Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason WHY?

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Are you going to be afraid to ask a girl out this summer the Lord is leading you to?

  • Yes

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  • No

    Votes: 8 66.7%

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GreenNnice

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Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason WHY?

Will you pray to Him, ask you how to react guys to this thread. Just give it a real read and let His spirit work through yours :)

And, girls, miladies :) please, you are NOT to answer in this thread. The Lord leads. That's my preference. I NEVER think a girl should do anymore than lightly to heavily CLUE in the guy that she likes him. The guy should TAKE IT from there !!
Thank you :)

OK, this is going to be some thread, because IF it doesn't cause guys to open up in a way, maybe, not done before by THEM on c.c. then, I'll be a monkey's uncle. :D

Seriously, don't get too PERSONAL here, guys, but, you can PM another guy(s) IF you feel Lord-led to do so and just spill your heart of why you just don't have it in you to think YOU can EVER be right for a girl for marriage.

'Course, speaking of monkeys and uncles, I do have two little monkeys that are my 4 and 6 year old nieces and one nephew, 13, and, they are quite monkey-like, :D but, no, they are NOT monkeys and I am NOT any monkey's uncle :)
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Note: Scripture is clear about adultery, and, sexual immorality, but, forgiveness is a few words away from His leading you greatly passed that past, too :) The Lord leads. Pray, pray, pray, fellow fellows, and, follow Him :)
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So, what up on this subject, boys, this summer, it's summertime NOW, officially ! :)

ARE YOU going to quit JUST thinking about asking that girl out that you KNOW is a Christian, is right for you, is being put there in front of your face by God, AT YOUR CHURCH, ahem, ON C.C. :) or ARE YOU just going to sit there and be the same ole 'chimpanzee.' :)

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What's the reason for your never getting twitterpated, fellas ? That is, Bambi, ala 'Thumper' humor there, ole Thumper says, 'I'm never gonna do that,' after watching 'Flower' see a girl, and, Bambi agrees. But, then, first, Thumper sees a girl that 'twitterpates' his little bunny heart. And, then, Bambi, too, sees 'Faline' who Bambi met as a fawn :)
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Maybe, if it's fear of her not liking you, you should just HAVE IT OUT ! tell her, "OK, I like you, I want to get to know you, but I'm not going to go out with you unless you are a Christian and you don't care that I am poorer than poor and will NEVER have any money."

PRay for God's grace, mercy, and, accept her response. It might be NO ! But, the Lord leads, it just MIgHT be 'yes.' :)


Maybe, it's fear of "I did this to a girl, that, and, I just can't come to forgive myself and I just can't go out with a girl because I am ashamed?"

To both things, hey, God has power to get you through whatever 'financial' is out there, and, there is more financial craziness in this world than probably anytime in history. Massive college debt out there, maybe, that's you. Been hurt by a girl? Maybe that's you.

God's going to provide, IF financial. And, God is going to forgive you IF--wait! Hold the phone , have you asked Him for forgiveness ! Well, if so, He has already forgiven you :) Done ! You is who STILL thinks about it, just go and do things different, keep yourself firmly in His plans for your life. Genuinely Love Him FIRST in your life, and, then, remember, that we are to 'love others as yourself,' second. So, God already wants us to be Loving ourself.


Here is my best advice for WE, guys, this summer, put yourself in a desperate situation IF you have to, regarding girls, regarding finances (work 3 jobs, minimum wage , 90 hours per week, if your led to do it, and, don't worry, God will ALLOW you to work three jobs for as LONG as He wants you too, just have faith in Him, in His work for you, who are His workmanship ! :)

Pray, pray, pray, too. We ALL need to pray for God's hand over us, that we can have strength to get through whatever it is that He has us doing. Just throw yourself prostrate in prayer and kneeling and eyes up to heaven, so , God can SEE you in action. Don't you think then God will provide a REaction ! He will, in His timing, but He will. So, just get out there and see what happens. Go eharmony or go to your church singles or go to some girl you ALREADY know you should give a chance from that place you saw her.

