Feeling very lonely

chich · Nov 17, 2011

This period of my life has been the loneliest time for me. I have no real friends who i can hang with. Everyone is with someone and so does not have the time to spend with me. Everyday i just feel like im in this world all by myself.

I go through what i have to do each day but then when thats done i am on the couch feeling alone. I have always had some sort of partner through the years but now i have no one I can call my own. My last boyfriend and I split after 15 months after I discovered he was gay and had been deceiving me with his double life all along. I took 3 months to get over him. Then i met a new guy whom I thought would like me; he just spent 4 days talking and hanging out and then he was done. It has crushed my already damaged heart. I don't know where to look to find another partner...but this loneliness is really affecting me now!! I pray to God everyday to send a special person to me, but so far nothing's happening...

Kooper · Nov 17, 2011

There are days I feel like this. But, I remember, God is there with me. Reading His word comforts me. It feels like I'm closer to home when I read my Bible. I also use my guitar for comfort. I enjoy prasing God on my own time. Only because I know my voice isn't as beautiful to those who think I need singing lessons.

But, I continue use to try.

zeroturbulence · Nov 18, 2011

I'm sorry you are feeling so lonely, Chich. When I feel really down I find it helps to bow my head in prayer and express my sorrows to the Lord and have a really good cry. I usually find myself looking for sad songs on youtube first because I think they will soothe me but they end up making me sadder. Anyway, after a good cry with the Lord I always feel like I have a fresh new start. Maybe you should try it. God bless.

gabriel

Jullianna · Nov 18, 2011

I do pray that God will be your comforter and encouragement

yaright · Nov 18, 2011

Today's a new day. What will you have today that you prayed for last night? Developing friends is like saying life is worth waiting for. Sometimes it doesn't make any sense when we are in the midst of a crisis. Write letters, email, smile and say hi to people who are often taken for granted. Volunteer, you'd be surprised who many interesting people you'll come across. What are the ten you like or dislike about life in your area. Make sure you get out and mention at least one of them with someone every day if possible. Hopefully, you'll be saying more positive things than not. Has it been too long since you've sung or hummed your favorite songs?
There's one you haven't heard in quite awhile; you are precious in His sight...

Do you like coffee chatter? Have you ever thought of dying your hair with your favorite color? If you didn't see any good in the first mile, you're definitely not going to like the next one.

You are in my prayers

GreenNnice · Nov 20, 2011

chich said:

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Do you have a job you enjoy?
Volunteering is what I did when no other work was working out and where I volunteered was such a blessing for six months of my life. TRUST Him, Cinch. Ask God wholeheartedly, with your whole heart, what He can do for you. Listen carefully, and, pay attention what God tells you to , often it's not easily seen but with faith.

This I all say because God is our Comforter of our loneliness, He will put a peace in your heart IF you can make an effort to further your relationship with Him

How about googling these words and listening to this song: Rich Mullins hold me Jesus.

God bless you, Cinch

jonnoboy · Nov 20, 2011

Bless you for your loneliness hun, however what concerns me is your last sentence, you want God to send someone special TO you. I think in fairness everyone wants an easy life and you havent had that, but you just have to hold your head up high and carry on praying. You are not going to find someone sitting on the couch though are you? I understand how you're feeling and ur feeling crushed, but with God's love he will help you find the courage to get out in the world and find that person YOURSELF by god at your side.... It will be more rewarding knowing You found that person rather than the person just appearing becasue god sent someone special to you....

I will say a little prayer to you now

Dear God I bring before you Chich, who is feeling sad and lonely, show her the path that you wish for her to go along, help her to choose an activity that she enjoys and that will bring her friends and maybe a partner for keeps. God Help Chich by showing her you are with her every step of the way God
Thank you God

Amen

X

God bless Hun

Love

Jonno

crissy17 · Nov 20, 2011

Anyone can face moments of loneliness,times when you long for companionship or when you want to be seen, to be known and to be loved. Whether you're married or single, surrounded by friends and family, or by yourself, these moments can lead to sadness and fear.There are times that when i'm feeling lonely a good cry can help and i look for someone i can talk to but the best for all is i ask God for guidance and I believe God has good things coming in my life and just i need to walk through this dark time.I found out that some Bible verses may be helpful to ease feelings of loneliness. But the Bible reminds us that God knows us, loves us and that God hears our cries. Finally, they remind us that God is always with us.God bless u..
The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them;
he delivers them from all their troubles.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Psalm 34:17-18
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Matthew 11:28

chich · Nov 20, 2011

Thanks a lot Jonno. I appreciate you reaching out like this. I wish your prayer for me really comes true. Nothing has changed since I first wrote this...but I'm still hopeful for change.

TheAristocat · Nov 23, 2011

chich said:

aww..

here, i fluff pillow for you and you take a nice, long nap. afterwards you can eat fresh cookies and have some milk. (>")>o

my mom is in the same boat. she is a very strong individual, but she has been alone for a long time and not even in a meaningful relationship for even longer (maybe 20+ years now). i know there are websites on the internet dedicated to local hobby gatherings. there was one in particular, but i can't find it. and i don't think it's especially better than another out there. just do some research. you can find one. you can connect! because there are other people like you who also want something more to do than just work and exist.

chich · Nov 26, 2011

Thanks to all of you for your comforting words. I continue to pray for some upliftment...the feelings are still here though. I am still down about the new guy who didnt even give me a chance to be friends. I have been listening to some very inspirational songs online and reading bible passages. They have lifted my spirit somewhat but at other times I sink into the loneliness mood again. I had been volunteering at a kitchen the past three weeks and it did make me feel useful. All in all though, I hope this mood lifts really soon and that God will allow me to meet a very special person for keeps.

