Help: Virginity and Test Drive a Car Before You Buy It!

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"Test Drive a Car before you Buy It?"

  • Yes

    Votes: 2 6.9%

  • No

    Votes: 27 93.1%
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kthespis

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Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity :) And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.

Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
 
Desdichado

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Must...resist...dirty joke...urge...
 
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1still_waters

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Your question assumes sex is the chief reason for getting married.
If sex is your chief reason for getting married, then you probably shouldn't be getting married.

You should for sure discuss sexual expectations before marriage. Make sure you're on the same page.

If after discovering you're on the same page concerning sexual expectations, ending a relationship/marriage because they just don't meet performance desires, would be a very shallow reason to end said marriage/relationship.
 
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1still_waters

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The point of buying a car is to drive it.
Hence you should of course get a test drive.


The point of getting married isn't just to have sex.
Hence the whole test drive thing doesn't really apply.
 
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If you're truly a christian "try before you buy" isn't trusting God at all. But then again, a true christian wouldn't ask, would he?:rolleyes:
 
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kayem77

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kthespis said:
Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity :) And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.

Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
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Can I ask where is this wisdom coming from? I have a feeling that the people who are telling you this aren't even Christian. As stillwaters said, the point of marriage is not sex. I don't even know where to start explaining how that mentality is sinful on so many levels.....
 
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ji

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kthespis said:
Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity :) And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.

Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
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Do not listen to people of the world.They don't know the truth.
Marry the woman God gives you and Love her till the end.It's about responsibilities,not sex.Immoral sex before marriage is an abomination to God.Reconcile with God and never do it again.Human relationship is much higher than all relationships God created,because man was created in God's image.Much lesser are other relationships.You should not even compare that with cars.How much higher is the value of human life then??
This is not a game.You are playing with fire.Ignorance till now is ok. But you must turn to God.God will make you a best husband for a one time life long marriage instead of 'just for sex' attitude.
Otherwise when you move according to the way of your fantasies, you will wind up loosing yourself.
From God Love flows,and without Love all the affairs you get into will be utter failure because everyone you meet are just as selfish as you.I think you get the point.
Turn to God,accept Jesus as your personal Savior.Follow Him till the end of your life.He will answer all your future doubts than people who live in worldly fashion,who will change what they say next time you see them.
God Bless.
 
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There are risks to getting married.

What if we aren't sexually compatible?
(Let's sleep together first and find out.)

What if we both have annoying habits that make living together miserable?
(Let's just move in together and see first.)

What if, years down the road, one of us loses their job, or is diagnosed with a disease?
(Let's just live together and have sex but never get married. That way we are safe.)

There comes a point when you just have to risk it all. These little "safeguards" aren't going to make your marriage more secure. In fact, people who "try out" marriage before actually getting married have statistically higher divorce rates than those who make the commitment, get married, and live life together.
 
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kthespis

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kayem77 said:
Can I ask where is this wisdom coming from? I have a feeling that the people who are telling you this aren't even Christian. As stillwaters said, the point of marriage is not sex. I don't even know where to start explaining how that mentality is sinful on so many levels.....
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I agree, it's secular knowledge, which leaves me baffled. But is there truth to test driving and finding out if you're physically compatible?
 
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kthespis

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
There are risks to getting married.

What if we aren't sexually compatible?
(Let's sleep together first and find out.)

What if we both have annoying habits that make living together miserable?
(Let's just move in together and see first.)

What if, years down the road, one of us loses their job, or is diagnosed with a disease?
(Let's just live together and have sex but never get married. That way we are safe.)

There comes a point when you just have to risk it all. These little "safeguards" aren't going to make your marriage more secure. In fact, people who "try out" marriage before actually getting married have statistically higher divorce rates than those who make the commitment, get married, and live life together.
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Thank you, Grace Like Rain! I love "...you just have to risk it all." I appreciate being reminded of that :)
 
Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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kthespis said:
I agree, it's secular knowledge, which leaves me baffled. But is there truth to test driving and finding out if you're physically compatible?
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I would think it more appropriate to have a conversation about those issues, preferences, etc, when you are at the point in your relationship that you're thinking about marriage.
 
