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JustAnotherUser

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Unfortunately, we are having to be defensive as to who we let in and it can either have us seem as too closed off/withdrawn or needy and emotional. Being at both ends of the scale, it's definitely not pretty, and I can see why some people wouldn't want to associate with either.

Oh well...
 
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cmarieh

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I know how you feel. For several years I have had to appear tough and strong especially when it came to my mom's health problems since I was her primary caretaker as well as taking care of the domestics. It was very hard watching her get carried away in the ambulance every time she had a seizure where she split her head open and this happened on an average of every 3-4 months. It literally tore me apart especially when the doctor came back with CT results saying she could have a brain tumor. I held on a brave face until I was alone and I just broke down and cried so hard I gave myself a headache. It wasn't until a year ago I had to learn to let things go because it was affecting my own health.
 

jsr1221

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Unfortunately, we are having to be defensive as to who we let in and it can either have us seem as too closed off/withdrawn or needy and emotional. Being at both ends of the scale, it's definitely not pretty, and I can see why some people wouldn't want to associate with either.

Oh well...
I understand that first part.. You don't think guys do the same, though? Any right minded individual wouldn't want to get hurt. And with the guy leading, generally we're the ones that try to pursue something. Yet when you're the only one reaching out mostly, it doesn't end well. And men and women are meant to be friends together, so I just don't understand this whole mess.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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I understand that first part.. You don't think guys do the same, though? Any right minded individual wouldn't want to get hurt. And with the guy leading, generally we're the ones that try to pursue something. Yet when you're the only one reaching out mostly, it doesn't end well. And men and women are meant to be friends together, so I just don't understand this whole mess.

Never said that guys don't do the same. I would say that if it's out of interest as to who does the pursuing and who responds to it then it takes both parties to work something out in order to signal that they are available and interested in the other. Even then it may not end so well if one or both parties don't know how to ultimately reach out and persuade for it to go at a different level. It also has to depend on whether or not it's for the right reasons.

Though this is coming from someone who tends to withdraw and become shocked if I find out that a guy is interested in the first place. But with what little I've experienced, it does have to take both to work instead of one doing all the work. Both are having to sacrifice to some extent. If the other doesn't then there's no reason for you to.
 

jsr1221

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Never said that guys don't do the same. I would say that if it's out of interest as to who does the pursuing and who responds to it then it takes both parties to work something out in order to signal that they are available and interested in the other. Even then it may not end so well if one or both parties don't know how to ultimately reach out and persuade for it to go at a different level. It also has to depend on whether or not it's for the right reasons.

Though this is coming from someone who tends to withdraw and become shocked if I find out that a guy is interested in the first place. But with what little I've experienced, it does have to take both to work instead of one doing all the work. Both are having to sacrifice to some extent. If the other doesn't then there's no reason for you to.
I don't really see where God is in any of this, either, on both sides. Cause if both were praying and bringing this whole thing to Him, I honestly think there wouldn't be any blow up or an end to it. A lot of people say communication is important, yet too many don't. And that bothers me a lot, but that's something I need to ask God to work through me.
 
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CarolSampaio

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"I'm the kind of person that confuses anxiety with hunger, nervousness with hunger, boredom with hunger, hunger with hunger..."
 

Mo0448

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"I'm the kind of person that confuses anxiety with hunger, nervousness with hunger, boredom with hunger, hunger with hunger..."
rssss o muiieee boba rssss :) Bom Dia Boa Tarde sei la que horas são acordei faz pouco tempo!
 

Mo0448

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Boa tarde! ;) Vida boa essa sua pra estar acordando agora, hein...
Estou trabalhando igual doido desde sábado passado rsss...recompensa minha e a folga nos dias de quinta sexta e sábado rsss inveja mata viu rsss
 
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CarolSampaio

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Estou trabalhando igual doido desde sábado passado rsss...recompensa minha e a folga nos dias de quinta sexta e sábado rsss inveja mata viu rsss
Inveja nenhuma... hehehehe tô de boa... não trabalho fim de semana, essa segunda foi feriado e trabalho só até as 14:00... está tudo na mais santa paz!! :)

 
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LittleBit1987

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i'm very private about my emotions/problems. i don't like people worrying about me, so i keep stuff to myself. i know this isn't the best thing to do. sharing stuff with others takes time for me. i guess i'm trying to see if this person will stick around before i open my heart.

i also have this crazy idea that i need to be strong all the time. gah.
Yup, I feel ya sister. I want to stay strong and be the strong one in the family... But between me and my husband, we are both a little broken at the moment. :(

So it's kinda hard to stay "positive" for each other when it's killing you on the inside too.
 
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cmarieh

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I am so thankful I was looking at a really busy and hectic day and my schedule cleared out last minute so I can get caught up on doing laundry and cleaning the bathroom and kitchen. Oh, man I am excited now:D
 
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Jak795

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That moment...when you realize it's exam day and you forgot to study. XD
 
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CarolSampaio

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I am so thankful I was looking at a really busy and hectic day and my schedule cleared out last minute so I can get caught up on doing laundry and cleaning the bathroom and kitchen. Oh, man I am excited now:D
Laundry and cleaning get you excited??? And here I thought I was easy to please... hehehehehe

That moment...when you realize it's exam day and you forgot to study. XD
That is... oh boy!
 

mailmandan

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Just dropped in to say hello. I would say more, but its not easy posting on Christian Chat using my cell phone and delivering mail at the same time.
 

Magenta

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Hello Dan. Keep your eyes on the road, your hands upon the wheel ;)


 

Magenta

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Yes it does get me excited. It doesn't take much to impress or please me.
You did not have a kitchen to clean on your list... if you need one, mine is available ;) I would be pleased to be able to add to your general happiness and excitement about life LOL :)



 
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cmarieh

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You did not have a kitchen to clean on your list... if you need one, mine is available ;) I would be pleased to be able to add to your general happiness and excitement about life LOL :)



Well, thank you for the generous offer but I need to get my to do list done. I might ponder it for a while. What can I say, but I am a little strange? But that's how God created me. Plus I get to clean a house next week