Could you date a girl taller than you?

[Mitspa]

I'm curious now, what is a woman supposed to do to show a guy that she likes him? Like if this guy has no confidence (such as others have said before on here), how are we supposed to give guys like that the green light to ask us girls out?

Woah, so confusing huh?

well if you know he is struggling in the confidence area...you may have to help him understand your intentions

 

[Agricola]

See this annoys me, if you like a guy just go up to the man and say "Would like to have lunch with me" or "WOuld you like to watch a film with me". Just say it, stop messing about with subtle hints or subliminal messages in hope the guy will have a light bulb switched on and go "oh yeh she likes me guess Ill ask her out somewhere".

Seriously, no wonder why so many people are single.

 

[Mo0448]

I'm curious now, what is a woman supposed to do to show a guy that she likes him? Like if this guy has no confidence (such as others have said before on here), how are we supposed to give guys like that the green light to ask us girls out?

Woah, so confusing huh?

See Molly its weird...some guys need like a green light as bright as the sun to get the hint that a gal likes them...while some guys can see this tiny flicker of a green light...being somewhere in the middle (where I believe I fall) is tough though you could think that someone's "green light" is just them being friendly or it's their personality...and end up looking an idiot...or someones green light is too blatantly obvious that you're not even sure if they're serious about it...subtle but there is how I'd recommend it (personal preference really) someone going out and screaming GREEN LIGHT GREEN LIGHT...would just be strange to me while at the same time someone barely "Green Lighting" it might make me think she's not really interested at all...it can be tough

 

[maxwel]

Woo! Good Mythical Morning

Yeah, I know, "Good Mythical Morning" is probably really cool until like... mmm... you turn 12.

But I still thought that rap thing was kinda funny.

The premise is actually a lot funnier than the lyrics,
but at least a couple of the lyrics are funny, lol.

: )

 

[CarolSampaio]

well if you know he is struggling in the confidence area...you may have to help him understand your intentions

I'd ask him if he wouldn't wanna go to the movies with me... you just "forget" to mention it's a date... hehehehe but I would only do that if I really liked the guy and if I was positive that he liked me back...

 

[Tintin]

Yeah, I know, "Good Mythical Morning" is probably really cool until like... mmm... you turn 12.

But I still thought that rap thing was kinda funny.

The premise is actually a lot funnier than the lyrics,
but at least a couple of the lyrics are funny, lol.

: )

Rough. It wasn't even around when I was 12. Maybe I just love the silly.

 

[DaTK]

The Bad girls/bad guys thing is a sign of immaturity. Life has enough unpredictability and adventure in itself. Those qualities in a person are the opposite of what a relationship is built on.

 

[maxwel]

Rough. It wasn't even around when I was 12. Maybe I just love the silly.

Well, Rhett and Link are really smart guys.
They're just better at satire than really in-your-face comedy.

They've done some amazing commercials for people.

 

[MollyConnor]

See this annoys me, if you like a guy just go up to the man and say "Would like to have lunch with me" or "WOuld you like to watch a film with me". Just say it, stop messing about with subtle hints or subliminal messages in hope the guy will have a light bulb switched on and go "oh yeh she likes me guess Ill ask her out somewhere".

Seriously, no wonder why so many people are single.

What's annoying is that Christian women are usually told not to ask a man out because it's not their place, then Christian men don't want to make the move. I'm sorry that I'm old-fashioned and won't go with the world's views on this.

I've told two boys in the past that I had feelings for them and I swore I would never do it again. Not only did I feel desperate but I felt I had lost some respect for myself. I also lost them as friends.

Also, if a guy really likes me, he will ask me out. If I have to ask him out, it just shows me he wasn't really interested.

And thanks for calling me annoying btw, that's wonderful!

 

[maxwel]

What's annoying is that Christian women are usually told not to ask a man out because it's not their place, then Christian men don't want to make the move. I'm sorry that I'm old-fashioned and won't go with the world's views on this.

I've told two boys in the past that I had feelings for them and I swore I would never do it again. Not only did I feel desperate but I felt I had lost some respect for myself. I also lost them as friends.

Also, if a guy really likes me, he will ask me out. If I have to ask him out, it just shows me he wasn't really interested.

And thanks for calling me annoying btw, that's wonderful!

Some guys are just shy.

I don't think it matters if a girl asks a guy out.
I think you should just do whatever you're comfortable with.

But yeah, if it makes a girl uncomfortable to ask a guy out, then don't do it.

 

[Mitspa]

What's annoying is that Christian women are usually told not to ask a man out because it's not their place, then Christian men don't want to make the move. I'm sorry that I'm old-fashioned and won't go with the world's views on this.

I've told two boys in the past that I had feelings for them and I swore I would never do it again. Not only did I feel desperate but I felt I had lost some respect for myself. I also lost them as friends.

Also, if a guy really likes me, he will ask me out. If I have to ask him out, it just shows me he wasn't really interested.

