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Nude photos of who? To whose husband?
Oh heck, might as well give scenarios and cover the possibilities.
Nude photos of yourself to someone else's husband: wrong. (adultery)
Nude photos of someone else to your husband: wrong. (complicit in adultery)
Nude photos of someone else to someone else's husband: wrong. (either complicit in adultery or just creepy)
Nude photos of yourself to your husband: frick. I don't even know. If you feel convicted, you probably shouldn't do it.
Oh heck, might as well give scenarios and cover the possibilities.
Nude photos of yourself to someone else's husband: wrong. (adultery)
Nude photos of someone else to your husband: wrong. (complicit in adultery)
Nude photos of someone else to someone else's husband: wrong. (either complicit in adultery or just creepy)
Nude photos of yourself to your husband: frick. I don't even know. If you feel convicted, you probably shouldn't do it.
i personally can't think of a single reason, biblically, why you can't send images to your husband.
however, i will also echo servantstrike's point in that you are taking a risk in doing so.
also, if it were me (at the very least) i'd want to make sure my husband had a security lock on his phone and this wasn't accessible to others. i do believe you both have a reasonable obligation to make sure these images don't end up being viewed by others.
the warnings about pornography are many, but the root of it is about lust. but that doesn't apply between a husband and wife.
ultimately, it's your call. so, while it may not be prudent, it is not wrong.
as to those who claim it is wrong: please do provide some biblical basis for your opinion. i'm quite curious why you claim it to be wrong.
sometimes people find and come to cc for the purpose of getting an answer to something they are concerned about. this may certainly be true in her case.
further, i don't think that talking about her as if she is wrong for doing so is terribly hospitable, regardless of what question led them here.
however, i will also echo servantstrike's point in that you are taking a risk in doing so.
also, if it were me (at the very least) i'd want to make sure my husband had a security lock on his phone and this wasn't accessible to others. i do believe you both have a reasonable obligation to make sure these images don't end up being viewed by others.
the warnings about pornography are many, but the root of it is about lust. but that doesn't apply between a husband and wife.
ultimately, it's your call. so, while it may not be prudent, it is not wrong.
as to those who claim it is wrong: please do provide some biblical basis for your opinion. i'm quite curious why you claim it to be wrong.
sometimes people find and come to cc for the purpose of getting an answer to something they are concerned about. this may certainly be true in her case.
further, i don't think that talking about her as if she is wrong for doing so is terribly hospitable, regardless of what question led them here.
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how can this be "pornography" if it is between a husband and a wife? and further, if it technically falls under "porn" there is no verse about pornography in the bible, only the inherent sin that accompanies this.
can you please explain why it is wrong? do you have any biblical basis for your opinion? thanks. : )
i too am quite eager to hear why this is "definitely" wrong, and whether this is simply your opinion or if you have a biblical basis for this. thanks. : )
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Hey gypsgirl. 
The parties involved are irrelevant with respect to the definition of pornography. Are you thinking of porn in the marketed sense? You're right that there is no verse about porn, though I'm not clear where you were going with that.
No, I won't explain why it's wrong as that was not my position (and therefore won't be adding Biblical support, as well as for the reason that we agree there's no specific Scripture speaking to porn).
Definition (within context of OP): the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement - source
I was speaking without bias or conjecture in my previous post. Apologies for any confusion!
The parties involved are irrelevant with respect to the definition of pornography. Are you thinking of porn in the marketed sense? You're right that there is no verse about porn, though I'm not clear where you were going with that.
No, I won't explain why it's wrong as that was not my position (and therefore won't be adding Biblical support, as well as for the reason that we agree there's no specific Scripture speaking to porn).
Definition (within context of OP): the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement - source
I was speaking without bias or conjecture in my previous post. Apologies for any confusion!
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Because?
When you put it that way, if it's between a husband and wife, that sounds kind of awesome! Can you work fire into that definition somehow?
So that's one misunderstanding out of the way.
I'd recommend no phones period, they're remarkably unsecure devices. No text or email of any kind, because they can get opened at the wrong time and get your spouse fired, and because the data is now living on a server you don't control.
I'm not saying people can't do this, but if they do, they need to go offline with it.
I've given this some more thought though, and I can see circumstances in which it might be wrong, and others where it might actually be right (or at least neutral).
Wrong:
- If the images fell into the hands of a third party. There are some pretty bad worst case scenarios here, like stories I've read about children finding images of their parents naked and passing them around because they didn't realize that parents were attractive too once upon a time. The emotional scarring that would cause is... terrifying. But that would be physical media floating around - which is also dumb.
