Love at first 'like'.

[Arlene89]

Morning. With a fresh cup of coffee sitting under my nose, I glance over at my European father, then at my mother of Asian descent, then back to my coffee and tanned hands. People often ask me how I became to be such a strange mix of nationalities. So I explain to them, I am a product of two people who fell in love with each other while being continents apart.

Unlike today’s society where you can see and speak to someone instantaneously despite geographical obstacles, where things like Skype and email and facebook break many communication barriers, my parents declared such a passionate love for each other using nothing but pen and paper. If it hadn’t been for the pen pal system of the 1980’s, I wouldn’t be here. They have been married for almost thirty years and have stood by each other through thick and thin.

Now, I am on this website, and yes, sometimes I do entertain myself with the idea, what if the odd chance came that I fall in love and meet my future spouse here? Could I really commit to someone so far away for so long?

I didn't intentionally sign up to Christian Chat to find ‘the one’, but what if something that seemed impossible just simply happened? It leaves me to wonder, do you believe you could meet your future spouse here, on Christian Chat? How would you keep a distant love alive?

 

[Jesusismyrock]

Interesting, but probably not.

 

[Liamson]

objectively, I would say that it is ridiculously hard.

However, I believe that Love conquers all so, its a case by case basis.

 

[Ugly]

There have been a number of people who met here and married.

 

[Loveneverfails]

I'm posting here just to say that my parents met in the exact same way - the penpal system of the 80's! They, too, were continents apart and without their pen-and-paper romance, I wouldn't be here.

You are literally the first person I've ever encountered who has shared this same history, which is why I got so excited.

I'm already in a relationship, but due to my parents' history I often imagined what it would have been like to experience a long distance relationship like theirs in this day and age. Hypothetically, I really think I could do it, because I know I'd have plenty of advice, encouragement, and protection from them.

Thanks for sharing your story! Made my day

 

[DuchessAimee]

I think it's entirely possible. Miles (or kilometers) don't mean much to God, so why should they mean much to us?

 

[Arlene89]

I'm posting here just to say that my parents met in the exact same way - the penpal system of the 80's! They, too, were continents apart and without their pen-and-paper romance, I wouldn't be here.

You are literally the first person I've ever encountered who has shared this same history, which is why I got so excited.

I'm already in a relationship, but due to my parents' history I often imagined what it would have been like to experience a long distance relationship like theirs in this day and age. Hypothetically, I really think I could do it, because I know I'd have plenty of advice, encouragement, and protection from them.

Thanks for sharing your story! Made my day

That is completely awesome! The one thing that I think about is, my parent's story sounds romantic. The love letters, the declaration of their love for each other, waiting for weeks for the next letter. I enjoy telling people the story about how my parents fell in love. However, I think I'd feel a bit sheepish telling my children (if I ever have any) that I met their father on a website. It doesn't have that same romantic tone to it.

But as DuchessAimee says, if its in God's plan and He has purposefully opened that door for us, then we should have what it takes to make it work.

 

[Loveneverfails]

Haha I completely understand! I feel the same way. In fact, my boyfriend will eventually need to go overseas for a 10-month period and after hearing my parents story (in addition to his inability to access the Internet during that time) he told me he wants to exchange hand written letters back and forth. *swoon* that's the only thing I'm looking forward to about our time apart. There's just something so romantic about it

 

[Arlene89]

Alright ladies, pull out the 'Dear John' movie, we're having a girl's night in. Hahahahahaha.

 

[lil_christian]

Alright ladies, pull out the 'Dear John' movie, we're having a girl's night in. Hahahahahaha.

I'll bring the popcorn.

Who wants to bring the Chex Mix and Cheezits??

 

[Arlene89]

I'll bring the popcorn.

Who wants to bring the Chex Mix and Cheezits??

Oh man, lil_christian, I saw your avatar and I ugly laughed. Hilarious! I'll bring the cheezits. I don't even know if we have cheezits here in Australia... buuuut.

 

[lil_christian]

Oh man, lil_christian, I saw your avatar and I ugly laughed. Hilarious! I'll bring the cheezits. I don't even know if we have cheezits here in Australia... buuuut.

:O HOW COULD THEY NOT HAVE CHEEZITS IN AUSSIE!!! This is pretty close to a continental crisis.

 

[AzureAfire]

So awesome for you to start this sweet thread, sister Arlene89

Hmm...my pleasantly weird, awesomely crazy, uber hot and cool, righteous and holy man from Papa GOD, here at CC??

Well, the most awesome thing that our LORD has revealed, and solidified in me over the past few months (something that i struggled to understand for years) is the fact that HE loves me so. Much more deeply and more awesomely than i ever understood, or will understand in my entire life inspite of who and what i am, and every unforgivable (to me) thing i did in this life. And my, oh my, does Papa GOD know me oh-so well!!! XD HE knows us in full, but us, we only know HIM in part. But someday, when we finally see HIM face to face, we will come to know HIM completely (1 Corinthians 13:12) that day would be so wonderfully, breathtakingly AWESOME!!!

