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Oh right. It's still a cultural difference if you ask me and nothing to do with race. Everybody is bad both women and men from all races and cultures. One person has said that my point is that Asian women are better. If that person wants to infer that then fine. My point is that western women were in fact all those things I described but have moved away from this in the last two or three generations. Why? A number of factors but at the end of the day it is what it is. There must be another explanation as to why men are increasingly going for Asian women.
Well, though I was being very honest, I was also trying to lighten the mood a bit. 
I hope no one who read my post thought I meant that Asian women are horrid creatures.
Everyone has their flaws. Cultural differences/stereotypes have a tendency to skew our perception of these flaws. There's also the tendency to be intrigued by that which is unfamiliar ("the grass is greener on the other side"). It's hard for me to tell you whether they are better, the same, or worse than western women because my perspective is extremely different than yours. Also, though I have nothing against having preferences in terms of attraction (ie: I tend to find women of _____ ethic background attractive) I don't think it's right to say that one particular ethnic group is any better or worse than another. Here you are entering dangerous territory of attaching a woman's worth to her ethnic background. There may be cultural tendencies.. but those are tendencies and do not represent every individual. Going through life with a goal of marrying an Asian woman simply because you think asian women are "better" than western women may well rob you of the opportunity to notice a western woman who is feminine, sweet, and warm.
*sigh* that said, I'm going to share a personal observation with you that might satisfy your question. Please keep in mind everything I said above about cultural differences/perceptions/tendencies, though.
To be quite frank, when I compare my asian aunts with my western aunts (I probably shouldn't do that.. but growing up I couldn't help it), I see the most gentleness and sweetness coming from my western aunts, and I tend to look to them as my role models of femininity. When it comes to YOUNGER girls, such as my 15-25 year old female cousins, the opposite is true. My filipino cousins are the picture of sweetness and gentleness, whereas my white cousins probably don't know what "submissive" means. I don't know what the deal is. Maybe it's a generational thing.
My point: please don't rule out all western women as being boorish and masculine, and don't be fooled into thinking all Asian women are sugar, spice, and everything nice.
I wish you the best, brother, and I hope you do not feel condemned by my long-winded response. I believe you mean well, and I was just trying my best to offer what insight I could. God bless.
[To everyone else, I'm sorry for dragging out the topic, but I felt this needed to be said]
I hope no one who read my post thought I meant that Asian women are horrid creatures. Everyone has their flaws. Cultural differences/stereotypes have a tendency to skew our perception of these flaws. There's also the tendency to be intrigued by that which is unfamiliar ("the grass is greener on the other side"). It's hard for me to tell you whether they are better, the same, or worse than western women because my perspective is extremely different than yours. Also, though I have nothing against having preferences in terms of attraction (ie: I tend to find women of _____ ethic background attractive) I don't think it's right to say that one particular ethnic group is any better or worse than another. Here you are entering dangerous territory of attaching a woman's worth to her ethnic background. There may be cultural tendencies.. but those are tendencies and do not represent every individual. Going through life with a goal of marrying an Asian woman simply because you think asian women are "better" than western women may well rob you of the opportunity to notice a western woman who is feminine, sweet, and warm.
*sigh* that said, I'm going to share a personal observation with you that might satisfy your question. Please keep in mind everything I said above about cultural differences/perceptions/tendencies, though.
To be quite frank, when I compare my asian aunts with my western aunts (I probably shouldn't do that.. but growing up I couldn't help it), I see the most gentleness and sweetness coming from my western aunts, and I tend to look to them as my role models of femininity. When it comes to YOUNGER girls, such as my 15-25 year old female cousins, the opposite is true. My filipino cousins are the picture of sweetness and gentleness, whereas my white cousins probably don't know what "submissive" means. I don't know what the deal is. Maybe it's a generational thing.
My point: please don't rule out all western women as being boorish and masculine, and don't be fooled into thinking all Asian women are sugar, spice, and everything nice.
I wish you the best, brother, and I hope you do not feel condemned by my long-winded response. I believe you mean well, and I was just trying my best to offer what insight I could. God bless.
[To everyone else, I'm sorry for dragging out the topic, but I felt this needed to be said]
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Well I haven't seen a western woman being feminine, sweet, and warm for a long long time so.
My actual point is that Asian women know how to be women and treat a guy with respect. Western women are entirely capable of this but they just don't. It's all about complementing a guy rather than being a curse.
I understand that everybody has flaws no matter where you're from. I'm just old enough to notice a shift.
I have no intention of being married. If I did I wouldn't care where that woman was from as long as she was womanly. Suffice it to say the recent census (delayed coz the Christchurch earthquakes) has said the marriage rate is the lowest since 1970 something and we also have one of the lowest birth rates in the OECD and the highest incidence of child abuse anywhere.
The irony of all this is that an Asian told me about this forum and yes we're still in contact.
My actual point is that Asian women know how to be women and treat a guy with respect. Western women are entirely capable of this but they just don't. It's all about complementing a guy rather than being a curse.
I understand that everybody has flaws no matter where you're from. I'm just old enough to notice a shift.
I have no intention of being married. If I did I wouldn't care where that woman was from as long as she was womanly. Suffice it to say the recent census (delayed coz the Christchurch earthquakes) has said the marriage rate is the lowest since 1970 something and we also have one of the lowest birth rates in the OECD and the highest incidence of child abuse anywhere.
The irony of all this is that an Asian told me about this forum and yes we're still in contact.
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This whole "better or worse" talk about women makes me feel like a product being reviewed on Amazon. —feeling objectified
His opinion is the only one that matters in the end. Not random internet people. God does not expect us to act like a certain culture or generation in order to gain His favor. It's what is in your heart that counts.
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Yes brother, that is disgusting. It makes me very sad, but there is alot of women like this, and even Christian women that I've met. These women aren't as faithful to their own boyfriends as they expect them to be, and I've been in church with somebody's girlfriend staring at other guys.
And there are some crazy Christians that believe that stealing or even going after another guy's girl is acceptable! Not for this guy! Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. Let her be faithful to the man she's chosen.
And there are some crazy Christians that believe that stealing or even going after another guy's girl is acceptable! Not for this guy! Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. Let her be faithful to the man she's chosen.