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I don't think it's plausible, as there's no commandment saying 'thou shalt not have short hair if thou art a woman', so there's no way to directly defy God with it.
A lesbian may have forgotten, or may have always been disconnected from, the meaning behind traditional femininity. So the symbols of that femininity may not have meaning to her, and she has no interest in long hair.
She might have a twisted negative interpretation of traditional femininity and its symbols, and may want to defy that, so maybe in an indirect way it defies God. But that's more along the lines of feminism than lesbianism.
But she might also have short hair for the same reason as straight women sometimes do. So really there's no way of knowing and I don't see a need to assume the worst.
A lesbian may have forgotten, or may have always been disconnected from, the meaning behind traditional femininity. So the symbols of that femininity may not have meaning to her, and she has no interest in long hair.
She might have a twisted negative interpretation of traditional femininity and its symbols, and may want to defy that, so maybe in an indirect way it defies God. But that's more along the lines of feminism than lesbianism.
But she might also have short hair for the same reason as straight women sometimes do. So really there's no way of knowing and I don't see a need to assume the worst.
I had a similar upbringing. I had a very woman dominated family (most of the men were absent or drunkards) and they were all scorned by men...they were disrespectful and would bad talk them in my presence. After a certain time, as a male, you realize that 'hey...I'm a guy...sooo...I'm included 
'...and the effects of their words and vitriol start to wear on you and cause all types of problems.
Most definitely, I believe that what happened to us as children will play out in our lives today, its directly related. But this is not our mother or father or immediate families fault...this is a result of years and years and generations upon generations of family trauma so it goes deep. We have to forgive them because they were hurt, and the generation before them were hurt, and so on and so on. We have to thank God for where we are at today, how far He has brought us in the knowledge of Him, and stop this generational thing dead in its tracks in Jesus' name.
'...and the effects of their words and vitriol start to wear on you and cause all types of problems.Most definitely, I believe that what happened to us as children will play out in our lives today, its directly related. But this is not our mother or father or immediate families fault...this is a result of years and years and generations upon generations of family trauma so it goes deep. We have to forgive them because they were hurt, and the generation before them were hurt, and so on and so on. We have to thank God for where we are at today, how far He has brought us in the knowledge of Him, and stop this generational thing dead in its tracks in Jesus' name.
K
It has a lot to do with fashion too. Right now long hair is the style. Most women you see on tv have long hair. Some actress with crop her hair in a movie then all of a sudden you'll see a lot of women cut their hair to match. I've never paid attention to what is "in" and did what was comfortable for me. But short hair can be feminine as much as long hair.
K
I had a friend that kept her hair short and wore manly looking clothes. Not really a feminine bone in her body. Her husband was kind of a rough,mountain man type and it didn't seem to bother him. She and I would go shopping together and when she would ask for a dressing room they would direct her to the mens dressing room. It never seemed to dawn on her that they assumed she was a man. But when her husband died a friend of hers told her she had to be more feminine to catch a man. So we were out one day and she asked me to help her buy a pair of heels. She was over 6 ft and a big,solid woman. So over we go to check out the heels. She found a pair she liked that low but still had a heel. I told her to put them on to be sure they fit. Well, I didn't know she had never been in heels in her life! She looked like a new born moose on ice. Poor thing. Everyone was looking wondering what was going on. I told her that if she did marry again she'd likely marry a man like her husband who didn't care about those sorts of things. Her other friend tried to force her into makeup and dressy clothes,it just wasn't her. She went back to her old way of dressing. She had been molested when she was young but had become a Christian. But she just couldn't be feminine,it wasn't in her nature.
Ironically, I have always had to fight for long hair, except maybe in my 20's?
When I was in high school, my mom insisted I keep my hair very short. I hated it. I had to part it on the side, which I also hated. On the bus on the school, and on the way home, my friends would help me change the part, because I didn't have a mirror. Then one summer, when my mom wanted it cut before I went on the bus south to visit my best friend, I stood up to her and said I wouldn't go, and wouldn't cut my hair. She gave in, and that was the end of her telling me what to do with my hair. I was 15 or 16. Her reasoning- only hippies wore long hair.
