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Siela01

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Heyy... Happy new year Christian Chat..!! 2016 will to be amazing more than this..:3
 
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LittleBit1987

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I just realized... how much sleep I got last night... and it's not my normal amount... and Im wide awake and I couldnt sleep in for much longer... omg... is this what its like to get older??? :eek:

Oh my... and to think... I turn a year older this year.. 30 is just right around the corner from me now... :rolleyes:
 

JesusLives

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Okay, here goes.
I am new here. This is my first post.
I have had questions about the balance between love and self preservation in this fallen world for a while.
I have also been wondering about what to do in certain situations when I just don't get an answer in prayer,
and a specific answer is not always clearly apparent within the commandments and lesson's from the bible.
So here are my thoughts and questions...

Is it still love when we prayer against our enemies are that are looking to destroy us?

Matthew 5:44"But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.…

I know I can not gossip, but can I talk to someone about the hurts and disappointments that I have experienced from
others?

Deuteronomy 19:16-21 "If a false witness rises against any man to testify against him of wrongdoing, 17 "then both men in the controversy shall stand before Yahweh, before the priests and the judges who serve in those days. 18 "And the judges shall make careful inquiry, and indeed, if the witness is a false witness, who has testified falsely against his brother, 19 "then you shall do to him as he thought to have done to his brother; so you shall put away the evil from among you. 20 "And those who remain shall hear and fear, and hereafter they shall not again commit such evil among you. 21 "Your eye shall not pity: life shall be for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.

How can I say I love when I usually think bad thoughts about someone that has been bitterly opposed to me?

Take it to the Lord in prayer.

Isaiah 55:8"For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways," declares the LORD. 9"For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways And My thoughts than your thoughts.…

When do I become a silent sacrifice, never defending myself, because I have not heard from God about how to proceed?

Jeremiah 51:36New International Version

Therefore this is what the LORD says: "See, I will defend your cause and avenge you; I will dry up her sea and make her springs dry.


Is it wise to not do anything when I am being trampled on, not hearing from God about what to do when people are
attacking me for years and years?

Luke 6:27"But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

I don't often hear from God about how to conduct myself in a particular situation, and on how to proceed if I am being treated
badly. What do I do then?

Pick up your Bible and read it there in those pages are the words of God speaking directly to you.

Is it okay as a Christian to ever raise my voice if someone is treating me badly?

Proverbs 15:1A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.

I usually don't get excited when I am in a tense potential confrontational situation with someone in my family, but when I do, afterward, I almost always regret my anger, (I don't curse or threaten, but I can be critical of a persons behavior toward me, and sometimes respond with a non curse word name calling if someone does that to me). But if I don't respond, I almost always regret that I did not say anything. Otherwise I feel like they will just keep doing it again and again. Recently, I was in a confrontation with another family member, and I raised my voice in front of other family members that were present, in this case I was the one who raised my voice first, it wasn't just in response to being yelled at, and I feel like I had just blown my testimony in front of some of my family and friends. I felt like a fool afterwards, and in situations like this, I feel unsatisfied either either way; if I respond excitedly, or do not respond at all. Is this Holy Spirit trying to tell me something, or is it just me?

Matthew 11:29"Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS.

I didn't sleep well on those following nights, and the day after, I lost my appetite and felt down. I feel like I have to start all over again in my Christian walk regarding an appropriate response, and on how to make every thing I do pint to God's kingdom. Even though I am infinitely more loving and forgiving, patient and understanding, I have come such a long way, I still ultimately fail to the standards I want to be according to what I think God wants from me.
I feel like my family will just think I am a hypocrite, or who knows what else. I don't think I have always been a good example of a Christian in their eyes, in fact I know I have not. It really bothers me that I have hampered my chances to be a living example of Christ in me. I have hurt my family members chance of salvation. I don't want that on my head.
I am one of only three genuine Christians that I am aware of in a extended family of maybe 75 people aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, in laws, etc., that I am close to. They already think I use Christianity as a crutch. To make matters worse, most of them have led "good" lives. Many of them have been good family people. They contribute to the community. Many of them are forgiving and gentle. Almost all of them work hard. Some of them have made millions. Many have various educational degrees (I have one too) . BUT THEY DON'T HAVE CHRIST ! And sometimes in life, I struggle more then they do, and I have Christ in my life. And I am sometimes angry or frustrated that they are willing to forego God. They are so comfortable in their apostasy. I wish I could shake them. But here I am maybe making matters worse. Sometimes I wish I just crawl into a hole.
Sometimes I wish God would just get me out of this fallen sin filled world. Someties I wish there wasn't so much work to yet be done.

