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Kdade

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Hello everyone
I feels depressed as I tried not to watch porno later on I fell again. Now I feel hopeles because I stopped watching it for about 2 months but when I force any difficulty in life, I have irresistable desire to watch to relieve my tension. Other thing, when I see very attractive woman, I have repeated thoughts compulse me to watch porno and maturbate. I started watching since my age was 15. I feel guilty and sinner. Please if you have any advice I ready to hear and I will do it
 

stonesoffire

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My advice is to ask members of your church to lay hands on you. You need a deliverance when something is too strong to resist. That’s what happens with opening the door to evil, evil comes pushing in to take over.

But, fear not little flock for it’s the Fathers good pleasure to give you the kingdom. The kingdom of God is to have the King rule on the throne of your heart.

If your church does not lay on hands? Find one that will.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Hello everyone
I feels depressed as I tried not to watch porno later on I fell again. Now I feel hopeles because I stopped watching it for about 2 months but when I force any difficulty in life, I have irresistable desire to watch to relieve my tension. Other thing, when I see very attractive woman, I have repeated thoughts compulse me to watch porno and maturbate. I started watching since my age was 15. I feel guilty and sinner. Please if you have any advice I ready to hear and I will do it
As a teenager I delt with this because I thought it was normal. My friends was watching pornography and even my dad I caught watching it a few times.

What changed my heart was learning how much of the sex trade is linked to pornography, how much abortion clinics are funded by pornographic media organizations, effects on society it brings, realizing that is someone's daughter on the screen made in the image of God having to preform in such degrading situations and if you have a girlfriend or wife the psychological effects on them can be heartbreaking.

I gave it up back in Highschool as I started dating my now wife. Of all those reasons the number 1 reason that I couldn't stomach was breaking her heart.

Your brain has been rewired like a addict to a drug. To detox you must get rid of any source, throw it away, block it, put a random lock code, and acknowledge the times when you are most tempted. Locate what triggers the hormones like if a provocative image in a magazine and do your best to remove triggers or atleast limit them.

You must replace the habit with a good habit until your brain rewired itself. Or until your new habit takes over.

Here is a good resource to download.

https://www.josh.org/resources/apologetics/research

Scroll to the bottom and you will see The Porn Epidemic


Now stop feeling guilty and regretful. You have repented so move on and do better. You will lose some but win some. Obviously if you over time are worse or stagnant then it could be time to seek professional help. Remember the Devil wants you to stay in guilt in which keeps you from God even longer. Jesus has already paid for your sins so all your doing is fixing your relationship that was separated or damaged by the sin.

A teenager's hormones is just as powerful as a actual intoxicating drug. So it isnt abnormal once you get to that point your no longer making logical choices. So until your brain is rewired you must make every precaution to limit this.

But your also a Male and most males are attracted to the opposite sex. This is normal but where does your mind go? Every action comes from a thought or thoughts. Control your thoughts and usually the action will not follow.

Private message me if you need to chat more. This is by percentage unfortunately and largely a sin many Christians struggle with both men and women. So we treat it like any other sin. No shame gaming or judgement but only love, guidance and accountability.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Get counseling. Porn addiction, in the brain, is very similar to drug addiction. You'll need help from someone other than yourself or your own willpower.
 
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Locoponydirtman

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You do need help brother. This is a hard battle. One thing you can do is when temptation is get busy with something else. You need some positive constructive activity in your life and you need mentor; someone you can call when you are under temptation.
 

Mii

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you NEED blocking software. That's one of the BEST first steps.

A simple search should bring up what you need. I would highly recommend that you have someone else do it for you if it's password protected. Or do a long string that you write down and destroy the source once you have it set.

The free stuff is something to try first.


I'm not ready to go in depth into this topic at present but yes I've had similar stuff, most people my age have. I haven't met anyone that has not. Hopefully parents these days have a bit more wisdom these days...



You started at 15 and are how old now? It would be helpful to give you advice.

It is not ever too late to stop. You will have to expect a 50% rise in testosterone, which will make things harder initially but you MUST redirect it toward other things such as running, physical exercise. You have to blow off steam somehow and exercise is one of the few ways.

Also reading scripture has always taken the edge off for me. It requires you be disciplined enough to do it though when you feel that way.

I would encourage you to hold your breath, get up and take a walk. Sitting still you are like a sitting duck, unless that stillness is "abiding" in his presence.

The initial urge lasts only a few minutes. Explicit material is very much instant gratification so you have to combat that by moving around and redirecting your attention...a BLOCK like I said is the most effective way to cut off access, but that only works if you work it and are committed. I personally don't have a smartphone for a reason. You could also consider not having a personal PC and only using the library if it's within walking/biking distance. If it's a short drive but longer than those two, this is a harder choice, that's kind of the crossroads I'm at personally. What all do you really need to do on a computer that you need PC? Until you figure that out I would recommend considering not having one. That's a serious step for some people but consider what you are fighting for.