- If they are intended to allow one spouse to see the other naked without interaction. That would be denying your spouse, and it would also be a really destructive pattern in a marriage.
- If this sort of thing is to emulate previous or ongoing bad behavior, as in these aren't the only naked pictures floating around. If the spouse asking has a porn problem, then it would be pretty abhorrent for the other party to end up as part of some "collection."
Neutral, possibly right:
- Super long business trip. What if there is spotty telephone reception, or no 4G or secure Wi Fi for video communication (which could be like sending naked pictures without having them saved).
- Deployment overseas. I mean come on, a year without seeing your spouse nekkid? That would be horrific.
- Diagnosed with terminal illness and the spouse has determined not to remarry. That's... way out there, but I'm sure someone has done it.
I have never given this much thought to be honest. It was so far down my list of what if's I don't know why I would have to begin with, but it's an interesting discussion.
When you put it that way, if it's between a husband and wife, that sounds kind of awesome! Can you work fire into that definition somehow?
So that's one misunderstanding out of the way.
I'd recommend no phones period, they're remarkably unsecure devices. No text or email of any kind, because they can get opened at the wrong time and get your spouse fired, and because the data is now living on a server you don't control.
I'm not saying people can't do this, but if they do, they need to go offline with it.
I've given this some more thought though, and I can see circumstances in which it might be wrong, and others where it might actually be right (or at least neutral).
Wrong:
- If the images fell into the hands of a third party. There are some pretty bad worst case scenarios here, like stories I've read about children finding images of their parents naked and passing them around because they didn't realize that parents were attractive too once upon a time. The emotional scarring that would cause is... terrifying. But that would be physical media floating around - which is also dumb.
- If they are intended to allow one spouse to see the other naked without interaction. That would be denying your spouse, and it would also be a really destructive pattern in a marriage.
- If this sort of thing is to emulate previous or ongoing bad behavior, as in these aren't the only naked pictures floating around. If the spouse asking has a porn problem, then it would be pretty abhorrent for the other party to end up as part of some "collection."
Neutral, possibly right:
- Super long business trip. What if there is spotty telephone reception, or no 4G or secure Wi Fi for video communication (which could be like sending naked pictures without having them saved).
- Deployment overseas. I mean come on, a year without seeing your spouse nekkid? That would be horrific.
- Diagnosed with terminal illness and the spouse has determined not to remarry. That's... way out there, but I'm sure someone has done it.
I have never given this much thought to be honest. It was so far down my list of what if's I don't know why I would have to begin with, but it's an interesting discussion.
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I'm just making wild assumptions here, but I feel that what you do with your husband sexually is between you both. If he wants nude photos of you and you want to send them to him then that's up to you both! When it comes to sex between spouses should there be a limit? Again, up to you both. I would be concerned about other people getting a hold of those photos, because once they're out in space then they're out there forever and ever amen!
I've heard some people have opinions on this kind of thing, like you shouldn't get your husband (or wife for that matter) sexually aroused when you're not physically with them. For example, don't send your husband off to work just after you've aroused him or else he'll be thinking about it all day and will seek release when you're not there, which he shouldn't be doing. Same with weeklong business trips. The temptation to access porn might be too great. However, that's if he has a porn issue, which is a different topic altogether!
... I'm on the fence on this one, but mainly because of having a hard copy or digital image of you naked for somebody else to accidentally see is pretty risky.
I've heard some people have opinions on this kind of thing, like you shouldn't get your husband (or wife for that matter) sexually aroused when you're not physically with them. For example, don't send your husband off to work just after you've aroused him or else he'll be thinking about it all day and will seek release when you're not there, which he shouldn't be doing. Same with weeklong business trips. The temptation to access porn might be too great. However, that's if he has a porn issue, which is a different topic altogether!
... I'm on the fence on this one, but mainly because of having a hard copy or digital image of you naked for somebody else to accidentally see is pretty risky.
"God forbid!"
That would be completely contrary to the kind of relationship God intends for a husband and wife to have...
That would be completely contrary to the kind of relationship God intends for a husband and wife to have...
i would really appreciate learning how you came to that conclusion.
blue, i'd still really love to hear why you feel it "definitely" is wrong as well, and your basis for your decisive answer as well. : )
Let me use this old '80's jargon please..... " D U H ". Although you may think he is the only one who sees it, think again...the internet is not yet all figured out to the point that what is posted is not all that private. It is all too simple in so many ways that others can know what you have on your computer. Besides, why use a visual when you and your hubby can do the real thing. Cyber sex, porno pictures, etc. only touch a limited amount of 'senses'. Allow the full blown experience to be the WOW factor. Why cheapen yourself?