Joseph
I tried to answer your questions in red above and for the most part I let God answer them for you by using His word the Bible.

Joseph it is normal to feel not good enough and like you are a hypocrite because that is satan whispering in your ear. But I am here to tell you that Jesus is good enough and He died for your sins and you are forgiven when you repent and turn away from your former life of sin because Jesus lives in your heart now.

We can't shake our relatives into submission to God because it is a choice that they have to make just as you made the choice to follow Jesus it is their choice to make. We can only love and pray for them and show them the way by living our lives as Jesus instructed us to do and at times it will require a soft answer, turning the other cheek and loving them anyway even if they are hurtful to us.

God bless you in this New Year and I suggest that you pick up your Bible and start reading it and pray for the Holy Spirit to direct your thoughts and apply what you read to your life. Your family will see the change in you as you become more and more like Jesus and they will want what you have found. Peace and freedom through Christ Jesus. Around this site I am known as the Blond....Welcome and come and speak often...
 

JesusLives

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Poor Tourist............be sure to keep all sharp objects locked up today


SPARTY GOT SNUFFED!
I talked to him earlier and he told me Michigan lost......but that he was over it already and moving on.....lol
 

JesusLives

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No need to worry, Darlene. I'm just going to bed. It's almost 2am here. Oops. Goodnight from me, good day to you. :)
You bumfuzzled the Blond with Sirk's Avatar......I thought it was Sirk and not you....TinTin....lol Oh well, what can I say? My Blond is showing.....lol
 
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Tintin

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You bumfuzzled the Blond with Sirk's Avatar......I thought it was Sirk and not you....TinTin....lol Oh well, what can I say? My Blond is showing.....lol
No worries, Darlene. I'm going to have The Sirk's avatar for maybe a week, in memory of him. :)
 

Angela53510

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Happy New Year! I hope everyone had fun greeting the new year.

I am excited about what God is going to do in this year. He is faithful, and he will continue to transform and change us all!
 
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Tintin

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Happy New Year! I hope everyone had fun greeting the new year.

I am excited about what God is going to do in this year. He is faithful, and he will continue to transform and change us all!
Happy New Year, my dear sister, Angela!
 

JesusLives

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Taking care of my two cone head kitties since their front paws were declawed on the 29th of Dec. I thought it was cute how Tango the orange kitty was hugging Sugar the white one. They are brother and sister. Love those two little cone heads.
 

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Angela53510

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Happy New Year, my dear sister, Angela!

I know you won't get this till tomorrow, but a special Happy New Year to you. And I think it is awesome you are using Sirk's avatar to honour him. I saw it yesterday, and it is so thoughtful.
 
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Tintin

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I know you won't get this till tomorrow, but a special Happy New Year to you. And I think it is awesome you are using Sirk's avatar to honour him. I saw it yesterday, and it is so thoughtful.
It's 1pm now. So I'm still wide awake. ;) Thank you, Angela. The Sirk is a great guy. :)
 

Angela53510

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It's 1pm now. So I'm still wide awake. ;) Thank you, Angela. The Sirk is a great guy. :)

I can never figure out time when it comes to crossing the date line. Maybe one day I will go to Austraila, and I will be forced to figure it out, once and for all!

Siri is wearing the "guest" label, meaning he really did leave. I guess we just have to wait a year or more and maybe Sirk2 will appear.
 

JesusLives

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I did not mean to stay up this late....tired....but will leave you with this -

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Proverbs 3:24When you lie down, you will not be afraid; When you lie down, your sleep will be sweet.
 

jogoldie

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happy new year Gods people.......guess who's back.....i was having puter problems .....then God blessed me with a wonderful new laptop....i pray everyone is well and happy....peace jo
 
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bikerchaz

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I will speak my mind;
My heart is heavy, my eyes full of tears. I want to be with Jesus, I have had enough but still I must go on because, apparently, my work is not finished. Oh that it were.
 

Siela01

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I will speak my mind;
My heart is heavy, my eyes full of tears. I want to be with Jesus, I have had enough but still I must go on because, apparently, my work is not finished. Oh that it were.
u must pray now:) and He will give u that ways when u rarely with Him,and Jesus always be with u no matter what u feel now.. i'm only halp u with my pray, fighting my friend..:) god bless