And thanks for calling me annoying btw, that's wonderful!

I don't think he was trying to say you was annoying ...Molly ...I think your one of the cool folks on the forum

 

[Agricola]

What's annoying is that Christian women are usually told not to ask a man out because it's not their place, then Christian men don't want to make the move. I'm sorry that I'm old-fashioned and won't go with the world's views on this.

I've told two boys in the past that I had feelings for them and I swore I would never do it again. Not only did I feel desperate but I felt I had lost some respect for myself. I also lost them as friends.

Also, if a guy really likes me, he will ask me out. If I have to ask him out, it just shows me he wasn't really interested.

And thanks for calling me annoying btw, that's wonderful!

Some guys might think that the girl is too many leagues above him, low self esteem etc, when the girl really likes him, so sits and waits and throws flirts at him, but he just gets even more depressed seeing other men openly flirt and engage with the girl, even to the point of going out with her.

The girl enjoys the company and the dates, but really wishes she was with the other chap she likes, but of course he just gets more depressed and feels inferior so never asks, as the years go by she just gives up and thinks that it will never happen, so picks one of the other lads who she thinks will be good for marriage, but deep down she likes the other boy and ends up becoming depressed that he never liked her enough to ask her out.

Anayway did I say you were annoying? NO, just the thought process!

Maybe we should go on a date a nice diner maybe and have a chat about it.

 

[MollyConnor]

Some guys might think that the girl is too many leagues above him, low self esteem etc, when the girl really likes him, so sits and waits and throws flirts at him, but he just gets even more depressed seeing other men openly flirt and engage with the girl, even to the point of going out with her.

The girl enjoys the company and the dates, but really wishes she was with the other chap she likes, but of course he just gets more depressed and feels inferior so never asks, as the years go by she just gives up and thinks that it will never happen, so picks one of the other lads who she thinks will be good for marriage, but deep down she likes the other boy and ends up becoming depressed that he never liked her enough to ask her out.

Anayway did I say you were annoying? NO, just the thought process!

Maybe we should go on a date a nice diner maybe and have a chat about it.

I guess you could be right...but I still think it's the man's job to ask the girl out. If he has confidence issues, he should work on that and accept that he is wonderfully made by the Lord.

About the date, sure, but I think we live just a bit too far from each other. LOL

OMG I just remembered that there were three not two guys that I told them I liked them. Oh gosh! See how painful it is? None of the three reciprocated the feelings.

 

[JonahLynx]

I'm curious now, what is a woman supposed to do to show a guy that she likes him? Like if this guy has no confidence (such as others have said before on here), how are we supposed to give guys like that the green light to ask us girls out?

Woah, so confusing huh?

Basically just offer the possibility of doing something or going someplace or trying some restaurant. That's what I do anyway. "That place looks good, maybe we could try it sometime?" You'll rarely find a person who is even remotely interested turn down a hypothetical. But its really a matter of the tone of how they answer, since most people are going to be polite anyway. There's a lot of nuance.

If he has confidence issues, he should work on that and accept that he is wonderfully made by the Lord.

I totally agree.

 

[MollyConnor]

I don't think he was trying to say you was annoying ...Molly ...I think your one of the cool folks on the forum

Thank you, but I don't think so haha. I'm a dork.

 

[Mo0448]

Basically just offer the possibility of doing something or going someplace or trying some restaurant. That's what I do anyway. "That place looks good, maybe we could try it sometime?" You'll rarely find a person who is even remotely interested turn down a hypothetical. But its really a matter of the tone of how they answer, since most people are going to be polite anyway. There's a lot of nuance.



I totally agree.

The hypotheticals is always the way to go...labels like "date" or saying "it's a date" tend to worry or make less confident people uncomfortable...

Honestly, what I've always seen to come off as casual and non creepy as possible is...suggesting to hang out or grab dinner or lunch sometime...that way you're not asking or putting yourself down for rejection but being suggestive

 

[CarolSampaio]

The hypotheticals is always the way to go...labels like "date" or saying "it's a date" tend to worry or make less confident people uncomfortable...

Honestly, what I've always seen to come off as casual and non creepy as possible is...suggesting to hang out or grab dinner or lunch sometime...that way you're not asking or putting yourself down for rejection but being suggestive

Mo... you said it all.

 

[Mo0448]

Mo... you said it all.

as Melita would say I gotzzz demmm skillllzzzzzz ...is that how she'd say it? Do I have too many z's in the words? Mel where are you teach me how to say it right!! lol

 

[MollyConnor]

It was just a hypothetical question. It's not like I have guys lining up to go out with me. LOL And I'm not interested in anyone right now. Just wanted to know for the future.

 

[Tintin]

Maybe, just maybe, we should just all run around with our hands in the air screaming, "I like you, I really like you! Will you go out for coffee (insert favourite beverage here) with me?" That would prevent any misunderstanding whatsoever.

Haha!