"Nice"

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Jullianna

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nice

adjective \ˈnīs\ : giving pleasure or joy : good and enjoyable
: attractive or of good quality
: kind, polite, and friendly

Synonyms:
befitting, correct, decent, decorous, de rigueur, genteel, proper, polite, respectable, seemly

Source: Merriam-Webster: Nice - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary


Nice (as defined) is great, but is it enough, whether male or female?

What is a "nice" guy?
What is a "nice" girl?
Can we proclaim ourselves "nice" or is it a subjective term?
Have you ever dated a so-called "nice" guy/girl only to find out later that they were not so "nice"?
 
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Pipp

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O__O I like nice people... they're nice
 
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I "liked" that you like nice people :)
 
maxwel

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I like nice girls.

Nice is HOT.


Errrr... I guess that wasn't a very nice thing to say.
 
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Jullianna said:
nice

adjective \ˈnīs\ : giving pleasure or joy : good and enjoyable
: attractive or of good quality
: kind, polite, and friendly

Synonyms:
befitting, correct, decent, decorous, de rigueur, genteel, proper, polite, respectable, seemly

Source: Merriam-Webster: Nice - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary


Nice (as defined) is great, but is it enough, whether male or female?

What is a "nice" guy?
What is a "nice" girl?
Can we proclaim ourselves "nice" or is it a subjective term?
Have you ever dated a so-called "nice" guy/girl only to find out later that they were not so "nice"?
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Now you are speaking my language, my leettle dictionary! my sweet thesaurus! I am not only a nice (almost) kitty kate', I am also FROM Nice! Yes, my darling encyclopedia, you and I smelling the salt air of the Liguarian Sea off the French Riveria, our hearts beating.......

where you go? Are you hiding from ze Pepe?

Ahhh well, oui, I am a Nice boy.
 
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1still_waters

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"Nice" can simply be mean with a smile.

We all know that "Bless his heart" has very little to do with blessing when said in certain contexts.

Yet it sounds oh so sweet and nice when said.
 
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ServantStrike

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1still_waters said:
"Nice" can simply be mean with a smile.

We all know that "Bless his heart" has very little to do with blessing when said in certain contexts.

Yet it sounds oh so sweet and nice when said.
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How about we go further and include good.


18And a certain ruler asked him, saying, Good Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life? 19And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good? none is good, save one, that is, God.
 
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I think everyone should be nice, according to that definition, unless subject to extreme circumstances, like when you have to tell the truth and the truth isn't ,well, ''nice''. That is how I define a nice guy or girl. But apparently, in society, being the ''Nice Guy'' means you're a pushover, so I guess it is subjective. I think the ''Nice Guy'' should be called something else, like the ''Pushover Guy'', because I like the word nice and it would be nice to keep using it in its original form.
 
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1still_waters said:
"Nice" can simply be mean with a smile.

We all know that "Bless his heart" has very little to do with blessing when said in certain contexts.
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...Oh.

Sister A: Bless his heart; he needs prayer.

Sister B: I know. I don't mean to gossip, but the brother was being "nice" to the sister behind you...

Sister C: Oh, Good heavens! No...!

Sister A: Yes, the poor girl... it happened before the Bible Study... ...bless her soul...

Sister B: Lord have mercy! Keep 'em in prayer.

Sister C: Amen! You sisters are so nice in attending to prayer requests... gasps.

...and so the World turns. :p
 
rachelsedge

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I think that being nice is good. People like nice people. However, when it's combined with "girl" or "guy", I have found that it almost always has a "but..." attached to the end.

"He's a nice guy, but...I'm not attracted to him in that way."
"She's a nice girl, but...she doesn't have the same interests as me."

In which case, it's used more of a way of trying not to insult someone when expressing disinterest in someone. There seems to be that trailing off at the end, "Oh, she's nice..." It seems to me that if someone is interested, they find other words. "Oh, ___? Yeah, she's great! She's kind, smart, goofy. We'd get along great."

Hopefully that makes sense.

In another aspect, you have "the nice guy" complex (as seen in the other thread). I think there are different types of "nice guys". You have the genuinely kind person who is nice to everyone because that's just their personality (this is good, though can sometimes come off as not genuine, even if they are); you have the person who wants to please everyone so they are a bit of a doormat, hence coming off as "nice"; you have someone who acts one way but has ulterior motives to get to the girl (as Liamson explained in the other thread). I would imagine that the same goes for females. However, it typically is associated with males because males are typically the pursuer.

Just my two cents. :)
 
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BananaPie

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Okay, seriously.
There's a passage in the OT in which Miriam becomes a leper as a consequence for murmuring against Moses. Moses or Aaron (I forget which) then prays to God on her behalf, and God restores health to Miriam.

