Does man cry too?

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garet82

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Well, i read interesting post here n think if woman cry often than man its normal. I can cry for something that other may think thats silly :) like watching movies or talk shows or listening songs.
But what about if man cry?
Wonder if man can cry too n be as sensitive as we are.
If man cry does he feel weak too n need shoulder to cry on (like the song). What makes men cry n how they feel that time.
Please share :)
 
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I have met many men who can't or should I say won't. They are emotionally cold men. And I have met men that cry like they are a toddler about so many things. (Way to emotional for me, tends to be a mama's boy). And I have met men that cry at things I would expect most any one to cry about. (Ah the perfect balance of an emotionally stable man who can be empathetic and caring...PERFECT!!!) Personally I believe any one can cry, however they do not. Depends how they are raised. A man who is emotionally stable can certainly cry with no fear of what the world thinks.
 
Utah

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I haven't cried in years, but through those years my eyes have watered a little.
 
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CarolSampaio

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A friend of mine always says that he doesn't cry... however he says he sweats through his corneas every now and then...
 
tourist

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I'm not sure that I have any tears left in me to shed.
 
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Hellooo

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No woman, no cry
 
Lynx

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When you see me on my knees
It's not because I'm weak
I'm getting stronger
When you see me start to cry
You'll know the reason why
I'm getting stronger

- Bruce Carroll
 
PoetMary

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Most men are pretty ruthlessly shamed out of crying. It's not that they don't feel sadness, it's just that they train themselves NOT to cry in response to sadness. It's all about "suck it up," "dry it up," "walk it off," etc. A lot of men will translate "sadness" into "aggression," so that when they are greatly disappointed, they hit something instead of crying.

Most men, if they do cry, will do it in secret.

Think about it...men ON THIS VERY SITE...a CHRISTIAN SITE, no less, have implied that if a man is "nice" he is "effeminate." Can you imagine what these same men would say about men who CRY???

It's a crying shame, if you ask me.


 
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James4redemption

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lol Not even gonna' front...bawl like a baby for the Lord
 
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PoetMary said:
Most men are pretty ruthlessly shamed out of crying. It's not that they don't feel sadness, it's just that they train themselves NOT to cry in response to sadness. It's all about "suck it up," "dry it up," "walk it off," etc. A lot of men will translate "sadness" into "aggression," so that when they are greatly disappointed, they hit something instead of crying.

Most men, if they do cry, will do it in secret.

Think about it...men ON THIS VERY SITE...a CHRISTIAN SITE, no less, have implied that if a man is "nice" he is "effeminate." Can you imagine what these same men would say about men who CRY???

It's a crying shame, if you ask me.
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I think some men (and women) are thriving on putting degrading labels on others. A man crying is a target to them, or if he comes across liberal and soft (mind you, liberal and soft to their big ol' so called patriotic eyes, eyes which, by the way, sometimes might could be real twisted...), they'll be after him. I seen it on here, wolves preying on others, not a pretty sight. So, yall folks getting your kicks from trolling others, I think it is time for some Sunday learnin...just sayin...
 
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cmarieh

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I know that men deal with their emotions completely different than women, as God intended. However, there is nothing wrong with a man that does shed a few tears, we all do. It is very hard to watch because as a woman in our eyes men are the strong ones. When you see a man get so filled with the Holy Spirit and he is crying out of pure joy because he sees God for all he is, that is just awesome to see.
 
seoulsearch

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tourist said:
I'm not sure that I have any tears left in me to shed.
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I can relate to this statement a lot. I had two major events in my life that pretty much broke me down to the core, and after that, I just didn't cry anymore. I can count the number of times I've cried in several years on both hands, and it's as if the well went dry and was never refilled.

Oddly enough, I had a boyfriend once who asked me why I never cried and said he wished I'd actually cry more (because he wanted me to be more emotionally dependent on him--it was not a healthy situation). I am very much about appropriate crying--for both genders. This particular boyfriend cried A LOT, and it was almost always 1. because he was trying to get out of a situation ("Yes, I'm drunk again, but it's just because... [insert problem he created for himself and wanted you to bail him out of here]") and/or 2. he wanted you to give him money.

I can't stand crying as a form of manipulation, whether in children, adults, men, or women, and have been known to walk away when such tantrums are being thrown.

