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Dear sis,
I am so sorry to read your post and see that you're having such a hard time.
I know it sounds extremely condescending when people say it, but the truth is, you're young. ( I am young.) You have your whole life ahead of you.
You are your own individual and you have your own identity. There's still time ahead for you to achieve what you must.
I am sure your parents didn't achieve everything they did overnight. Things are built up over time. Right now you feel unstable but it's just that phase. Everything is so new and vast, and the future seems turbulent.
Honestly I feel that way as well many, many times. Future plans, decisions, things I need to do - overwhelm me and when I am unable to finish or live up to a certain expectation, I get crushed.
These expectations are not only by others, which are actually far less, but of my own. So don't beat yourself up over those things. You are not alone.
You are a talented writer and a sensitive person. I've read your blogs and your posts, and I can say you're a highly intelligent, deep person.
I am sorry people don't see you for that, but at least you're aware of who your true friends are.
As for this guy, again, things take time. If this is meant to be , it will run its course and reach its destination. The Bible does say not to be anxious about anything.
Time is your best friend and let what must happen, happen. God is in control of everything and life is a gift. God loves you very much and even though it may not seem like it always but I am sure people around you love you too.
I love you. Take care and don't feel upset by the antics of petty people. Don't let these things get you down.
Take care, and warm hugs.
Phillipians 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Dear sis,
I am so sorry to read your post and see that you're having such a hard time.
I know it sounds extremely condescending when people say it, but the truth is, you're young. ( I am young.) You have your whole life ahead of you.
You are your own individual and you have your own identity. There's still time ahead for you to achieve what you must.
I am sure your parents didn't achieve everything they did overnight. Things are built up over time. Right now you feel unstable but it's just that phase. Everything is so new and vast, and the future seems turbulent.
Honestly I feel that way as well many, many times. Future plans, decisions, things I need to do - overwhelm me and when I am unable to finish or live up to a certain expectation, I get crushed.
These expectations are not only by others, which are actually far less, but of my own. So don't beat yourself up over those things. You are not alone.
You are a talented writer and a sensitive person. I've read your blogs and your posts, and I can say you're a highly intelligent, deep person.
I am sorry people don't see you for that, but at least you're aware of who your true friends are.
As for this guy, again, things take time. If this is meant to be , it will run its course and reach its destination. The Bible does say not to be anxious about anything.
Time is your best friend and let what must happen, happen. God is in control of everything and life is a gift. God loves you very much and even though it may not seem like it always but I am sure people around you love you too.
I love you. Take care and don't feel upset by the antics of petty people. Don't let these things get you down.
Take care, and warm hugs.
Phillipians 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
How much older is a lot older? Because at 16 (let alone at 14 when you must have started this 2 year relationship) even 5 years is a huge difference. People grow and change tremendously during their high school and university years. If you think it is unhealthy, and you want to grow in your Christian walk and he shows no interest in doing so, then staying with him is not a healthy thing. You don't need to wait for your feelings to confirm what your good sense already tells you. And remember, eventually either one of you will end this relationship or you will marry him; there are no other options. And yes I have to raise the concerns other's have about why this guy would want to date someone significantly younger, underage, and still very much developing into her own person.
Do you have any adults you can trust that you can talk to about this? Though we all do it, strangers on the internet are hardly the best resource for such important life advice. And if for any reason this guy has been asking you to keep your relationship a secret from the people you know, drop him now. That is not something a guy with pure, honorable intentions would do.
Do you have any adults you can trust that you can talk to about this? Though we all do it, strangers on the internet are hardly the best resource for such important life advice. And if for any reason this guy has been asking you to keep your relationship a secret from the people you know, drop him now. That is not something a guy with pure, honorable intentions would do.
R
That JUST happen to me a few weeks ago. I say rejoice 
Spins me out I had to wait 2 decades, but I do wonder if perhaps I was like pharaoh with the 10 plagues of Egypt....
Pharaoh - "take these plagues away!"
Moses - "Set the time and I will take them away."
Pharaoh (perhaps the stupidest moment in human history) - "tomorrow, take them away tomorrow".
*shrugs* unknowingly, perhaps I was hoping as perhaps Pharaoh was hoping, that I could do it myself so I could do it on my own terms. I wonder if we as humans do that a lot. Spose we should have all learnt the lesson by then that God's terms are always better.
Anyhoo, haha sorry didnt mean to get onto my sermon soapbox - much rejoicing for your thing i hope, Cristen
Blessings,
- Rush
Spins me out I had to wait 2 decades, but I do wonder if perhaps I was like pharaoh with the 10 plagues of Egypt....
Pharaoh - "take these plagues away!"
Moses - "Set the time and I will take them away."
Pharaoh (perhaps the stupidest moment in human history) - "tomorrow, take them away tomorrow".
*shrugs* unknowingly, perhaps I was hoping as perhaps Pharaoh was hoping, that I could do it myself so I could do it on my own terms. I wonder if we as humans do that a lot. Spose we should have all learnt the lesson by then that God's terms are always better.
