Desperate to be loved someday.

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Hi, to all of you.My name's Andrea. I'm 23 years old and being single has turned out to be harder nowadays than ever. Why? All of my friends have now their futures husbands and I now feel like the black sheep... Is it normal to feel like this? Before I was ok with this but the recent events in my friends' lives have changed mine. All I want is to feel good about my current status of "Single" and not be worried about it but the longing to become part of that stage is too hard to deal with. This is just so hard. Everyday is a constant battle. I even feel I'm not that close with God as I used to. Did you ever have to deal with something like this?
With love in Christ.
 
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This is the place to come. I struggled with it a lot when i first got here as well. And i was 34. But hanging out in the Singles forum i've learned to be more content. I'd still like to get married, but i don't obsess over it like i used to. So just join in the threads. Some are silly some are serious.
 
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Yes ma'am .. it's something all of us singles have felt before. Just remember that for every situation Gods gives us grace. He has a plan for you hasn't nor will he ever forget about you. Let Him use you while you wait. :)
 
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aclop said:
Hi, to all of you.My name's Andrea. I'm 23 years old and being single has turned out to be harder nowadays than ever. Why? All of my friends have now their futures husbands and I now feel like the black sheep... Is it normal to feel like this? Before I was ok with this but the recent events in my friends' lives have changed mine. All I want is to feel good about my current status of "Single" and not be worried about it but the longing to become part of that stage is too hard to deal with. This is just so hard. Everyday is a constant battle. I even feel I'm not that close with God as I used to. Did you ever have to deal with something like this?
With love in Christ.
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23 is too young to marry. Why not get a college degree and have a good profession first?
 
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Something I have noticed is that there are some times that are more difficult than others and the reason for this is that our lives operate in seasons. So, there are seasons of loneliness and seasons of contentment. The important and vital thing to do is to turn to Christ and focus on Him during every season of your life. He is the only one that can bring you through and show you the way He wants you to go.

Do not be in a rush to marry. I do not put age restrictions on God past 20 years old. God can bring marriage to you at any time. The key is to be sure you are listening to Him, not to this world or to the season your in.
 
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aclop said:
THREAD TITLE: Desperate to be loved someday

Did you ever have to deal with something like this?
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Buuuuuuuuuuuuuut...you are loved. Today. By the Highest God, by the Maker of All Things, Yahweh, the great I AM. Tomorrow, too.

Ugly said:
So just join in the threads. Some are silly some are serious.
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Some are seriously silly. Seriously, yo.

mystdancer50 said:
Something I have noticed is that there are some times that are more difficult than others and the reason for this is that our lives operate in seasons. So, there are seasons of loneliness and seasons of contentment.
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*points at Julie, then touches nose*
(My nose, not Julie's nose.)

mystdancer50 said:
The important and vital thing to do is to turn to Christ and focus on Him during every season of your life. He is the only one that can bring you through and show you the way He wants you to go.
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THIS. THISTHISTHIS. Julie is right on the nose here. You don't look to the world to provide you with joy and fulfillment, and that's what focusing on the desire for a spouse does...it puts your focus on the world! That doesn't mean you can't desire a spouse, it means your focus shouldn't be on that desire! Joy and fulfillment come from Christ! Is that difficult sometimes? YESH! Absolutely, it is. But we can't let it become an excuse to search for an external source of joy.

Here's all it boils down to: TRUST.

Trust in God's plans for you. He's smarter than you. He's bigger than you. He's got a plan. He's already seen how it ends. So, just trust. I know, some days...MANY days, it seems...that's hard. I struggle with it, too. But remember, everything, even our salvation, comes down to FAITH! Faith is being certain of that which we cannot see! Faith is complete and unwavering trust...in HIM. That's what I do, so that's what I recommend.

I also recommend doing things. Idle time, time to sit and think about being lonely...that's when you think about being lonely. (Duh. Seems so simple, yes?) I find that the busier I stay, busy in my church, busy at work, busy with my pasttimes, I almost don't even have time to care that I am spouseless. So, go...and do...*makes vague hand gestures*...things.

And pray.
 
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shouru

Trust in God's plans for you. He's smarter than you. He's bigger than you. He's got a plan. He's already seen how it ends. So, just trust. I know, some days...MANY days, it seems...that's hard. I struggle with it, too. But remember, everything, even our salvation, comes down to FAITH! Faith is being certain of that which we cannot see! Faith is complete and unwavering trust...in HIM. That's what I do, so that's what I recommend.

I also recommend doing things. Idle time, time to sit and think about being lonely...that's when you think about being lonely. (Duh. Seems so simple, yes?) I find that the busier I stay, busy in my church, busy at work, busy with my pasttimes, I almost don't even have time to care that I am spouseless. So, go...and do...*makes vague hand gestures*...things.quote

Contradiction
When one is lonely, is that the time to keep busy, isn't that the opposite of accepting the lonliness to let God fill it?

"Trust in God's plan for you", then, escape from what one is going through, no matter what it may be?
What about "accepting the things I cannot change."
 
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Focusing on the Lord counts as "doing things." I don't equate Bible study, prayer, meditation on the Word, and worship with act of sitting on the couch doing nothing.
 
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chatter23

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Shouryu said:
Focusing on the Lord counts as "doing things." I don't equate Bible study, prayer, meditation on the Word, and worship with act of sitting on the couch doing nothing.
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You must have a very uncomfortable couch. LOL Did you ever hear of resting in the Lord, instead of running, but simply being quiet? The scripture says " be still and know?
 
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aclop

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Hi there :). I also feel 23 is too young, but I can't help to feel I want to know who I'm gonna marry with, and IF I'll do that eventually.
 
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Since when is 23 too young?

I'm 28 and considered by my peers to be too old.


I guess there is a window....
 
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chatter23 said:
23 is too young to marry. Why not get a college degree and have a good profession first?
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I can't help but wonder what happens if you already have a college degree and profession at said age of being "too young to marry"?
 
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“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.” Jane Austen: Pride and Prejudice (1813)


Not that, a career counts as a good fortune BUT relatively speaking, it certainly increases his prospective chances.
 
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Shouryu said:
Focusing on the Lord counts as "doing things." I don't equate Bible study, prayer, meditation on the Word, and worship with act of sitting on the couch doing nothing.
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chatter23 said:
You must have a very uncomfortable couch. LOL Did you ever hear of resting in the Lord, instead of running, but simply being quiet? The scripture says " be still and know?
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Isn't...isn't that what Bible study, prayer, meditation, (what Shour said) are? Resting in the Lord and being quiet? :confused:
 
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AlwaysBlessed

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Things will come to pass in God's time Andrea
In the meantime, God is shaping You, making you His way for His Will!

Not too young to marry, not too old to marry, those are just opinions.
Everything in God's time,
read Jude 1:24-25,
really, God sees you as Beautiful & spotless, always keep that at heart!
 
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aclop

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That's true... I think is not about the age in this case. It's all about how we feel about marriage and if we are trully made for it.
 
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aclop

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But, what happens if I'm already done with school? Actually , I have 2 degrees and a vision of what I want to do for God.
 
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aclop said:
That's true... I think is not about the age in this case. It's all about how we feel about marriage and if we are trully made for it.
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If he did, he contradicted himself by saying to "I don't equate Bible study, prayer, meditation on the Word, and worship with act of sitting on the couch doing nothing"
 
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