What I've learned is that the real value of a person is directly proportional to that person's identification with Christ. When we love the Lord, and He lives within us, it really doesn't matter what "nice" mood others are/aren't in, does it? Moses served God regardless of what others opine of him.

When the Lord abides in us, our thoughts become kinder, sweeter, jollier, almost heavenly and well, the Lord becomes overwhelmingly "nice" to you because He lives in us. :)
 
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Jullianna

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rachelsedge said:
I think that being nice is good. People like nice people. However, when it's combined with "girl" or "guy", I have found that it almost always has a "but..." attached to the end.

"He's a nice guy, but...I'm not attracted to him in that way."
"She's a nice girl, but...she doesn't have the same interests as me."

In which case, it's used more of a way of trying not to insult someone when expressing disinterest in someone. There seems to be that trailing off at the end, "Oh, she's nice..." It seems to me that if someone is interested, they find other words. "Oh, ___? Yeah, she's great! She's kind, smart, goofy. We'd get along great."

Hopefully that makes sense.

In another aspect, you have "the nice guy" complex (as seen in the other thread). I think there are different types of "nice guys". You have the genuinely kind person who is nice to everyone because that's just their personality (this is good, though can sometimes come off as not genuine, even if they are); you have the person who wants to please everyone so they are a bit of a doormat, hence coming off as "nice"; you have someone who acts one way but has ulterior motives to get to the girl (as Liamson explained in the other thread). I would imagine that the same goes for females. However, it typically is associated with males because males are typically the pursuer.

Just my two cents. :)
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You have a point, Rachel. "Nice" is a term a lot of folks use when they have nothing more descript to say. Perhaps that's the heart of the matter. Maybe "Nice" translates to "milk toast" for some. Never thought about that before...
 
CatHerder

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oh, was I supposed to contribute something meaningful to this thread? ummm.....I agree with Rachel. There! :)
 
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Here's my whole issue with the nice guy/nice girl business.

It generally comes packaged with a huge amount of entitlement.

When people gripe about being the nice guy/girl/hermaphrodite/whatever always getting passed over, it just smacks of entitlement so much...as if they DESERVE something for being "nice." And I'm sorry, to me, that's just a crock. I posted a lengthy response to this thought back in May, and I'll quote myself here (but not the WHOLE post, although you can go read it if you want):

Shouryu said:
This is a cold, hard truth that is difficult for some people (ESPECIALLY MEN, it seems) to swallow. Ready for it? Are you ready to handle the truth, Jack Nicholson style?

BEING A NICE GUY/NICE GIRL DOES NOT ENTITLE YOU TO LOVE, A SPOUSE, A SIGNIFICANT OTHER, SEX, HOMECOOKED MEALS, BACKRUBS, OR ANYTHING.

And sometimes I think that's where the friend-zone/nice-guy-girl issue stems from, whether or not we want to admit it. "Hey, I'm a nice person! I treat them right! Why don't I get--" STOP. You get NOTHING. Do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars.

If there's anything I've learned from the way stuff went down with The Ex a year and half ago, I learned this: I am entitled to NOTHING. I deserve NOTHING. My happiness isn't someone else's responsibility, IT IS MY OWN. In fact, the Word of God says we are entitled to ONE THING: DEATH. Our sin, our failures as the children of the most high God, entitle us only to death. That is all we deserve, period. ANYTHING we receive, either from Him, or from anyone in this world...that's a BLESSING. That's GRACE. Because it's far more than what we are entitled to, more than we deserve. And I'm just going to flat out say it, guys, because I'm as guilty as any of you about feeling passed over (and griping about it sometimes), but the reality is, nice-guy or not, we deserve NOTHING. Our happiness is our own responsibility, and the very possibility that we are capable of being happy is an AMAZING GIFT FROM GOD, because true happiness and completion and contentment is found in HIM FIRST, not in a mate.

It's a bitter pill to swallow. But I honestly think it's the truth. And trust me, I'm still choking it down.

Maybe I'll crush it up and mix it in with my scrambled eggs and bacon.
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And that's all I see when I see people ranting about why men/women don't like nice guys/nice girls. It's nothing but blame blame blame: "I'm the nice guy, IT'Z ALL THE WIMMENZ FAULT, THEY DOEZN'T LIEK MEEEZ, OH NOOOES." Yes, it's the ENTIRE OTHER GENDER'S FAULT. It couldn't possibly be you.

*head*
*hit*
*keyboard*

If it's roughly 50% of the human population's fault that YOU'RE lonely, then you're looking for companionship in the wrong place. That's all I gotta say, yo.
 
Nautilus

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i just simply avoid being confused for a nice guy. Im interesting and mysterious and kinda dangerous but not so much you feel unsafe..lol
 
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can you feel the likesss tonighttttttt ?
 
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