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I'm still single...
Even if it's not evident to be alone in sense without husband,
I prefer to keep myself away from them,
because charm is deceptive and beauty disappears...
Humans are full of troubles coming inside of their soul,
anyway, there's a proverbs who says :
In French is, Vaut mieux être seul que mal accompagné!
But In English is, It's better to be alone that to be in a bad company...
Even if it's not evident to be alone in sense without husband,
I prefer to keep myself away from them,
because charm is deceptive and beauty disappears...
Humans are full of troubles coming inside of their soul,
anyway, there's a proverbs who says :
In French is, Vaut mieux être seul que mal accompagné!
But In English is, It's better to be alone that to be in a bad company...
+ because i believe that God's will for my life was to be single for years while He was preparing me, and i was living, doing what needed to happen as a single woman.
+ because i spent some years being rebellious, which probably only delayed the work that God was doing in me, and yet, provided much in the way of precious learning, broken parts and evidence of God's unfailing mercy and grace.
+ because i never believed that my life would only matter, have value, or be worthwhile when/if i married
+ because it has been hard to find the right guy for me. i wanted my heart's desire, not "adequate". see, the downside in growing in Christ is that you find yourself less capable of overlooking what you know better than to ignore.
+ because i believed that God would eventually bless me with the right spouse at the right time, or give me the grace to be content without him.
+ because i am too joyful and grateful for what i have and have been blessed with to not be obedient to what i know is right. i can become cranky and jaded any old time, and bad relationships seem to have that effect.
+ because i spent some years being rebellious, which probably only delayed the work that God was doing in me, and yet, provided much in the way of precious learning, broken parts and evidence of God's unfailing mercy and grace.
+ because i never believed that my life would only matter, have value, or be worthwhile when/if i married
+ because it has been hard to find the right guy for me. i wanted my heart's desire, not "adequate". see, the downside in growing in Christ is that you find yourself less capable of overlooking what you know better than to ignore.
+ because i believed that God would eventually bless me with the right spouse at the right time, or give me the grace to be content without him.
+ because i am too joyful and grateful for what i have and have been blessed with to not be obedient to what i know is right. i can become cranky and jaded any old time, and bad relationships seem to have that effect.
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I am still single because, as a friend once told me in the language of real estate, I'm a niche market listing.
Translation: Only a select few will want this property.
Translation: Only a select few will want this property.
as much as i hate to acknowledge it, this is what has become of (many) women who live successfully as singles beyond the age of oh, say 30. things become complicated as the women gain more in maturity and independence.
and amusingly, what we grow in often becomes viewed as less desirable for a man.
one of the main reasons i never have pursued (chased, asked out, made the first step, etc) guys is because i always believed that i would need to find a guy who is confident and strong enough to do the pursuit. because if i was required to do more than be receptive to "make things happen" it would be good evidence he'd probably not be right for me.
it was one of the best decision i ever made.
but it's not just hard to find the right guys. with capability, independence and confidence comes pride, stubbornness, and perhaps greater difficulty with the humility and flexiblity necessary to submit oneself both to a spouse and God. in some ways, i think it IS easier to marry younger, even though i am clearly more capable being older.
anyway, it's kind of a fascinating topic. : )
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Younger people are more malleable, but they also deal with a level of youthful hubris that people eventually outgrow. We may be more "set" in our ways and it would perhaps take more for us to change these patterns, but we're also more realistic about the human condition and our own failings.
So, ya know..... six of one, half a dozen of the other.
So, ya know..... six of one, half a dozen of the other.
u r married to Christ,if u r a born again believer,what a beautiful marriage.but u r also in a beautiful state in life when u r single as we call it,because it is better 2 be single wishing and hoping u were married,than to be married wishing and hoping u were not.so seek Gods will in this matter and use wisdom,dont rush wait on God amen
I haven't been actively looking, in the sense, I haven't socialised or 'been out there' as much as I used to do. This is because I have a few other priorities which are more important to me now than being in a relationship. So far, it has been a painful and tiring process to get these priorities right; until they are ticked off the list, I don't have the strength to commit myself fully to a relationship.