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just_monicat

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i agree with what's been said here.

also, if you don't value obedience to God, or your own relationship with Him, perhaps you should think about the ramifications your actions might have on this girl.

what you're asking about is going to open doors that will affect more than you--you're playing a role in another's sin and walk with God (assuming she's a christian). you have no idea (or control over) how this could affect her in the future, christian or not.

sex outside of marriage doesn't clarify or answer questions, as much as it just creates new ones.
 
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faroukfarouk

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just_monicat said:
i agree with what's been said here.

also, if you don't value obedience to God, or your own relationship with Him, perhaps you should think about the ramifications your actions might have on this girl.

what you're asking about is going to open doors that will affect more than you--you're playing a role in another's sin and walk with God (assuming she's a christian). you have no idea (or control over) how this could affect her in the future, christian or not.

sex outside of marriage doesn't clarify or answer questions, as much as it just creates new ones.
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Am I allowed to post here since I have a wife? :)

All sorts of problems can be avoided if people would only stick to God's way as revealed in Scripture.

Some people have gotten themselves and others into huge, life-changing problems just because they were 'in a hurry' with this matter.
 
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faroukfarouk

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PS: I also think it is frankly degrading to womanhood to speak of their bodies as if they were used cars.
 
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BananaPie

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kthespis said:
Is there truth to this?
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Nope, according to God, coitus is a privilege for one man united to one woman in holy marriage.

Remember, "marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled, for fornicators and adulterers God will judge" (Hebrews 13:4).

Never forget, "House and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord" (Proverbs 19:14).

The sooner you carve your mind with holy thoughts, the more honorable you & your household will be. ...just saying. :)
 
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MidniteWelder

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kthespis said:
Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity :) And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.

Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
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here's the thing about people telling you what to do with your life/wife and the relationship with cars.

Some may tell you to buy a Honda because they think it is best.
Others may tell you to buy a Ford because they're American made
Others may say hey ya know get yourself a Ferrari and you'll never get tired of driving it.

The thing is, you may try out a Honda and a Ford and a Ferrari based upon someone elses assertions and then 2 years later
You find the Ferrari needs routine high maintenance
The Ford may be old reliable but find she doesn't really like to get started in the morning
And the Honda may be economic but a little too dainty for your own personal taste.
Then you later may say,
"ya know, I really wish I would have just done my own research and made my own decision and bought a Toyota."
It's easy on the eyes, doesn't cause many problems, and is nice to spend time with.
And find what no one else said bore any relevance to you.

Point being, do your research, know what you want and will be content with before
making a lifelong decision to be available to someone as well as them to you.
Know what you want first, as opposed to deciding after.
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kthespis

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just_monicat said:
i agree with what's been said here.

also, if you don't value obedience to God, or your own relationship with Him, perhaps you should think about the ramifications your actions might have on this girl.

what you're asking about is going to open doors that will affect more than you--you're playing a role in another's sin and walk with God (assuming she's a christian). you have no idea (or control over) how this could affect her in the future, christian or not.

sex outside of marriage doesn't clarify or answer questions, as much as it just creates new ones.
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Thank you, just_monicat! "Sex outside of marriage doesn't clarify or answer questions, as much as it just creates new ones." Great advice!
 
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kthespis

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faroukfarouk said:
Am I allowed to post here since I have a wife? :)

All sorts of problems can be avoided if people would only stick to God's way as revealed in Scripture.

Some people have gotten themselves and others into huge, life-changing problems just because they were 'in a hurry' with this matter.
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Being married, I really appreciate your wisdom on the matter. Thank you for guidance! And I will be mindful not to be 'in a hurry.'
 
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