You will come up with reasons as to why you "need" a computer...it would be wise to clue your parents in to the situation. Awkward yes, but it will help out considerably if you have "at home" help. Like giving them your computer after dark. Unless you don't live at home.



That will only marginally reduce urges, it WILL reduce allowing some pretty sinister things into your mind.

It won't stop dreams, and it won't stop personal gratification. Cutting out Porn is the first step. First cut off "easy access" on your personal computer AND your phone. Then we can continue.

I'll probably PM you about it soon but let me know you're still around.

I think this is why we need a Men's Forum.


It's bad across the board, Christian or not. Plenty of worldly support.
 

Lukwiz

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Don't neglect to see the blessings that invariably come from owning up to the guilt (disdain for sinning willfully), seeing how they were there all along, our Lord mercifully bringing them to the surface in moments time.
 

TheLearner

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Hello everyone
I feels depressed as I tried not to watch porno later on I fell again. Now I feel hopeles because I stopped watching it for about 2 months but when I force any difficulty in life, I have irresistable desire to watch to relieve my tension. Other thing, when I see very attractive woman, I have repeated thoughts compulse me to watch porno and maturbate. I started watching since my age was 15. I feel guilty and sinner. Please if you have any advice I ready to hear and I will do it
When you see a hot lady, pray for her and her family to come to Christ or for them to become closer with him.

Internet Porn leads to a physical dis-function you don't want to have. There is lots of research.
 
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tasha66

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Porn is everywhere. It's not just internet porn or magazines. There's soft core and hard core porn. There is 'soft' core porn in movies - you can't watch a movie - especially American movies - without having to see 'that sex scene', which I for one dread. I went to get some DVDs the other week at my public library, and I struggled to find an adult one that WASN'T 'R' or 'M' rated. Most had warnings for sex/adult scenes, or violence. I ended up looking in the kids section for movies. Sex scenes are so staged and put on, & I for one just laugh at the poses they pull because they are so far gone from real life & so ridiculous looking. You see porn in advertising billboard signs, in car ad signs, on TV & TV ads - which to me, are the most damaging ones as most ads are freely broadcast during the day when young kids are around. It is so accessible, that people don't even realise they are surrounded by it. Most actresses have admitted that they have had to perform sexual acts with producers or backers of films, or you don't get the roles (and not just in the sex industry). And look at all the lawsuits going on now due to sexual assault allegations in the film industry.
It is apparently the biggest and most booming industry in the world, especially with online sales, which is really sad when you think about it.
Most men have admitted to watching/accessing porn. But it is now a big problem with women to.
Most sex scenes in movies and porn don't show any real, true loving between the partners - it's impersonal. That is what's wrong. The porn industry know that people have desires and play on them. They know people are lonely. They know lots of people struggle to meet someone in the real world, so it's easier to chat anonymously on the net. They know young people will get sucked in, because they are filled with curiosity. There are no safeguards for young people on the net, unless parents actively police their kids usage, & that isn't possible when kids can go over friends houses and see stuff on the net, or school etc.
It has been proved in many studies that porn changes the chemistry of one's brain. The serial killer, Ted Bundy, was brought up with porn through his grandfather. Most sexual offenders have either been exposed to porn from a young age, or have been introduced by friends from when they were young. Some have been brought up in very strict religious families, and see sex and loving as 'wrong', so view porn as an outlet for these feelings.
As others have posted, there is much exploitation in this business. Young girls & boys get kidnapped for sex, and are sometimes changed inside so they can't escape. Many won't escape after a while, as they are given food and shelter, & think they are loved. Porn leads to other things, such as drug use & exploitation of otherrs, & more addiction; as others have said porn can become an addiction too. And do you honestly think that all of the young people on those sites is over 18? Some of these girls have spoken out afterwards, and were constantly drugged or threatened with violence to perform sex acts, which are usually degrading - to say the least.
Sex & loving isn't wrong & shouldn't be viewed as such. But viewing porn changes your view of men & women - we tend to look at men & women in a sexual way, rather than in a normal way. And it has also been proved from countless studies that people who access porn alot can't form, or have extreme difficulty forming, natural loving relationships.
It is also well known that orgasms relieve stress, & release massive amounts of serotonin & dopamine (your 'happy hormones') - that is why it is addictive. Same as trying to give up smoking, caffeine, etc.
In Mental Health, we don't teach people to go cold turkey with things, as most people will fail. We teach that it's better to cut DOWN on something, and yes, use distraction techniques.
Think about this: What is it about porn that attracts you? (apart from the obvious). I'd start journalling how you feel before or after accessing it, so you can reflect on your thoughts, & get to the crux of the matter, ie: is it stress? Problems at home? Problems with women? Plain boredom??
Set yourself some realistic goals. Start maybe only accessing porn 4 times a week, then cut down after that. Only access the sites that are soft core porn, and be selective. Set yourself a time limit to watch it with an alarm. Don't eat or drink or smoke etc accessing porn, so that there's no association with it. Gradually get rid of any sex paraphernalia too such as toys, etc. Ask friends/family, if possible, to be around you as much as possible to act as a deterrant (most porn is watched in secret).
Also, try to get outside and start interacting with REAL people (don't take your laptop or your phone if possible). Of course there are people you will feel attracted to - that is natural. Just start normal conversations & see how they respond. You can do this in the supermarket or anywhere; take note of how they respond to you. You could just say for example 'Wow isn't it a beautiful day today?!'. This re-trains your brain to see people other than as sex objects - these are REAL people with real feelings and hopes and desires - just like you.
You also need to talk to someone & confide in them, to keep you accountable.
I will pray to our Father that you will win this fight. Stay strong!
Cheers :)
 

