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I'm reading up on a situation of a married couple who's husband was willing to cheat on his wife through text with a girl who was, in better terms, 'looking for trouble'. It was posted on a social media site as to what has happened, and there's commentators who are blaming the person who initiated the texting conversation rather than looking at the husband, saying that troublemaker was 'determined to break up the marriage'.
I'm not dismissing any party or condoning any actions, but I will say one thing.
There are people who look for trouble and will try to interfere with situations and relationships. That's just a fact of life whether we like that or not, because some people do not hold the same virtues and values that many desire to hold once they commit to someone. Once someone looks for that trouble, it is up to the spouse involved as to whether they should engage to become involved with the said-troubled person or if they should ignore and block this said person out because of the vow that they have made to their spouse. Once that spouse has that power of either choice, it is they who lead the situation and determine as to how the end results will go. It does not matter as to whether there were/are problems within the marriage, a vow was still made that you agreed 'til death to us part'. So if that spouse decides to go ahead and cheat on their husband/wife, do not say that it is the troubled person's fault for leading the spouse on and that they are the true villains for showing the spouse's true colors on how they feel to take such advantage and ultimately jeopardize their marriage. The married person vowed because they were willing to take the responsibilities that come with marriage life, and that includes to be faithful and make the right choices to consider yourself as faithful no matter how hard it gets. Once that rule or contract is broken, you have broken your vow, which leads to a broken marriage. It doesn't matter who 'led you on', because YOU made the responsive choice to be led on. If you can't do that, don't get married. It'll save a few heartaches and potentially lives.
I just don't understand how full grown adults do not understand this, unless they too have done similar of this nature. It says more about the spouse than it does on anyone else as to whether they decide to cheat or not. It is your responsibility to remind yourself and others that you are committed and if you cannot hold that virtue, then again, that says more about you than it does about anyone else. Then we wonder why we have an increase of infidelity and divorce rates nowadays. "It wasn't my fault, they made me do it!"
I'm not dismissing any party or condoning any actions, but I will say one thing.
There are people who look for trouble and will try to interfere with situations and relationships. That's just a fact of life whether we like that or not, because some people do not hold the same virtues and values that many desire to hold once they commit to someone. Once someone looks for that trouble, it is up to the spouse involved as to whether they should engage to become involved with the said-troubled person or if they should ignore and block this said person out because of the vow that they have made to their spouse. Once that spouse has that power of either choice, it is they who lead the situation and determine as to how the end results will go. It does not matter as to whether there were/are problems within the marriage, a vow was still made that you agreed 'til death to us part'. So if that spouse decides to go ahead and cheat on their husband/wife, do not say that it is the troubled person's fault for leading the spouse on and that they are the true villains for showing the spouse's true colors on how they feel to take such advantage and ultimately jeopardize their marriage. The married person vowed because they were willing to take the responsibilities that come with marriage life, and that includes to be faithful and make the right choices to consider yourself as faithful no matter how hard it gets. Once that rule or contract is broken, you have broken your vow, which leads to a broken marriage. It doesn't matter who 'led you on', because YOU made the responsive choice to be led on. If you can't do that, don't get married. It'll save a few heartaches and potentially lives.
I just don't understand how full grown adults do not understand this, unless they too have done similar of this nature. It says more about the spouse than it does on anyone else as to whether they decide to cheat or not. It is your responsibility to remind yourself and others that you are committed and if you cannot hold that virtue, then again, that says more about you than it does about anyone else. Then we wonder why we have an increase of infidelity and divorce rates nowadays. "It wasn't my fault, they made me do it!"