate to me, etc.

Thank you for laughing at me and calling me "desperate" though! I'm sure you have a noble intention, no worries :D I'm the sort of person who is simply free-spirited enough to put an ad up like this, and I could care less if not everyone else would do this themselves. As I said, I was not asking about that... I know plenty of dudes who have met a bodacious Christian-hottie wife online, so I'm optimistic! Jesus said to Peter and James and John after he resurrected: "cast your nets out into the deep." I live in 2014, so some of my "nets" are made of the internet :)
 
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Pie

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28Man_Seeking_Wife said:
@ Pie, I should specify, when I wrote "I'm interested in knowing what anyone thinks of this" I did not mean I am seeking anyone's approval or opinion as to whether or not I ought to be posting an ad like this. Neither did I say anything which would grant your insinuation that I do not have (or seek) friends and relationships in real life outside the internet, and there is no evidence that would grant your insinuation that I do not have a living relationship with God. I was referring to the actual meaning of the content that I wrote, I am curious to know if anyone thinks along these same lines as well, or can relate to me, etc.

Thank you for laughing at me and calling me "desperate" though! I'm sure you have a noble intention, no worries :D I'm the sort of person who is simply free-spirited enough to put an ad up like this, and I could care less if not everyone else would do this themselves. As I said, I was not asking about that... I know plenty of dudes who have met a bodacious Christian-hottie wife online, so I'm optimistic! Jesus said to Peter and James and John after he resurrected: "cast your nets out into the deep." I live in 2014, so some of my "nets" are made of the internet :)
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By friendships... I meant develop friendships with girls before pursuing relationships. Friendships usually turn into better relationships than "dating" anyways. I never insinuated you didn't have a real life.. You made those unwarranted assertions all on your own. =)

"Bodacious Christian-hottie wife?" Yeah I'll say no more.
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife

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The charge of "insinuations" that I enumerated were all conveyed in the term "desperate" which you used (which is not a term that is neutral of those negative connotations).

On a different note, you say "Friendships usually turn into better relationships than "dating" anyways." I am sorry that this has been your experience. I personally do not place a dichotomy between friendship and dating. I actually hope that the woman I date and marry will be very good friends with me, my best friend in fact!

And as to your last comment as per my phrase "Bodacious Christian-hottie wife," I do not understand your tone. Do you see it as problematic that there are attractive qualities that I admire in a woman's beauty, and that I look up to my friends who have met women with such qualities online? Frankly, your overall tone in responding to my ad has a passive-aggressive quality about it (which incidentally is definitely not something I find "bodacious").
 
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Pie

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28Man_Seeking_Wife said:
The charge of "insinuations" that I enumerated were all conveyed in the term "desperate" which you used (which is not a term that is neutral of those negative connotations).

On a different note, you say "Friendships usually turn into better relationships than "dating" anyways." I am sorry that this has been your experience. I personally do not place a dichotomy between friendship and dating. I actually hope that the woman I date and marry will be very good friends with me, my best friend in fact!

And as to your last comment as per my phrase "Bodacious Christian-hottie wife," I do not understand your tone. Do you see it as problematic that there are attractive qualities that I admire in a woman's beauty, and that I look up to my friends who have met women with such qualities online? Frankly, your overall tone in responding to my ad has a passive-aggressive quality about it (which incidentally is definitely not something I find "bodacious").
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Well, I won't deny it has been passive-aggressive because I can't take it seriously. Though my first response was sincere, especially pertaining to the "you may just jump into a relationship that really you would have been better off not having" part.
I never said there was a dichotomy between friendship and dating... What I meant was... Oh nevermind.

Good luck finding your bodacious Christian hottie wife! ;) I'll leave you to it now. =)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Snap! I'm too late, and here i was hoping we could get married :(
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife

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Plainly said, you were implying that I simply want to get hitched without having any organic order of development, that is what you meant (what you have been assuming all along).. Thanks for the well wishes, I am sure it is totally sincere, and that it harbors no passive-aggression or sarcasm :D
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife

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What is up with the implicit ridicule I'm facing? Is there something un-christian or ignoble in me making use of the internet to find a woman to become a saint with through love? I wonder why these women clicked on the title of my post in the first place, if they are so disinterested in meeting a man online themselves?
 
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Ugly

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Actually this is not a dating site. And the site owner doesn't want it used in that way.

And you haven't begun to face ridicule with your trollish post. Posts like this never do well here because of the ridiculousness of the things you said.

