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just_monicat

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Oh, that stinks, iTore. I work at a bank, and it depends on bank policy, but also for auditing reasons, our bank doesn't typically deposit checks into an account if their name isn't on that account. Now, if your bank knows you, they may accept it if you let them know you sold something and they got your name wrong. Hopefully the check is good...do you have contact information from them if the check doesn't clear? Does the check have an address/phone number underneath their name in the upper lefthand corner? See who the check is drawn off of (what bank it is through). If there's that bank in your town, you can go to that town, they can look up the account number and they can typically tell you if it will clear or not. Some banks charge you if you deposit a check and it gets returned, so that'd be one way of making sure and avoiding that fee.

Sorry to ramble on, just some ideas that could maybe help you out. :(

Edited to add: Try not to feel like an idiot. I know it's hard not to when you've possibly made a mistake. This coming from someone who was scammed out of $600 my freshman year of college. It was terrible. I beat myself up for a while. Some for good reason, some for not. People who con you are typically good at what they do.
i second the info that rachel offered, especially the account inquiry.
do you know their names? can you get their names?

if you can't get a hold of them very soon, i would consider covering my bases by filing a police report. i don't know if you have before, but it's usually just a phone call, and they provide you with a report #. once you've done that, you'll have access to some recourse IF they did this on purpose. i can think of several options you might have to recover the $$$ if they're trying to cheat you, but you'll need that report to justify it.

if they cooperate, then you never need to mention what you've done. you can call and cancel it, easily. oh, and don't beat yourself up.

but if they are doing this on purpose, then your complaint will have more credibility than had you waited to do nothing. i find it very odd that they would put their check in an envelope to give you. that seems quite odd. cash, sure. but a check?

i'm so sorry about that. i do hope it's just an oversight.

just my two cents.
 
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just_monicat

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Mother,may I play with danger?...isn't that a Hallmark film..or is that Lifetime? lolz

So...I'm gonna head to the store here in about a half an hour. Anybody else need anything while I'm out?

Tequila,Rum,Vodka? hahahaha

ok...so...I'm kinda losing my mind here. Maybe I need to try a different Ben & Jerry's flavor today.
I don't have cable or a TV anymore...maybe I can find a really good love story & cry my eyes out over the interwebs. lol
NO.

Ummm....that's all I have for now.
hmmm... i have no idea which network. but i can assure, you, i'd not watch a movie called "mother may i play with danger?".

stupidest. movie. title. ever.

i'm out of kale... and i'm off to the pool. : )
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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It so IS the stupidest movie title EVER!. hahahaha

You ladies love yer' Kale. I know I know..."It's the super food!"

:p
 

Fenner

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that's horrible, and mildly ironic. i'm so sorry.

yeah, i have a lot of stuff in my head that i don't allow myself to even revisit much anymore because of what you're describing. i started babysitting my brother, half sister and step brother when i was 10 and we were left to do and see what we felt like. it's not good, is it? i bet that has definitely impacted you as a parent, right? you seem like a great mom.

when i recommitted my life, i decided to pretty much give up most programming that isn't fairly tame. i used to watch the movies on the hallmark channel from time to time, but now that i have a "spirit clips" membership (which i highly recommend for families, by the way) i may just get rid of my cable completely.

I didn't mean to make it sound like I was neglected. My parents were very good to me. I don't think they thought about it. If my Mom probably thought well it's on during the day so it's probably OK. And my Dad was working and he was sick, so he probably didn't think about it either.

I think about it more with my kids, but I'm not super strict or anything. I wouldn't let them watch Mommy Dearest, lol.
 

just_monicat

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I didn't mean to make it sound like I was neglected. My parents were very good to me. I don't think they thought about it. If my Mom probably thought well it's on during the day so it's probably OK. And my Dad was working and he was sick, so he probably didn't think about it either.

I think about it more with my kids, but I'm not super strict or anything. I wouldn't let them watch Mommy Dearest, lol.
well, i'm glad to hear you had good parents. i guess i just projected that, didn't i? ; )

i've never seen the movie, but i know the story behind it. she was *quite* a lady.

i still think you sound like a good mom. actually, all the moms i've gotten to talk to here seem like good moms.
 

Fenner

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The Zuh Zuh Pets movie is riveting. I wish I could type that in an English accent!
 
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I have a friend who's kid loves hangars. (thankfully they're plastic) lol Not that she'd beat him for wire ones or anything like that.

I have returned unscathed from the store. Everyone & their brother are out because there's a dusting of snow & we are supposed to get more tomorrow,so everyone's in "panic mode". I sit & think to myself.."this is Maine,people..not Virginia,get a grip..you see snow every year."

