Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

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dothackzero

dothackzero

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Blah, I really don't see how I'll get a girlfriend that this point. The only places that I go where there's any girls are at work, but the girls don't talk to me, and at chruch, and the girls ignore me too.
 
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oapercy

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Hello Friend,
Christianity does not encourage boyfriend and girlfriend because often the devil lies there to sow the seed of corruption into these supposed sons of God. Love communications such as kissing, pecking, necking etc often land us in what GOD has always warned us against, which is premarital sex. This is because sex beyond the feelings is a spiritual activity which can land one in big spiritual life battle. If you are ready for marriage, then go for courtship. Ask God to give you the wife he has in stock for you and you can also be in the look out for the manifestation

Cheers

oapercy


dothackzero said:
I'm 20, I've never had a girlfriend. I've never even been kissed by a girl. Even the girls that hang with me and my best friends don't like me or really talk to me. I don't think they'd really even qualify me as a friend.

I've been praying for a girlfriend for over 5years.

There are no singles group at my church. All the girls there are either too old for, too young for me, have a boyfriend, or just don't like me.

I love God, and I'm trying to become a stronger Christian all the time.
I'm waiting until after I'm married for sex.
I don't drink
I don't smoke
I don't do drugs
I'm a virgin
I'm waiting till I'm married for sex.(This include oral and anal)
I'm a computer geek
I'm planning on becoming a video game programmer.(I'm actually pretty sure that's what God wants me to do too.)

I do have basic hygine.
I brush my teeth
I shower
I use deorderent
I don't smell badly.

I'm about 5-8" or 5-9" feet tall.
I have dirty blond hair.
I have no disfiguring scars or anything like that.

Personalty:
I'm nice.
loyal
respect(I actually look at a girl's face when I'm talking to a girl, and not her breasts)
sincere
I listen to what girls have to say, and actually care what they are feeling and saying.
trusting
honest
smart
I'm shy
I have low self confidence
I have perverted mind, and like perverted jokes, though I don't act on the pervertedness.
I like touching when it comes to girls(Nothing sexual till married) Just stuff like hugs.
I'm very lonely.
I have OCD(Around 80% contained, yay God): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
GAD(Around 80% contained, yay Jesus): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
ADD(Not bad enough to cause any real problems): http://www.add-adhd.org/ADHD_attention-d...
TMJ: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temporomand...
Social Anxiety: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
and a touch of depression(Probably connected to my lonelyness.).

From my facebook...

Religious Views:Non-denominational Christian

Personal InformationActivities:Video games, Anime, Progamming, and 3D Modeling, Just having fun

Interests:Video games, Anime, Progamming, 3D Modeling, music, movies, computers, computer parts(Watching how strong they are becoming), hanging out with my friends, Trying to become a stronger Christian, Trying to make new friends, Mythology

Favorite Music:After Forever, Children of Bodom,
Daath, Dark Moor,
Drowning Pool, Epica,
Killswitch Engage, Lunatica,
Nightwish, Powerman 5000,
Soilwork, SpineShank,
Static-X, The Agony Scene,
Celldweller, In Flames,
Dir en Grey, Maximum the Hormone,
Disciple, DethKlok,
Five Finger Death Punch, Krypteria,
Slipknot, Shadows Fall,
Silent Civilian, Sonic Syndicate,
Avenged Sevenfold, War of Ages,
Machine Head, Schoolyard Heroes,
Mudvayne, Sybreed,
Threat Signal

Favorite TV Shows:
Normal shows: Kyle XY, The Middle Man
Cartoons: Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Venture Bros, Robot Chicken, Family Guy, futurama
Anime: Bleach, Naruto, One Piece, Death Note, Busou Renkin, Yu Yu Hakusho, Full Metal Panic, Full Metal Alchemist

Favorite Movies: 300, Hellboy, The Dark Knight, Knowing, anything funny

Books:Bible, I don't read much else except stuff to help me out with 3D modeling and programming
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CIRBaptist

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Baptistrw said:
Yeah the anime and computer geek stuff might chase girls off. And the pervertedness will chase off Christian girls.
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Yes thank you....
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I suffer from OCD and GAD too how did you conquer yours?
 
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ilavjesus

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i think you are too young to think be afraid to be single forever...dude just enjoy being single and free...fly high...and please God in everything you do...He will surely give great reward for you...
 
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Darin

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“Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…”– Thoreau

u r 20 !!!! sooooooo young!!!! turn your attention to God n He will give you the best girl !!!!!!!!!! trust Him!!! ))
 
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Leilaii425

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#326
Darin said:
“Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…”– Thoreau

u r 20 !!!! sooooooo young!!!! turn your attention to God n He will give you the best girl !!!!!!!!!! trust Him!!! ))
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and if he doesnt give you the best girl....... go buy a dog
 
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Liquid

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Dude im in the same boat never had a girl never been kissed and i know it can be a time to grow closer to god but you know being alone for me really sucks. I guess im not as strong as other christian men but we all have are weakneses right and im still going to pray for somebody to come into my life and ill pray for you as well.
 
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Divya

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dothackzero said:
Hopefully a great girl.
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God might have a better plan to use you for His glory... our lives don't revolve around relationships you know?

Dont' worry man.. you sound like a nice guy... But, i guess you are just worried by seeing people around you... i get that too... Don't get depressed.. when you are lonely just sit in your room and talk to Jesus.. Don't pray, talk.. like how you would to a friend...