And, I am speaking to you and not ME ! You saying that ! Ha !!!!!!! Ha!!!!!!!!!!!

I am the worst of ones that should go out with girls, I pray the Lord leads, and, that I am following Him and have followed Him, despite making mistakes, maybe, even, GASP! yes, disobeying Him by NOT going out with a girl He put in my way .

I am content in His plan for me, this I have told my self all my life and I believe it, I believe that is from Him, despite my possible past mistakes.

I, indeed, feel, for one thing, my unorganization of my stuff in life I buy and sell, HAS kept me from going out with girls that is tough to understand but I gave it to Him and go on, content :) I mean, who knows, maybe, it was never to be. But, I've thought MANY TIMES that a girl would make my life better , make me progreSS but, then, something I DID stopped things from EVER WORKING OUT :(

A girl COULD be His way for us to TRULY reach our dreams that are, in fact, His too, but the ONLY way is through faith of getting a 'her.' :)

We won't ever know, guys, will we, if we don't go on faith, in following His ways for us.

Hmmm, maybe, I should have put this in the man cave. Oh well :)

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"The only person standing in your way is you. Lose yourself" The Black Swan . The director speaking to the lead actress, who is having a hard time understanding how great she can be in the ballet if she just realizes some things.


So, what are you going to do, are you going to continue to be lost in your self wallowing of no girl in my life, or, are you going to get up, dust yourself off, and, lose yourself.........................


...................................in Him, and, I think, you just may be blessed by finding a 'her.' :)

God bless you for your boldness in following Him, men , brothers in Christ, I love you, man, I mean, 'I love you, men,' God bless you, greatly, I pray for stepping forth to the great, wide, unseen, growing in faith, KNOWING that God can do miracles in your life of all kinds, and, finding just the right girl for YOU is included in that miracle working by your/our Saviour :)
 
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Green, I find many of your posts interesting and entertaining but they're so incredibly unfocused that I don't know what you're asking/saying here.
 
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GreenNnice

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Green, I find many of your posts interesting and entertaining but they're so incredibly unfocused that I don't know what you're asking/saying here.
I'm asking men to live to live 'desperately' this summer in their focus to follow Him. God bless you, brother.
 
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Shouryu

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I'm asking men to live to live 'desperately' this summer in their focus to follow Him. God bless you, brother.
Really? Because it really seems that the gist of it is, "You're all still single, and it's all your fault because you like someone, and you won't ask them out, or you won't let yourself like someone, so it's your fault." That's what I got out of it, anyway. I mean, sure, maybe your intent was to convince us to focus on Him, but tacking "The Lord leads" in to every paragraph really doesn't do more than leave a vague impression of, 'His will be done.' Well...YEAH. Of course, His will be done, whether I follow His lead or not. All I just read was a lecture on how miserable I must be, and how it's all my fault. Sure, your last two paragraphs tell us to trust in Him, but the umpteen paragraphs preceding it were basically nothing but a good ol' brow-beating. "Why ain't ya married yet? What's wrong with ya? Why're you still single?" Feels like I'm at a family reunion, or in the breakroom at work (which is specifically why I avoid going to the breakroom as much a possible.)

Do YOU know God's plan for my life? Has the Lord led YOU know what He wants for Tintin, or Ugly, or Tore? Because if you know God's plan for ME, then my question is, why is He telling YOU and not me?

Have you considered that perhaps it's God's plan for some of us to be single? Have you considered that maybe He's fixing some things with some of us before presenting us to who He intends? Have you not considered that maybe some of us might still be under His chastening (of which Jules wrote an extensive and very truthful post about)? Maybe some of us just WANT to be single, because we want to be single! Just because we're on the Singles forum doesn't necessarily mean we're looking; it just means we're single. Paul says it's better to be single, if it is within our power. What's your answer to that?