Wona

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Hey Kdade
I too struggled with pornography, but I have to admit that I learnt a lot from that experience.
Porn addiction has the same effect on the brain as drug addiction.
Pornography causes your brain to release dopamine which is a feel-good hormone.
Imagine a child who is used to eating healthy and one day, that child begins to eat one bar of chocolate every morning. From one bar in the morning, it may extend to one in the morning and one in the afternoon and then one in the evening, and before you know it, that child would want more than just one bar...
Your brain is like a child. It can be easily influenced and it can be easily changed it's called neuroplasticity.
When you begin to do something every single day your brain creates neuro pathways that strengthen the more you do it. So the more you do something that creates dopamine the more you want to do it. It's like the chocolate phenomenon the more you eat chocolates the more chocolate you want to eat.

Breaking out of this permanently is the easy part.
All you have to do is reprogram the mind. Now as Christians the Bible talks about the renewing of the mind.
Romans 12 vs 2 says, and be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may be able to prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

The Bible talks about reprogramming (renewing) the mind.
There are a lot of scientific methods to renew the mind, but it all boils down to one thing realizing that the real you doesn't want pornography. The real you doesn't need pornography for any reason. Those desires you feel, those urges aren't yours...
Even science says that.
They're of the devil.

The Bible says that's when your mind is renewed your whole life changes.
So when you realise that the devil is the one making you to believe that you are addicted, but in reality you are free, and that Jesus has given us freedom, liberty and power over the devil and that you are like an elephant tied to a chair...
When you realise that, you become free

John 8 vs 32 says and he shall know the truth and the truth will make you free.

Professing the truth everyday of your life creates new neuropathways that will override the old ones, hence rewiring your brain.