Personally i'm waiting for missing rip responses.
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife said:
What is up with the implicit ridicule I'm facing? Is there something un-christian or ignoble in me making use of the internet to find a woman to become a saint with through love? I wonder why these women clicked on the title of my post in the first place, if they are so disinterested in meeting a man online themselves?
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It's quite simple. You posted on a Christian fellowship site, in a forum, basically announcing that you'd consider all comers for the position of wife. And you didn't even post it in the singles forum. This is not a dating site. In fact there are plenty of dating sites out there with women lined up in profiles just waiting for your perusal. But your quickness to take offense and the fact that your top stated qualities in the original post were a willingness to accept your imperfections and unconditional love should make anyone think twice. Are you sure you are ready for the responsibility of marriage?

Why the ladies click on it when we're not interested? We like to be amused and entertained. These kind of threads are a dime a dozen but always interesting to see the specifics of which way he's going to spin it. And on a slightly more serious note, because we care about our brothers in Christ and want to help them focus on God and become godly men and eventually husbands. Read this thread http://christianchat.com/christian-...le-christian-romance-persanal-matchmaker.html to see an example of a similar thread that started poorly but seems to be turning out all right.
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife

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cinder said:
It's quite simple. You posted on a Christian fellowship site, in a forum, basically announcing that you'd consider all comers for the position of wife. And you didn't even post it in the singles forum. This is not a dating site. In fact there are plenty of dating sites out there with women lined up in profiles just waiting for your perusal. But your quickness to take offense and the fact that your top stated qualities in the original post were a willingness to accept your imperfections and unconditional love should make anyone think twice. Are you sure you are ready for the responsibility of marriage?

Why the ladies click on it when we're not interested? We like to be amused and entertained. These kind of threads are a dime a dozen but always interesting to see the specifics of which way he's going to spin it. And on a slightly more serious note, because we care about our brothers in Christ and want to help them focus on God and become godly men and eventually husbands. Read this thread http://christianchat.com/christian-...le-christian-romance-persanal-matchmaker.html to see an example of a similar thread that started poorly but seems to be turning out all right.
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You say that in these forums, "we care about our brothers in Christ," I was just informed by "Senior" (above) that the people who run this site do not consider Catholics to be Christians. What a joke of a "Christian" site this is if that is true.
 
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GodIsSalvation

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Heh I would wager everyone that is young adult single here daydreams of finding a good woman to marry, or be they a woman a good man. And maybe even the married folk remember their young angst before they found their spouse. However I cannot tell you if this be the best place to look for her. However maybe look at things differently, maybe this be a good place to ask some advice from good people.

Everyone here be spread out over the face of the earth lol. Just common sense due to practical reasons that this not be a good place to date. However maybe you get good advice here of what to look for in an honorable women and what they like to do and what makes them happy and really the biggest question of, where to meet them in your locale. Or perhaps even transcending marriage, maybe it is best not to marry. This maybe depends on each person.

Lol if I be judgemental on ye brother 28Man I judge ye just lonely brother but I think you might be okay at heart just needing a little understanding. I say just be patient. Heh I get what you mean by you allow "possibility of unconditional love", the woman kind is lovely, one could be happy with just about any good woman. However this ain't a small world after all lol, and an honorable man can't marry more than one lol, so its all about waiting or finding that right one and then staying with her no matter what, even death if one chooses to marry. If one chooses not to marry, hmm, that be a question I oft ask myself but is prolly another set of topics itself.
 
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All the best man, just wish that you can lower the age to at least 16-20 years for a person at your age, just an advice
 
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28Man this is a difficult one because we need to respect the rules of engagement but if anyone did inbox you as you made it clear in your thread then take it private, maybe in your personal email if they don't want that as well, all the best from me again.
 
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28Man_Seeking_Wife said:
I'm not one to be overly discreet, so here goes :) I've been day dreaming of finding my wife since I was sixteen years old (no joke)! I've looked up at the moon and prayed for whoever this beautiful person is, many times. I figure since it's been a long time searching, maybe I'll be meeting her soon! That would be awesome :) An important quality that I am attracted to in a Christian woman is a mature acceptance of the condition of imperfection in oneself and in others. I think this is what allows the possibility for unconditional love. I'm interested in knowing what anyone thinks of this [especially if you are a woman under 30! haha] Feel free to inbox me!
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no dating...
and no, your semantics won't save you. :rolleyes:
 
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