Things are far more complicated than, "Why won't you love someone? Find someone and get twitterpated!" Well, tell you what, why I don't I just go grab some random off the street, stick her in front of you, and issue your own edict. "Here's a girl! She's in front of you! Get twitterpated! Don't you wanna get twitterpated! WHY WON'T YOU GET TWITTERPATED?!" ​See how well that works for YOU.
 
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Really? Because it really seems that the gist of it is, "You're all still single, and it's all your fault because you like someone, and you won't ask them out, or you won't let yourself like someone, so it's your fault." That's what I got out of it, anyway. I mean, sure, maybe your intent was to convince us to focus on Him, but tacking "The Lord leads" in to every paragraph really doesn't do more than leave a vague impression of, 'His will be done.' Well...YEAH. Of course, His will be done, whether I follow His lead or not. All I just read was a lecture on how miserable I must be, and how it's all my fault. Sure, your last two paragraphs tell us to trust in Him, but the umpteen paragraphs preceding it were basically nothing but a good ol' brow-beating. "Why ain't ya married yet? What's wrong with ya? Why're you still single?" Feels like I'm at a family reunion, or in the breakroom at work (which is specifically why I avoid going to the breakroom as much a possible.)

Do YOU know God's plan for my life? Has the Lord led YOU know what He wants for Tintin, or Ugly, or Tore? Because if you know God's plan for ME, then my question is, why is He telling YOU and not me?

Have you considered that perhaps it's God's plan for some of us to be single? Have you considered that maybe He's fixing some things with some of us before presenting us to who He intends? Have you not considered that maybe some of us might still be under His chastening (of which Jules wrote an extensive and very truthful post about)? Maybe some of us just WANT to be single, because we want to be single! Just because we're on the Singles forum doesn't necessarily mean we're looking; it just means we're single. Paul says it's better to be single, if it is within our power. What's your answer to that?

Things are far more complicated than, "Why won't you love someone? Find someone and get twitterpated!" Well, tell you what, why I don't I just go grab some random off the street, stick her in front of you, and issue your own edict. "Here's a girl! She's in front of you! Get twitterpated! Don't you wanna get twitterpated! WHY WON'T YOU GET TWITTERPATED?!" ​See how well that works for YOU.
Some of this.
 
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zaoman32

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Blaaaaaaah! So much text! ADD kicking in! Must eat meat! Blaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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Shouryu

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Green, I apologize.

My response to your thread was...unnecessarily grouchy. I don't know specifically why it touched a nerve and set me off (but that also might be because it's 3am and I got out of bed because I wasn't feeling good about this). But I do know that historically, you're a Godly man with only the best, loving intentions toward all of us here. I'm sure you post was intended to provoke thought, but not necessarily provoke the offence that I took, needlessly. So, honestly, and truly, I'm sorry for responding the way I did.

Carry on.
 
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When the Lord is leading, I am would not be afraid. God Bless You
 
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I'm not a guy, but as a female I found the post encouraging, taking a good look inwardly at myself
Thanks green you're always pumping Gods kingdom up for the higher things of Him")

Talking to God about it this morning , reading in His word , these verses came ..
Always good seeing what Abba father has to say.. Got me in touch with him too as I roll out to tackle the morning in preparation of His day ..
What I found is that being single , I have a certain comfort , but then God calls me to stretch out and serve Him perhaps further . laying down that comfort , means laying down "self ". perhaps I have a bit of pride in some areas , a part of weak flesh not yet ready to die ..

Revelation 6:14
The heavens receded like a scroll being rolled up, and every mountain and ((island))was removed from its place.