Now, knowing full well that HE loves me, and that HE knows me so well (even better than i know myself XD), i know that HE would do even the seemingly impossible when it comes to bringing me and my future love together i used to see so many barriers: age, distance, race, profession, my own folks, my craziness, XD etc.... But now, i'm genuinely excited knowing HE's doing something behind the scenes, beyond my vision and imaginings it's sure to be a great surprise, because that is one of my major requests regarding this matter i truly expect to be blown away!!!

As for writing letters and having a long distance relationship, it think it's both challenging and very romantic i'm usually spouting crazy here (i do NEED to breathe XD), but i am actually a moon-dazed, flower-dazzled, poem-enamored, hopelessly sentiMENTAL romantic (emphasis necessary XD i'm just being true to my brand!!!). And yes, i LOVE challenges even if it's a suicide mission of a lovestory, with me, having to span a continent infested with zombies just to meet him someday (i hope he meets me halfway XD), i certainly will come with guns and swords blazing (yup, i have a flaming sword i ordered it online, and it arrived just this morning. It's toasting my loaf of sliced bread right now got it on sale too!!!).

On a more serious note, i know long distance relationships are tough, requiring lots of patience, understanding, and trust, among other things. But if i do figure in one someday, i won't be worried, struggling, nor afraid if the LORD is the one who holds both our hearts, i know our love will grow deeper, each and every day, as we come to know and love our Papa GOD more and more together regardless of anything that may stand in the way.

Now, if you ARE here, my special crazy man...i want you to know that i am praying for you i have been, for a very long time. Ever since i was all caught up in my visions of you up at our rooftops staring up at the moon, feeling like Papa GOD's little princess sitting on the stars. I know you'd be everything i've ever asked for from Papa GOD, and so much more i hope to be the very same for you. I pray that the LORD would prepare us both for HIS calling for our lives, and for each other may the wind be knocked out of you when you finally see me (and i, you XD).

We better bring a nice comfty mattress to land on when we fall unconscious, then

 

[meggars]

Could totally happen. I write letters to people. Maybe some time it'll stick and be a thing. Lol

 

[christian74]

Oh, now I understand what "Love at first 'like'" means haha.

I think a mere fact that daddy and mommy met over the internet, fell in love somehow and were in love enough to overcome the distance factor alone is romantic enough. Just make sure to elaborate on what that first 'like' was about and why.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Morning. With a fresh cup of coffee sitting under my nose, I glance over at my European father, then at my mother of Asian descent, then back to my coffee and tanned hands. People often ask me how I became to be such a strange mix of nationalities. So I explain to them, I am a product of two people who fell in love with each other while being continents apart.

Unlike today’s society where you can see and speak to someone instantaneously despite geographical obstacles, where things like Skype and email and facebook break many communication barriers, my parents declared such a passionate love for each other using nothing but pen and paper. If it hadn’t been for the pen pal system of the 1980’s, I wouldn’t be here. They have been married for almost thirty years and have stood by each other through thick and thin.

Now, I am on this website, and yes, sometimes I do entertain myself with the idea, what if the odd chance came that I fall in love and meet my future spouse here? Could I really commit to someone so far away for so long?

I didn't intentionally sign up to Christian Chat to find ‘the one’, but what if something that seemed impossible just simply happened? It leaves me to wonder, do you believe you could meet your future spouse here, on Christian Chat? How would you keep a distant love alive?

Very interesting post! I think very big factor in this is that there is a big difference between life during your parent's day (the 80's) and today. In the 80's, life was not as hectic, complex and busy as it is now. There were no cell phones, computers, internet, or even microwave ovens (microwave ovens were very expensive back then). People had more free time and I remember that psychology (specifically emphasizing the need for humans to feel loved) and self-help books were very popular back then. All of it created a perfect atmosphere for people to fall in love and writing love letters was considered pretty normal.

I think today it would be much more of a challenge to maintain a long distance relationship because people are just so busy with their lives that it would be hard to devote enough attention to a long distance relationship, plus you never know if someone is really who they say they are unless you meet them in person. I know there's been a handful of couples on here who met here and got married, but I think they are the exception.

 

[wisebeardman]

me find someone? doubtful.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I think it's entirely possible. Miles (or kilometers) don't mean much to God, so why should they mean much to us?

Seen the price of a plane ticket lately?

 

[rachelsedge]

Alright ladies, pull out the 'Dear John' movie, we're having a girl's night in. Hahahahahaha.

Oh man, I hated that movie. I'll be in the other room watching The Avengers or something.

(Then again, I don't really like chick flicks in general...)

 

[Descyple]

I often obsessively "like" the posts of women just to get attention from them, and apparently they "love" to tell me to stay as far away as possible from them.

Is that the point of this thread as well?