Have a great day ahead of you.
Peace ✨
 

Scarlett7297

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Porn is everywhere. It's not just internet porn or magazines. There's soft core and hard core porn. There is 'soft' core porn in movies - you can't watch a movie - especially American movies - without having to see 'that sex scene', which I for one dread. I went to get some DVDs the other week at my public library, and I struggled to find an adult one that WASN'T 'R' or 'M' rated. Most had warnings for sex/adult scenes, or violence. I ended up looking in the kids section for movies. Sex scenes are so staged and put on, & I for one just laugh at the poses they pull because they are so far gone from real life & so ridiculous looking. You see porn in advertising billboard signs, in car ad signs, on TV & TV ads - which to me, are the most damaging ones as most ads are freely broadcast during the day when young kids are around. It is so accessible, that people don't even realise they are surrounded by it. Most actresses have admitted that they have had to perform sexual acts with producers or backers of films, or you don't get the roles (and not just in the sex industry). And look at all the lawsuits going on now due to sexual assault allegations in the film industry.
It is apparently the biggest and most booming industry in the world, especially with online sales, which is really sad when you think about it.
Most men have admitted to watching/accessing porn. But it is now a big problem with women to.
Most sex scenes in movies and porn don't show any real, true loving between the partners - it's impersonal. That is what's wrong. The porn industry know that people have desires and play on them. They know people are lonely. They know lots of people struggle to meet someone in the real world, so it's easier to chat anonymously on the net. They know young people will get sucked in, because they are filled with curiosity. There are no safeguards for young people on the net, unless parents actively police their kids usage, & that isn't possible when kids can go over friends houses and see stuff on the net, or school etc.
It has been proved in many studies that porn changes the chemistry of one's brain. The serial killer, Ted Bundy, was brought up with porn through his grandfather. Most sexual offenders have either been exposed to porn from a young age, or have been introduced by friends from when they were young. Some have been brought up in very strict religious families, and see sex and loving as 'wrong', so view porn as an outlet for these feelings.
As others have posted, there is much exploitation in this business. Young girls & boys get kidnapped for sex, and are sometimes changed inside so they can't escape. Many won't escape after a while, as they are given food and shelter, & think they are loved. Porn leads to other things, such as drug use & exploitation of otherrs, & more addiction; as others have said porn can become an addiction too. And do you honestly think that all of the young people on those sites is over 18? Some of these girls have spoken out afterwards, and were constantly drugged or threatened with violence to perform sex acts, which are usually degrading - to say the least.
Sex & loving isn't wrong & shouldn't be viewed as such. But viewing porn changes your view of men & women - we tend to look at men & women in a sexual way, rather than in a normal way. And it has also been proved from countless studies that people who access porn alot can't form, or have extreme difficulty forming, natural loving relationships.
It is also well known that orgasms relieve stress, & release massive amounts of serotonin & dopamine (your 'happy hormones') - that is why it is addictive. Same as trying to give up smoking, caffeine, etc.
In Mental Health, we don't teach people to go cold turkey with things, as most people will fail. We teach that it's better to cut DOWN on something, and yes, use distraction techniques.
Think about this: What is it about porn that attracts you? (apart from the obvious). I'd start journalling how you feel before or after accessing it, so you can reflect on your thoughts, & get to the crux of the matter, ie: is it stress? Problems at home? Problems with women? Plain boredom??
Set yourself some realistic goals. Start maybe only accessing porn 4 times a week, then cut down after that. Only access the sites that are soft core porn, and be selective. Set yourself a time limit to watch it with an alarm. Don't eat or drink or smoke etc accessing porn, so that there's no association with it. Gradually get rid of any sex paraphernalia too such as toys, etc. Ask friends/family, if possible, to be around you as much as possible to act as a deterrant (most porn is watched in secret).
Also, try to get outside and start interacting with REAL people (don't take your laptop or your phone if possible). Of course there are people you will feel attracted to - that is natural. Just start normal conversations & see how they respond. You can do this in the supermarket or anywhere; take note of how they respond to you. You could just say for example 'Wow isn't it a beautiful day today?!'. This re-trains your brain to see people other than as sex objects - these are REAL people with real feelings and hopes and desires - just like you.
You also need to talk to someone & confide in them, to keep you accountable.
I will pray to our Father that you will win this fight. Stay strong!
Cheers :)
I also struggle to find series or movies on Netflix which don't have those perverted scenes or even somebody who is talking about it in the movie , I end up watching Barbie instead (being 25 years old now) lol.
 

Scarlett7297

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Hello everyone
I feels depressed as I tried not to watch porno later on I fell again. Now I feel hopeles because I stopped watching it for about 2 months but when I force any difficulty in life, I have irresistable desire to watch to relieve my tension. Other thing, when I see very attractive woman, I have repeated thoughts compulse me to watch porno and maturbate. I started watching since my age was 15. I feel guilty and sinner. Please if you have any advice I ready to hear and I will do it
Hello , this has happened to me thousands of times. I feel like it is a time of searching for someone who is meant for you by God. Once you get to know that person , you will automatically learn to release that tension by talking to that beloved person. Maybe God is leading you to find that person. I was having multiple thoughts , then i finally asked God to show me the man He has for me. Within days I found him and He gave me enough signs to believe he is my future husband and now I am with him and I share everything with him. I hope God gives you the woman meant for you to go through this life together.
 

Funkus

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God made women/men to be very sexually attractive, glad to see you think he did not fail
Even strange, dayglow animals lurking in the ocean with odd bits sticking out find their opposite counterpart attractive, before they bite their head off
You have to go crazy to get your head around sexuality, once you do this it becomes easier to manage
Women like guys that have got their head around it and by the sounds of it so does God
If women like you then God likes you
Imagine telling a hot date what you get up to, a porn obsession is likely to result in failure. A few slip ups or occasional wandering is very forgivable, get the balance right and aim for perfection
 

stonesoffire

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When you see a hot lady, pray for her and her family to come to Christ or for them to become closer with him.

Internet Porn leads to a physical dis-function you don't want to have. There is lots of research.
I love this idea of praying this way, but am not sure if that will break the addiction for the man.

Love for Jesus, our first love is the answer. And experiencing spiritual life in Him is the way. Life in the Spirit needs cultivation.

So much to "see"...

Doctrines-do this, do that; don't do this, don't do that will kill our joy.

Joy is what we need to live the overcoming life.
 

Dude653

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One reason people get addicted to things is the brain gets addicted to the dopamine rush