Isaiah 11:11
In that day the Lord will reach out his hand a second time to reclaim the surviving remnant of his people from Assyria, from Lower Egypt, from Upper Egypt, from Cush, from Elam, from Babylonia, from Hamath and from the ((islands))of the Mediterranean.
Isaiah 41:5
The(( islands))have seen it and fear; the ends of the earth tremble. They approach and come forward;

Isaiah 49:1
[ The Servant of the Lord ] Listen to me, you ((islands)) hear this, you distant nations: Before I was born the Lord called me; (((from my mother’s womb he has spoken my name.)).
Note: I see the womb as a place of comfort , God called Jesus out from it .

An island I am shown a s a single entity? One standing alone away from those God calls us too.
 
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Powemm

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Forgive me for derailing everyone , but green I want to to tell you.. You are a man of God .. The wisdom He gives to is all is true , as we share new revelations and new insight of others and the courage Of God it takes to share it helps those lookin further to change ..

This song is always cones to mind with those new discoveries and revelations God is working into each one of us .
God bless ! "). "grow tall like mighty oaks in Gods love"
May we never grow weary to Grow ..

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GreenNnice

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I think, the Lord leads, that's all, I think, He leads our lives. I do not know anyone's plans by Him, in fact, you don't even know His plans, that is why He is the leader, that is why I say, 'The Lord leads' all the time, and, that is why our one job is hard, yet, very simple, done through faith: "...you follow Me."

I'm not going to comment on all the posts, but, I thank you for all the posts, guys, and, girls, yeah, re-thinking this, sure, the Lord leads, you CAN encourage us, guys, with posts here :) if you want. Pray. The Lord leads. And, guys, I think, girls are more into church than us, into God, even KNOWING Scripture BETTER than they let on, KNOWING Scripture, as a whole, BETTER than us, they just don't let on to us . Make sense :) I pray this is said well for miladies, too, to understand, this is a total compliment to you. IT speaks of how complementary YOU can be to a guy. Girls, therefore, are REALLY into God, but, then, we use our wile, our charm in Sunday school, singles groups wrongly. The GIRLS are really wanting Christ, they want you, too, don't get me wrong, but, they want Christ, and, they are serious in church about doing things to find Him. :)

But, indeed, I struggled with even posting this thread last night, I came sooooo close to not posting this thread, but, God said, 'Green, you put YOURSELF out there, as I lead you, and, YOU just follow Me. This group here on c.c. now is READY for this, they are strong in Christ, KNOWING Me, so, you do this, you are My vessel, you do NOT steer the ship, you are a 'fiber' inside my footstool (Isaiah 66:1) . Would you, please, just write with the gift of 'peacemaker' I gave you in life, I told you you were of peace being through a lady soonafter you went on that missions trip with your singles group from your church to Charlotte, North Carolina in 1996? Speak My thoughts, and, I will show you peace, I will show them peace, I will give them understanding, I will show them, your brothers in Christ, things that are great and mighty for them to SEE, of My unseen power, IF you just say the words. Say them, please. God bless you for your boldness following Me, green.'

This is, more or less, what I heard from God, and, uh-yeah, He calls me 'green.' :D I mean, not really those exact words said, it was not detailed like that, it was just a simple prompting, that as long as I was willing to put myself out there, to say that I've suffered through things in my life, like pornography, like disorganization, like stealing, like power-of-self thinking, that, I truly believe, have kept me from finding His 'love' for my life, God allowed this thread to be created.

I thank God for deliverance from things that were bondaging me, keeping me from being loosed to His perfect for my life . Those things have a HOLD on me NO MORE hold me like they used to, His Spirit in me is real, really helping me to want to change more like Him EVERY DAY :) . And, I know, I am COVERED by the blood of Christ, ALL sins, past, present, future, and, I do STILL sin but it's with this knowing and, of course, we do NOT want to do things that are sin, the wages of sin are death, death of self, death of eternal life, as I believe, as, I believe, Romans 8 says .