GreenNnice · Nov 26, 2011

chich said:

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Cinch, you are not alone, EVERYONE, even married folk, EVERYONE experiences bouts of loneliness. Just like, to err is human, so, is , to experience loneliness human. But, and, sounds like you are doing great things keeping your bible nearby, with God's words able to speak to you

Volunteering, too, yes, yes, I think I can see the divine leading in your life right now with all your friends right here on c.c. trying to make you feel better. God bless you, Cinch. And, like, Yaright says. REWARD yourself , just something little is fine, the Lord leads. Go get a chai tea or go see a good movie like 'Courageous' or '7 Days In Utopia' .

P.s. 'cinch' is my nick for you because it means something is easy to do..

Ok, so, that said, our trials and tests are many from God all our lives and the Enemy can occassionslky be allowed by God to attack, but, don't worry, God is stronger than Satan, infinitely so . So, just have faith that God will pick you up from your loneliness and ask Him how to keep 'it' from burdening your heart.if you ask Him, He can do 'that' easy

chich · Nov 27, 2011

Thanks Greennice.

Like how you came up with a new nick. Always praying...

LovingtheLord · Nov 27, 2011

I don't know if you knew but Jesus is your friend if you do what he commandments you to, he's the ultimate friend, one who will never leave, never dissapoint, always there to comfort, way you find close friendship in our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, try a Church to for fellowship, but no one can love and can be as faithful as Jesus, Jesus bless you sis

GreenNnice · Nov 27, 2011

chich said:

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Yes, cinch , praying is good, do it whenever led , prompted, by the Holy Spirit, or, if not Him asked in your life, just pray when your heart is heavy . God will carry the weight of your loneliness on His shoulders.

If we ask (and then let Him) ,.God will.take care of us, does so alll the way to Heaven, then, He really takes care of us there.
So, He surely can take care of your loneliness if you ask Him to.

chich · Dec 4, 2011

@LovingtheLord..I just wrote on your thread asking for prayers at this time because you have felt like God is far away. Well, I have not gotten over my loneliness since I started this thread and I am now also feeling like you...like God has turned his back on me and has not been answering my prayers to Him. I just feel like everything I have worked for and have done in my life so far means nothing anymore. I can't rejoice in anything again. I lost all desire and will. This stems from also feeling rejected and alone for these few months now. I pray earnestly each day for a change, some miracle to come my way to enlighten and lift my spirits but nothing has changed. I feel like I'm at the end..and I just can't go on much longer... Please pray for me as I'll pray for you... :*)

GreenNnice · Dec 5, 2011

chich said:

@LovingtheLord..I just wrote on your thread asking for prayers at this time because you have felt like God is far away. Well, I have not gotten over my loneliness since I started this thread and I am now also feeling like you...like God has turned his back on me and has not been answering my prayers to Him. I just feel like everything I have worked for and have done in my life so far means nothing anymore. I can't rejoice in anything again. I lost all desire and will. This stems from also feeling rejected and alone for these few months now. I pray earnestly each day for a change, some miracle to come my way to enlighten and lift my spirits but nothing has changed. I feel like I'm at the end..and I just can't go on much longer... Please pray for me as I'll pray for you... [\QUOTE]
-----Awww-----

Chich,please try to embrace the good things God has graced you with up to this point in your life. it sounds like you are very fond of your friendships of your life. Awesome ! Just remember what is given us, EVERYTHING-is by the grace of God.

please try to understand that and then try to understand this. Look at biblical times and many great things happened to bible figures in their darkest times....

* Hannah was forlorn she could not have kids because she was told barren by doctors. This soo saddened her that she cried out to God and her son then came, Samuel, a great man of God.

* David cried out to God when he was distraught from son killed at the repercussion of his sin of Bathshebaand God blessed him with Solomon, the richest man of bible times.

* Job stayed strong with God though he was ridiculed by so-called friends and teased for not getting mad at Gd and God, in turn, blessed Job greater after the pain than he was before.

please don,t turn your back on God, God bless you, Cinch, and, I want you to pray too for His blessing coming to your life. God will never leave you or forsake you, and, if itvis newfriends you need niw that some old friends are at different juncture of life then God will bring you them

His timing, but He will. His will is good for your life, be patient, wait on Him, it's easy to change your life SO much in a blink of the eye...you only need believe first in yourselfand then in Him. Do that and everything else, Chich, will be a cinch

chich · Dec 5, 2011

@GreenNnice..thanks for the encouraging words. I will wait..on the Lord. I hope what you say about meeting new friends really does work out. If you'd like to e-mail me the address is [email protected]. And everything is not so cinchy...lol

mariana · Apr 30, 2015

chich said:

So sorry to read about your problems. I have just had a relationshi ended suddenly and painfully, so I know a little of how you are feeling. I know how hard it is to pick yourself up, in fact i am still struggling. But i am sure there is someone out there meant for you, just like I hope there is another someone for me. I have been reading the lovely messages of support for you, and hope that they will comfort you. Try and get out, because this guy meant for you could be just around the corner, just waiting for you. Take care of yourself-Marian

mystikmind · Apr 30, 2015

Some people may complain about reviving such an old thread..... but, if it genuinely helps you in some way Mariana, then that small inconvenience is a very small price to pay, and I'm sure most people here would agree

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