He does have the perfect girl for you and he will bring her to you.. dont' worry...


God bless
 
mercyswolf

mercyswolf

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Dothack I encourage you to look at Philippians 4:11 and see what paul has to say about every situation in life. "Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content." Proverbs 20:22 "Say not thou, I will recompense evil;but wait on the Lord, and he shall save thee." If we keep our eyes on Him...HE will give us what we ask for in His timing.
 
mercyswolf

mercyswolf

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But remember this too...sometimes He may have something bigger planned for us so He may also tell you no.
 
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theowlight

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You sound so cool and interesting. I dont really understand why you dont have many girls after you. If you can look into groups of peep with the same interests. Witty intellligent conversations can scare some girls off or turn some girls on to you. Having confidence is SO IMPORTANT. Even if you can try to fake the confidence, that is a good idea. You already have the cool personality, so be confident in that...most girls are not as COOL as you true dat. Just because they are pretty or dress well, mayby they do not know alot about things in general and are insecure about intelligent things...mayby you can use that to your advantage.
 
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theowlight

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By the way I'm a chick, I have OCD bad...ugg hate it, it dirupts my life, am going trou a boad one right now..... but I tell you I have alot of confidence. I know guys will love me and find me cool. Just think this...( I ROCK)!
 
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theowlight

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srry for misspells.........read alot, be smart, try to dress well and stylish... cool jeans shirts in style ( look to magazines) helps with your outward appearance. But ultimalty be looking for someon that loves the Lord.
 
Kakashi

Kakashi

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oopsies

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Abing said:
haha, still single at 20??? wow you're blessed dude, having a girlfriend is another chapter, God must be preparing you for something great.
but yeah seriously, 20 is young. i know a lot of men who are older and yet still single,but they dont take it as a burden, its a blessing, and its hard to achieve, make it the other wayy around, let Christ's image be seen instead of you and haha im pretty sure girls will be runnng after you.
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I'm still single... sometimes it's a blessing, but sometimes it is lonely. :)
 
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sonofgod

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what did ISAAC did when he was alone and when his mother died?

meditate bible.

you will get your wife


dothackzero said:
I'm 20, I've never had a girlfriend. I've never even been kissed by a gir
l. Even the girls that hang with me and my best friends don't like me or really talk to me. I don't think they'd really even qualify me as a friend.

I've been praying for a girlfriend for over 5years.

There are no singles group at my church. All the girls there are either too old for, too young for me, have a boyfriend, or just don't like me.

I love God, and I'm trying to become a stronger Christian all the time.
I'm waiting until after I'm married for sex.
I don't drink
I don't smoke
I don't do drugs
I'm a virgin
I'm waiting till I'm married for sex.(This include oral and anal)
I'm a computer geek
I'm planning on becoming a video game programmer.(I'm actually pretty sure that's what God wants me to do too.)

I do have basic hygine.
I brush my teeth
I shower
I use deorderent
I don't smell badly.

I'm about 5-8" or 5-9" feet tall.
I have dirty blond hair.
I have no disfiguring scars or anything like that.

Personalty:
I'm nice.
loyal
respect(I actually look at a girl's face when I'm talking to a girl, and not her breasts)
sincere
I listen to what girls have to say, and actually care what they are feeling and saying.
trusting
honest
smart
I'm shy
I have low self confidence
I have perverted mind, and like perverted jokes, though I don't act on the pervertedness.
I like touching when it comes to girls(Nothing sexual till married) Just stuff like hugs.
I'm very lonely.
I have OCD(Around 80% contained, yay God): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
GAD(Around 80% contained, yay Jesus): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
ADD(Not bad enough to cause any real problems): http://www.add-adhd.org/ADHD_attention-d...
TMJ: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temporomand...
Social Anxiety: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide...
and a touch of depression(Probably connected to my lonelyness.).

From my facebook...

Religious Views:Non-denominational Christian

Personal InformationActivities:Video games, Anime, Progamming, and 3D Modeling, Just having fun

Interests:Video games, Anime, Progamming, 3D Modeling, music, movies, computers, computer parts(Watching how strong they are becoming), hanging out with my friends, Trying to become a stronger Christian, Trying to make new friends, Mythology

Favorite Music:After Forever, Children of Bodom,
Daath, Dark Moor,
Drowning Pool, Epica,
Killswitch Engage, Lunatica,
Nightwish, Powerman 5000,
Soilwork, SpineShank,
Static-X, The Agony Scene,
Celldweller, In Flames,
Dir en Grey, Maximum the Hormone,
Disciple, DethKlok,
Five Finger Death Punch, Krypteria,
Slipknot, Shadows Fall,
Silent Civilian, Sonic Syndicate,
Avenged Sevenfold, War of Ages,
Machine Head, Schoolyard Heroes,
Mudvayne, Sybreed,
Threat Signal

Favorite TV Shows:
Normal shows: Kyle XY, The Middle Man
Cartoons: Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Venture Bros, Robot Chicken, Family Guy, futurama
Anime: Bleach, Naruto, One Piece, Death Note, Busou Renkin, Yu Yu Hakusho, Full Metal Panic, Full Metal Alchemist

Favorite Movies: 300, Hellboy, The Dark Knight, Knowing, anything funny

Books:Bible, I don't read much else except stuff to help me out with 3D modeling and programming
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