But, I know He is Lord, I know, I know , I know whom I have believed and I am persuaded that He is able to keep me until that day when He takes me away, maybe, by rapture (pre-trib) as I believe, or, by some other way, earlier, or who knows, I'm not going to be full of myself, I am born again, I HAVE accepted Jesus Christ into my heart, but the great tribulation could come and I could be a part of it. I hope, I pray, if that is the case, that I will die for the cause of Christ in its tumultuouis times, NOT taking the number of the beast, which would, simply, be my MEAL TICKET to heaven, instead of my pleasurable meal ticket on Earth, as I think, the 'number of the beast' will be like a tribal mark and once 'taken' we will be taken care of by our tribal leaders, the Lawless One, the antiChrist, and, the beast, all of Satan's blood. But, I choose 'heaven.' :) I choose Him :) I choose for you, guys, the best blessed things from Him, and, if marriage is out there, you SEE a reason why you are denying it, just don't by in so doing 'that,' be denying Him :( OK :) The Lord leads, WE are to follow Him, and, we will, IF we give our life to Him. I think, marriage is a beautiful thing done His way, and, it's beauty beyond any beauty we can conjure :)
 
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CatHerder

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And, girls, miladies :) please, you are NOT to answer in this thread. The Lord leads. That's my preference. I NEVER think a girl should do anymore than lightly to heavily CLUE in the guy that she likes him. The guy should TAKE IT from there !!
Thank you :)
Yes, I agree with this.
Seriously, don't get too PERSONAL here, guys, but, you can PM another guy(s) IF you feel Lord-led to do so and just spill your heart of why you just don't have it in you to think YOU can EVER be right for a girl for marriage.
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Note: Scripture is clear about adultery, and, sexual immorality, but, forgiveness is a few words away from His leading you greatly passed that past, too :) The Lord leads. Pray, pray, pray, fellow fellows, and, follow Him :)
First, remarriage isn't a big goal for me right now. I may or may not have healed after my divorce as far as being ready to date or even remarry, but right now I am focusing on getting my professional life where I think the Lord is directing it to go, and getting my kids raised.
ARE YOU going to quit JUST thinking about asking that girl out that you KNOW is a Christian, is right for you, is being put there in front of your face by God, AT YOUR CHURCH, ahem, ON C.C. :) or ARE YOU just going to sit there and be the same ole 'chimpanzee.' :)
I did ask that girl out. Didn't like her. She got upset that my hair looked better than hers after a bike ride, then was being exceptionally and unnecessarily difficult with and rude to the gal at the ice cream counter after our ride.
What's the reason for your never getting twitterpated, fellas ? That is, Bambi, ala 'Thumper' humor there, ole Thumper says, 'I'm never gonna do that,' after watching 'Flower' see a girl, and, Bambi agrees. But, then, first, Thumper sees a girl that 'twitterpates' his little bunny heart. And, then, Bambi, too, sees 'Faline' who Bambi met as a fawn :)
Yes, we should hook up like furry little woodland creatures. :p
Maybe, if it's fear of her not liking you, you should just HAVE IT OUT ! tell her, "OK, I like you, I want to get to know you, but I'm not going to go out with you unless you are a Christian and you don't care that I am poorer than poor and will NEVER have any money."

PRay for God's grace, mercy, and, accept her response. It might be NO ! But, the Lord leads, it just MIgHT be 'yes.' :)
There are so many nominal Christians out there. I wouldn't just ask someone out just because they claim to know Christ. I find the ones who are so "spiritual" that they aren't even real enough to be vulnerable and are merely "Christian-ese" speaking automatons to be equally unattractive. Your question refers to fear - as someone who went through an unwanted divorce, I find that I am not afraid to ask a woman out if I choose - the worst she can say is no - that potential rejection is nothing compared to the divorce. I did have a woman not want to go out with me anymore because of the whole Matthew 19 thing. Good thing I'm not really looking right now, because apparently, I'm "damaged goods."
 
