Bitterness
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Depending on the situation, as to why you're feeling bitterness. The Lord only knows the best way to deal with it, but I'll pray for you, and I'll ask Him to show you or someone what to do, and then share it with you. Somethings are just way harder to not have bitterness over than others, and God understands everything. However, remember that in the Bible, in Romans 12:14 it says Bless them which persecute you:bless, and curse not.
Also in Matthew 5:44-46 says But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use and persecute you: That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
So remember those verses, and verse 46 is a key one here, it tells us if we love those that love us, what do we get? We know they love us already, BUT if we love those that don't love us (our enemies or whatever) then we recieve a reward(blessing) for it. Why? Because it's so easy to love those who love us, however it's so hard to love those that are against us, or have hurt us, or something along those lines.
Not sure if it did or not, but hopefully this helped some anyways. Feel free to message me anytime about this or anything else you need prayer, help, or advise on. God bless you!
Also in Matthew 5:44-46 says But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use and persecute you: That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
So remember those verses, and verse 46 is a key one here, it tells us if we love those that love us, what do we get? We know they love us already, BUT if we love those that don't love us (our enemies or whatever) then we recieve a reward(blessing) for it. Why? Because it's so easy to love those who love us, however it's so hard to love those that are against us, or have hurt us, or something along those lines.
Not sure if it did or not, but hopefully this helped some anyways. Feel free to message me anytime about this or anything else you need prayer, help, or advise on. God bless you!
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Sweetnshy, the only way that i have decided to rid myself of bitterness is, once you have moved passed the initial hurt is to forgive the person with the Love that only God can provide for the other person. See that person as Jesus himself saw the very ones who offered him up and actually crucified him. Pray a Blessing over that person's life and let God have the Bitterness and replace it with his amazing Love. The Love that i am speaking of is not the love that we most of the time know but the love that only Jesus through his Holy Spirit is willing to equip us with. I will keep you in Prayer!
Blessings!
Greg
Blessings!
Greg
I totally agree, and thanks for saying that! Reminded me of something I meant to put and forgot hehe!Do your best to see, accept, love, honor, cherish, forgive, and everything just the way that Jesus does them, you, I, and everyone. Granted it's hard to do, that's the best thing to do. I also agree, that after you move from the initial pain they caused, forgiveness is somewhat easier, not totally easy, but yeah. We also need to do our best to see God in the situation no matter what it is, because He's there, and we learn a lesson from it, and so much more! I'll keep you in prayer and God bless you so much!
D
Romans 8:13 says "if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live." The words "put to death" help me because I think about Jesus on the cross putting to death our sins. And really, thats a good way to release bitterness. Think about how the Lord forgave you for the things youve done and also the things you will do. If you are forgiven, then its easy to forgive someone else. Tell yourself, "This person did me wrong, but I release them of their debt to me." Thats what God did.
B
If you're bitter about circumstances you should repent in dust and ashes, because that's questioning God's goodness and His plan for you. You're the clay, He's the potter. He knows what is best for you. Even if it sometimes doesn't appear that way. So basically, trust Him. Even if it seems hard, that's what it takes.
O
Jesus learned obedience through what he suffered. Hebrews 2:10, 5:8 We must walk a difficult path at times too. We cannot begin to understand the mind of Christ. We rarely understand why the circumstances of our lives happen as they do, but we must trust Him nonetheless. We are all in a process of being refined, renewed, changed, stripped. Jesus allows circumstances to come our way to shape us into the image of Himself. We may never have the answers to all of our questions, we simply must come to a place where we trust in His divine purpose for our lives. Jesus allows certain things to happen because He has things to do in our souls that we are not interested in. We allow certain things to happen because we live in a fallen world. Ask God to remove your bitterness and I believe that He will. Forgive yourself for any past mistakes. Some people turn their frustrations inward and align themselves with the accuser of the brethren. Do not give him anymore fuel. Jesus is our only refuge, if we choose to be angry with God, where else can we turn? Know that with great trial comes great victory. Know that when you are in the place of greatest distress you are closest to the heart of God. He is there in our weakness to bring comfort and peace. Will you trust Him? Will you trust Him?
S
That's too much of a canned, knee-jerk, generic response unless you know the person and the circumstances. You don't know if there's anything to repent about anymore than Job's friends did when they assumed too much about his circumstances. She obviously already knows that the bitterness is something she needs to get rid of. She's asking how. We're all human and it's easy to say we should all be happy at all times and to just deal with hard things, but it's not always easy even for good people who follow Christ to do so. Of course God can and Will give you peace and help you to accept His will if you ask Him to. Not everyone is at the same level in their knowledge of the Word and in their walk with Christ. This person knows that God knows what's best and is having some rough feelings about personal things anyway. She already knows that the feelings are not those that are supposed to be there....she needs prayer and to be lifted up. If she admits and gives details about sin, then she can be corrected, but one shouldn't assume too much when someone comes for help and doesn't give all of the details. What if a person has someone die or is raped? A bitter feeling would be understandable and it would be pretty horrible to tell them that it was God's Will they were raped so repent and be glad, wouldn't it? You have to use tact and common sense even when giving the clear and sometimes hard to swallow truth of the Word.
Oneholyfire...that was great advice.
Oneholyfire...that was great advice.
B
It was a generic question, so a generic response was appropriate. Trusting God is the way out of it. Because he ultimately is in control of what happens, and he brings things to our lives to conform us into the image of Christ. Here are a couple of verses to consider..
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 (KJV)
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
1 Thess 5:18 (KJV)
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 (KJV)
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
1 Thess 5:18 (KJV)
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But it's not a generic person with a generic situation. I have no problems with you saying trust in God because He's in control and will work things out for the best. It's telling someone to repent for their feelings that I think you should be careful about saying when you don't know the situation. It may apply to her and then it may not. Would you really say that to someone who was bitter after being raped? That they should repent for having harsh feelings? She clearly already knows and accepts that God's ways are best and is going to live by that no matter what. She wants to know how to control and make her feelings conform to what she already knows in her mind. Job's friends assumed too much and so gave bad advice to Job telling him to repent because he must have done some wrong too.
S
Yes I do. It wasn't meant to be harsh, just to say we should think and be careful of what we say to someone requesting help if we don't know all of the information. I've been guilty of doing that myself plenty of times. I don't think what Baptistrw said was wrong or that he was being mean or anything, just that it didn't apply to this persons situation. We should all be careful of saying things when trying to help someone if they don't give all of the details to us.
O
Shawn makes a perfectly good point. I have witnessed here many times the harshness of other Christians. Maybe it is not our intention, but clearly it can cause harm. The Lord has taught me so much in the past year of my life about temperance. We must temper our words and temper our responses. If we don't know about a situation, then we must be even more cautious in our response. That is why it is so important to seek wisdom and counsel from the Holy Spirit. If we pray before we speak He will guide our thoughts and our words. So often times we deliver our own advice, our own answers, without asking for discernment. I too, have been guilty of this on far too many occassions, but it is something that the Lord is convicting me about. A wise Brazilian friend from CC told me once, that often times Christians are nothing more than a nuisance, because they talk about the bad news instead of the GOOD news. Every answer, every word we share with another should be full of hope and encouragement. Even when rebuke is necessary it should be delivered gently and in love. Often this is not the case. We must tenderly care for one another and lift each other up. Our words should speak grace, peace, hope, LIFE !!!
B
A little counseling would help greatly. I have to get some emotional counseling when I am struggling with certain issues like that. Because sometimes they are connected to something older and we don't even realize and that is why we can't let go. Self discovery clears up alot of issues we as christians face. honestly
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