But when crying is in its "pure" form (for the "right" reasons--sorrow, worship, joy, sympathy, etc.), it's just as God-given as any of our other emotions and completely healthy--for men and women alike. I don't mind if a many has a break-down in front of me because I think that's part of a partnership--you take turns being strong and holding each other up.

P.S. "Jesus wept."

You can't get anymore manly than that.
 
tourist

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seoulsearch said:
I can relate to this statement a lot. I had two major events in my life that pretty much broke me down to the core, and after that, I just didn't cry anymore. I can count the number of times I've cried in several years on both hands, and it's as if the well went dry and was never refilled.

Oddly enough, I had a boyfriend once who asked me why I never cried and said he wished I'd actually cry more (because he wanted me to be more emotionally dependent on him--it was not a healthy situation). I am very much about appropriate crying--for both genders. This particular boyfriend cried A LOT, and it was almost always 1. because he was trying to get out of a situation ("Yes, I'm drunk again, but it's just because... [insert problem he created for himself and wanted you to bail him out of here]") and/or 2. he wanted you to give him money.

I can't stand crying as a form of manipulation, whether in children, adults, men, or women, and have been known to walk away when such tantrums are being thrown.

But when crying is in its "pure" form (for the "right" reasons--sorrow, worship, joy, sympathy, etc.), it's just as God-given as any of our other emotions and completely healthy--for men and women alike. I don't mind if a many has a break-down in front of me because I think that's part of a partnership--you take turns being strong and holding each other up.

P.S. "Jesus wept."

You can't get anymore manly than that.
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"Jesus wept" is my favorite bible verse. Apparently, life down here on earth got Him down too. He probably cried a river.
 
PoetMary

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cmarieh said:
However, there is nothing wrong with a man that does shed a few tears, we all do. It is very hard to watch because as a woman in our eyes men are the strong ones.
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And herein lies the problem:

Problem 1--crying is weakness
Why is it harder to watch a man cry than a woman? Because we are TAUGHT that "if a man cries, he is WEAK." There is nothing remotely accurate in this idea.

Jesus wept. Was he WEAK when he wept? Or was he engaging in a show of STRENGTH?

2. It's okay for men to cry in certain extreme circumstances so long as it's "a few tears."

Jesus WEPT!

The problem is that people are acculturated to think certain things about males and their emotions and they do not question this training. They just think, "That's how men are supposed to be." But men are NOT like this all over the world.

There are lots of cultures that don't consider a man weak if he cries. In fact, in certain circumstances a lack of weeping would be interpreted as suspicious.
 
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All of the men in my family are very masculine, hairy, tall, robust, muscular, confident, lovable, sociable, laugh loudly, and talk very boldly. And it's a big family: five brothers, 3 step-brothers, 12 brothers-in-law (3 passed on), uncles, cousins, and my two sons. I can't imagine any of them being ashamed to cry. In fact, I don't think anyone would even have the guts to tell them otherwise. LOL!! They're a lively, boisterous bunch!

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Yeraza_Bats

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Jesus wept, and in the OT were told God wept when He flooded the earth. God is very emotional and expresses His emotions.


No where in the bible are men told to be cold, and never to show emotion :p



And yeah men cry, they feel emotions, they can be sensitive, they feel love and hurt and all that junk, too :p
Some feel it more than others, but thats true of everyone :p


I have been told in the past that I wasnt allowed to cry because I was a boy, now that Im an adult, I think that is one of the dumbest things I have ever been told :p
Men who cry about things all the time can get pretty ick, yeah. But I mean, no one wants to deal with people who cry all the time :p There are good times to cry and bad times, I think :p
 
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garet82 said:
Well, i read interesting post here n think if woman cry often than man its normal. I can cry for something that other may think thats silly :) like watching movies or talk shows or listening songs.
But what about if man cry?
Wonder if man can cry too n be as sensitive as we are.
If man cry does he feel weak too n need shoulder to cry on (like the song). What makes men cry n how they feel that time.
Please share :)
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Men have no tear ducts. We all know this.
 
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Oh great...I got in trouble with some folks on this subject before.... everyone got really mad at me and called me names :( I didn't cry... lol
 
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