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GreenNnice

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You're not, you're not, you're not, you're not, you're not, you're not ("damaged") in His eyes, you are, you are, you are, you are, you are, you are (perfect), frenchhorningcatherder, and, with your 'gift' of music, I am certain (notice, I didn't say, 'near-certain) that a ton of girls would find you oh-so-attractive, and, throw in your love for God and your desire to follow God's will, wow. Kiss :)
 

CatHerder

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You're not, you're not, you're not, you're not, you're not, you're not ("damaged") in His eyes, you are, you are, you are, you are, you are, you are (perfect), frenchhorningcatherder, and, with your 'gift' of music, I am certain (notice, I didn't say, 'near-certain) that a ton of girls would find you oh-so-attractive, and, throw in your love for God and your desire to follow God's will, wow. Kiss :)
Hey, thank you for the kind words! :) I really don't see myself that way either....I was commenting on the attitudes of some towards my divorced state...OK, at times I admit that I do see myself that way - - but your words are a big encouragement **CH wipes a tear away on his final edit before pressing "post quick reply**. I remember being told by a pastor while I was still trying to save my marriage, that I could never remarry again (way to be encouraging there, buddy!) when that was the furthest thing from my mind.

....but that's not even the focus of my post.
My focus was to point out that your OP presupposes that:

A - the single men that participate on this board don't want to be single.
B - the men here are afraid to ask a woman out.

I don't think that applies to that many who regularly participate here. But maybe you are seeing things I don't. Some threads I ignore or skim over.

P.S. - I love, love, love that way you have your own unique nicknames for all of us here. :D
 
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Jullianna

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Yes, I agree with this.First, remarriage isn't a big goal for me right now. I may or may not have healed after my divorce as far as being ready to date or even remarry, but right now I am focusing on getting my professional life where I think the Lord is directing it to go, and getting my kids raised.I did ask that girl out. Didn't like her. She got upset that my hair looked better than hers after a bike ride, then was being exceptionally and unnecessarily difficult with and rude to the gal at the ice cream counter after our ride.Yes, we should hook up like furry little woodland creatures. :pThere are so many nominal Christians out there. I wouldn't just ask someone out just because they claim to know Christ. I find the ones who are so "spiritual" that they aren't even real enough to be vulnerable and are merely "Christian-ese" speaking automatons to be equally unattractive. Your question refers to fear - as someone who went through an unwanted divorce, I find that I am not afraid to ask a woman out if I choose - the worst she can say is no - that potential rejection is nothing compared to the divorce. I did have a woman not want to go out with me anymore because of the whole Matthew 19 thing. Good thing I'm not really looking right now, because apparently, I'm "damaged goods."
wow............
 

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I really don't get up every day worried about girls.

I think it's pretty easy for God to take care of those things.


We're all different though. Maybe some of the guys here are worried, or frustrated with the girls they do meet, or they're just really shy. If someone is worried about those things, you should be praying about them, and asking God to bring you the right girl, in His perfect time, and to also give you peace. God knows what each of us needs... and He knows what each of us should be doing. Ask Him.
 

maxwel

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Just for the record:
I'm certainly no expert on girls, or on anything else.
I just know God always takes care of things.

: )
 
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GreenNnice

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Hey, thank you for the kind words! :) I really don't see myself that way either....I was commenting on the attitudes of some towards my divorced state...OK, at times I admit that I do see myself that way - - but your words are a big encouragement **CH wipes a tear away on his final edit before pressing "post quick reply**. I remember being told by a pastor while I was still trying to save my marriage, that I could never remarry again (way to be encouraging there, buddy!) when that was the furthest thing from my mind.

....but that's not even the focus of my post.
My focus was to point out that your OP presupposes that:

A - the single men that participate on this board don't want to be single.
B - the men here are afraid to ask a woman out.

I don't think that applies to that many who regularly participate here. But maybe you are seeing things I don't. Some threads I ignore or skim over.

