I am going to speak my mind alright! I am bothered and frustrated with things that people are writing about infidelity in other threads. They continually say "Once a cheater, always a cheater" ... or "he/she will never change", they think they know it all and are God. It's not all true. I WAS a cheater, and I admitted it. It took a lot for me to 'come out' and admit that shameful sin, but I did. I talked to my pastor about it. I spoke to other's about it. I wish that they would not fit everyone into that category, because one CAN CHANGE their evil ways and repent of their sins. Brother RoboOp, LoveLea and Pastor Jeshuvan here at CC prayed with me and for me, and told me that when you ask God for forgiveness, he will forgive you. I repented of my sins, and do not plan on going down that road any longer. Sure, temptation comes and goes, with Satan trying to coax me to go back to his lifestyle, but I will have no part of it. So please ...YES cheaters CAN change. I live for God now, and not for myself or others. I'm happy that I found the pastor that I did. He prayed for me as well.