Karamel Sutra tonight.
Coffee brewing.
Did dishes.
Cleaned up mess made by guy & girlfriend who took the washer/dryer.
Spoke to the above & he was so irritated that his bookkeeper put the wrong name on the check,and said if my bank had any problems they could call him or he'd write me another one. So that's good.
Thinking I will go through my filing cabinet tomorrow & shred all the stuff I no longer need.
I'm kinda burned out right now...I think I need some Joseph Prince. I really enjoy his teaching. Not big on tv type preachers,but I find him pretty balanced.

Coffee!!!!!:)
 

lil_christian

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I didn't mean to make it sound like I was neglected. My parents were very good to me. I don't think they thought about it. If my Mom probably thought well it's on during the day so it's probably OK. And my Dad was working and he was sick, so he probably didn't think about it either.

I think about it more with my kids, but I'm not super strict or anything. I wouldn't let them watch Mommy Dearest, lol.
I think if/when I have kids, I'm gonna be pretty chill with them. I'm not gonna let them behave any way they want. But as far as shows go, I'll be teaching them the dangers of TV shows, and how they're not all good, and some of them teach you bad things. I probably won't let my kids watch much, if any TV, until they're about 4. I'll let them watch kids movies like Winnie the Pooh (c'mon, who WOULDN'T let their kids watch that), and stuff like that. But I just feel like TV is getting worse and worse these days. Even children's television. There's a show on the Hub network (a KID'S channel) where there's a crossdressing superhero. SheZow. SheZow is NOT a she...they make the quite clear in the previews.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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@ lil_christian.... one word.

HEFFALUMP!


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GreenNnice

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and woozles. And woozles. And woozles. And woozles. And woozles. And woozles.
And woozles. Beware! Beware! Be a very wary bear .

:D

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And, hey itoreHis, remember, you are His, I know you and your quirkiness and openness, however, there's never a reason to call ourselves an 'idiot.' I guarantee you , Jesus will discipline us or let us wallow if we do something idiotic or dumb that costs us money, etc. But, He will NEVER call us an idiot.
I'm praying about your eviction notice. Just keep doing the best you can, praying, doing life, and , where God takes you might not look good but it will be good because you are ALWAYS going to be good with Him :)
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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Thanks GreenNBro! I know I'm not an "idiot"...I feel like one...lol But I have a friend who'd prob punch me & tell me to sthhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaappppp! when I talk like that. lol I know Jesus doesn't see me that way.
I need to watch my stoopid mouth.lol Thanks for the prayers my friend...prayer is good!!!! :)
 

homwardbound

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Someone lies to you and cheats you out of over $50,000—all while you are begging and working and scraping to provide for and protect your child. Then, you find out that they make more money than you knew, that they are lying about being in debt, and that they have the available credit to pay for what they stole. But they won't do that. How do you not claw their eyeballs out the next time you see them?

Just hypothetically, of course.
Learn from the first time and ask for discernment.
Fool me once shame on you/
Fool me twice shame on me
 

homwardbound

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Matt 6:14-15 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
The above you quoted is under Law and true under Law
What about when not under Law, what do we do?
Do we forgive because we are forgiven? I mean Christ did forgive us right, is that conditional or just a fact?
So before the cross we forgive to get forgiven
After cross we forgive because we are forgiven
 

homwardbound

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i think it easier to say goodbye im done pretending that i dont love you im done with myself being a freak nothing seems to change no matter how hard i force it or how much i try to let go a bitter reminder reflects in the mirror

im done with myself in your life
maybe learn this and don't get burned
Matthew 10:16
Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.
 
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I have survived the black plague. I ventured out among the living for the first time since Tuesday afternoon today in search of food, especially ice cream.
 

homwardbound

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Hmmm...sounds like when my Mom & Dad got divorced in a way. Because he had "connections" the judge never enforced the ruling on him to pay child support. He never gave her or I one single penny,yet he had a house a 67' Vette,a new wife,and then later on in life adopted 5 kids...all the while in my adult life telling me what I "should" be doing with my life. So ummmm...as much as I forgave him of all that,I'm not cool with deadbeat Dad's.
If yer' gonna help "make" a child...you'd better support that child & the woman whose body you destroyed by helping to make said child. lol I laugh but it's all not funny really. Is there a way God would be ok if you just claw one of his eye's out? (I mean hypothetically,of course) :p
We have free choice to appreciate God for God's Mercy through Son given to us or take advantage and not trust and continue to be selfish and act as we are not
Glad to see you believe God ans are safe in spite of others selfishness