The problem with all of the sanctimony is that it causes people to armor up...and not in the Godly way. We're meant to be brothers and sisters in Christ and we act like we're competing with each other for some limited spiritual resources. It's that scarcity mindset of...I better get mine...instead of an abundance mindset that accepts that God's love is deep, wide, and everlasting.
Really, they need to experience more love and get filled up on that.
"Beloved, let us love one another. For love is of God and everyone that loves is born of God and knows God. He that loves not, knows not God, for God is love"