P.S. - I love, love, love that way you have your own unique nicknames for all of us here. :D
Aww, brother, the Lord leads, *kiss :) God bless you, man :) And, I give a (holy) kiss to all my bros on c.c. :) Miladies? Ah, yeah, WHY CERTAINLY, they, too :)

I really don't get up every day worried about girls.

I think it's pretty easy for God to take care of those things.


We're all different though. Maybe some of the guys here are worried, or frustrated with the girls they do meet, or they're just really shy. If someone is worried about those things, you should be praying about them, and asking God to bring you the right girl, in His perfect time, and to also give you peace. God knows what each of us needs... and He knows what each of us should be doing. Ask Him.
Just for the record:
I'm certainly no expert on girls, or on anything else.
I just know God always takes care of things.

: )

Excellent words, maxwell, smart. Wise from Him. :)

"Cast all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you. "
 
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GreenNnice

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Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

Why do you say 'yes,' is that OK for me to ask ? The Lord leads.

I say 'no' to will I hold back from God leading me to a girl this summer because , I think whether, I will or not do things of this 'brave' nature is not up to me, it's up to Him. The Lord leads :) John 21:22


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Guys, I think, God allows us to be changed if we allow Him to change us. :)

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And, one person said that I was trying to put blame and fault on guys , they later recanted, but, no, not at all, I am just wanting guys to keep open to the fact that God sees your gifts and He may keep you single like Paul, but He may not want that from you. God has plans for all of us. Don't we want to try and 'perfectly' follow Him plans ?? :)

Not saying we will either, I know I've made mistakes along my way, but, taking that step of acknowledgment that God just may have higher thoughts and ways for us than we know of makes sense when one thinks of Scripture. So, don't hold back IF you feel God nudging you to go out with some girl at work (be careful, here, remember, there are a lot of fish in the sea, and, finding a girl in your OWN workplace is dangerous for many reasons, can be, it depends on your work some, too ,but, anyway :) ) Yeah, just want us, guys, to follow Him as best we can, that's all that's being said in this thread, through all the other words said :) It's not about us, it's about Him, and, it is about us, though, we are asked to deny ourselves, take up our cross, and, follow Him. The Lord leads :O) Quit clowning around, IF God's calling you to that calling. Lose your life in His for you. Remember, He who loses His life :for My sake has it saved. " :) I think, Scripture says that, doesn't it ? And, also, He who tries to save His life, loses it. So, IF God is telling you to get up and go get a girl, go see that girl that YOU KNOW likes you, then, DO IT, it's His life for you?? Can't you see that ??? Again, this is NOT a guilty thread whatsoever , I am just speaking as He leads me, this I hope and pray, I want His very BEST for you, brothers :)

He that loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38And he that takes not his cross, and follows after me, is not worthy of me. 39He that finds his life shall lose it: and he that loses his life for my sake shall find it.
 
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Re: Seriously, WHO are you? YOUR AGE & single still ! What gives? What's the reason W

[h=2]View Poll Results: Are you going to be afraid to ask a girl out this summer the Lord is leading you to?[/h] Voters9. You have already voted on this poll

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I just want you guys that have said 'no' to know I want to hug you and say 'God Loves you,' and that IF He's leading you to a girl and you're not going, it's not a salvation issue, duh, of course not, but it is an issue of making your life become more than you can imagine, a lot more than listening to "I can only imagine" on your Beats Pill :)

PM me, if 'no,' is you, I want to hope and pray that there is something I can say to you. Just don't let girls be so afraid of, or, taboo thinking in your mind, someone said 80% Catholics and he is not a catholic, hey, that's TWENTY % that ARE not catholic, right. Just do simple math, there. And, here's something for you too, as , IF God sees you as someone that will give Him more glory married than not, there can be .00001 girls in your church that are your denomination and God will just 'show up.' Pun intended . Show up, yeah, that's right, show up :)