Anyhoo, haha sorry didnt mean to get onto my sermon soapbox - much rejoicing for your thing i hope, Cristen
Blessings,
- Rush
W
ww: I know it's a cliché but: Be yourself, everyone else is taken.
God made you you. He knows the number of hairs on your head- He knows your future. He has plans for you.
Don't "climb the ladder" trying to get up to where others are. Most likely the people who seem to be at the top, wish they weren't
I recommend a book called Living on the ragged edge, it puts the whole "I have to be better" rush in a perspective
*hugs*
God made you you. He knows the number of hairs on your head- He knows your future. He has plans for you.
Don't "climb the ladder" trying to get up to where others are. Most likely the people who seem to be at the top, wish they weren't
I recommend a book called Living on the ragged edge, it puts the whole "I have to be better" rush in a perspective
*hugs*
When you are ready, and not before. I have ran storage and had people that stored the belongings and could not get rid of them, held on and still hold on. They would come to storage at least once a month and sit open up and stare
Some settled, some didn't, yet it was their time, not mine, or anyone else's ever
So they knew whenever they were ready, they were ready, any nudging, would be forcing, and I hope we all learn to let each other be, tell out stories of what has happened, and let the one reading do the deciding, to easy right?
Well that is the to me, the exact representation of God's love to all, even though we all go one day to the spirit in the sky
Love you sis take your time
Some settled, some didn't, yet it was their time, not mine, or anyone else's ever
So they knew whenever they were ready, they were ready, any nudging, would be forcing, and I hope we all learn to let each other be, tell out stories of what has happened, and let the one reading do the deciding, to easy right?
Well that is the to me, the exact representation of God's love to all, even though we all go one day to the spirit in the sky
Love you sis take your time
Hope this gives you insight?
I know of a friend in the past, that did not believe, and was in a relationship, one day she got saved and deciding no more sleeping together with her boyfriend until they either got married or they broke up.
And she told him that, he did not leave and they did not have relations anymore, until married and they did marry and had two children, awesome, not a bed of roses.
So morrow of this sis, does he love you enough to give up everything he likes and wants of his flesh for you?
And how long will he last, for sure he would agree at first, for how long? How long is enough for you 1 Month, two, three or at least 6, it was a year for them. so I say they do love each other in denying flesh desire over the person, neither one is a piece of meat, get it?
I know of a friend in the past, that did not believe, and was in a relationship, one day she got saved and deciding no more sleeping together with her boyfriend until they either got married or they broke up.
And she told him that, he did not leave and they did not have relations anymore, until married and they did marry and had two children, awesome, not a bed of roses.
So morrow of this sis, does he love you enough to give up everything he likes and wants of his flesh for you?
And how long will he last, for sure he would agree at first, for how long? How long is enough for you 1 Month, two, three or at least 6, it was a year for them. so I say they do love each other in denying flesh desire over the person, neither one is a piece of meat, get it?
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Sis you just reminded me of the Application I had given out to all those that wanted to date my Daughter, and it asked rigorous ?'s, and at the end of this three page questionnaire, it stated allow, 3 years to process, she was 15 at that time.
so yep, and I think that now there should be an official application for passing to date our daughters, and if man could start seeing all as his daughter in love true love would have and show respect to all women, when they see them and see them as Sister and or Daughter in God's love, period, just how I have come to see, and did not always see it this way, yet am and have been taught this
So all men reading think on this wise please, all women think on this wise as well, when seeing men think, they are yuor Son's or your Brothers please
The perniciousness in this world has gone tooooooooooo far compassion has been thrown out the window for many, and here it is sticking around, so I thank you all to see reality over stupidity and give up what you think you might need at the moment for what you know you need in the long run, Love eternal
Sorry went on a rampage, remembering all the guys I warded off, only thinking of themselves, which I had when I was younger as well, tempted as all get tempted, yet decided what is is not to be with me, and turned to God for the help IO needed to understand and stood right there at the throne of grace,not budging, to hear and know, how to truly love neighbor as God through Son loved me.
Praying all here do the same and do not give up to know how deep this love is for you, and all
so yep, and I think that now there should be an official application for passing to date our daughters, and if man could start seeing all as his daughter in love true love would have and show respect to all women, when they see them and see them as Sister and or Daughter in God's love, period, just how I have come to see, and did not always see it this way, yet am and have been taught this
So all men reading think on this wise please, all women think on this wise as well, when seeing men think, they are yuor Son's or your Brothers please
The perniciousness in this world has gone tooooooooooo far compassion has been thrown out the window for many, and here it is sticking around, so I thank you all to see reality over stupidity and give up what you think you might need at the moment for what you know you need in the long run, Love eternal
Sorry went on a rampage, remembering all the guys I warded off, only thinking of themselves, which I had when I was younger as well, tempted as all get tempted, yet decided what is is not to be with me, and turned to God for the help IO needed to understand and stood right there at the throne of grace,not budging, to hear and know, how to truly love neighbor as God through Son loved me.
Praying all here do the same and do not give up to know how deep this love is for you, and all