I had natural waves and dark brown hair with red highlights, and all I had to do was wash it, brush it once, and it dried into beautiful curls. It could not have been easier to "maintain."
Then I went to this church, and the women's group had a lady come in to do makeovers. I got picked, and she did my face and insisted I needed a short hair cut to go with the makeup transformation. Since I only wear makeup on special occasions, and very little at that, I passed on that suggestion. I think I was around 28. I was actually a little insulted, and became determined not to be some kind of magazine norm for "aging" women.
When I got older, people kept insisting I needed to just "trim" my hair to get rid of the split ends. Except they were talking taking off 8 to 10 inches. Sometimes I would get my hair cut to shoulder length, and hate it, and just grow it out. In fact, when I look around at the older women in every church I have ever been in, they ALL have short hair. I'm taking 40+. (Oh yes, I have been told that having long hair makes the face droop down and the wrinkles look worse. Except I really don't have a lot of wrinkles, so far!)
So now I am an extreme, gray haired rebel. I let my hair grow out past my shoulders. I like my hair long. It doesn't curl like it used to, it frizzes instead, because apparently the gray hair is not as thick. So I do blow dry it, especially in winter.
I don't know what churches you people are going to, but I literally never see women who are past 40 or 50 with long hair in the evangelical churches I have attended. Personally, I think it is up to the woman what she does with her hair. But I have to ask, how much is influenced by what other women are wearing, and how much that is influenced by glamour magazines?
I don't think we will ever go back to the days when all women had long hair, seeing as I have been the exception for so many years.
When I was in high school, my mom insisted I keep my hair very short. I hated it. I had to part it on the side, which I also hated. On the bus on the school, and on the way home, my friends would help me change the part, because I didn't have a mirror. Then one summer, when my mom wanted it cut before I went on the bus south to visit my best friend, I stood up to her and said I wouldn't go, and wouldn't cut my hair. She gave in, and that was the end of her telling me what to do with my hair. I was 15 or 16. Her reasoning- only hippies wore long hair.
I had natural waves and dark brown hair with red highlights, and all I had to do was wash it, brush it once, and it dried into beautiful curls. It could not have been easier to "maintain."
Then I went to this church, and the women's group had a lady come in to do makeovers. I got picked, and she did my face and insisted I needed a short hair cut to go with the makeup transformation. Since I only wear makeup on special occasions, and very little at that, I passed on that suggestion. I think I was around 28. I was actually a little insulted, and became determined not to be some kind of magazine norm for "aging" women.
When I got older, people kept insisting I needed to just "trim" my hair to get rid of the split ends. Except they were talking taking off 8 to 10 inches. Sometimes I would get my hair cut to shoulder length, and hate it, and just grow it out. In fact, when I look around at the older women in every church I have ever been in, they ALL have short hair. I'm taking 40+. (Oh yes, I have been told that having long hair makes the face droop down and the wrinkles look worse. Except I really don't have a lot of wrinkles, so far!)
So now I am an extreme, gray haired rebel. I let my hair grow out past my shoulders. I like my hair long. It doesn't curl like it used to, it frizzes instead, because apparently the gray hair is not as thick. So I do blow dry it, especially in winter.
I don't know what churches you people are going to, but I literally never see women who are past 40 or 50 with long hair in the evangelical churches I have attended. Personally, I think it is up to the woman what she does with her hair. But I have to ask, how much is influenced by what other women are wearing, and how much that is influenced by glamour magazines?
I don't think we will ever go back to the days when all women had long hair, seeing as I have been the exception for so many years.
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I tried a couple of times to have long hair. Long hair is too much hassle, and there's no point to it. If hair is my glory, then there is something seriously wrong with my concept of glory. Hair keeps my head warm in winter, and when it gets wet in summer, it cools me down. (BTW, hubby decided to barbeque out back right after I took a shower, so that is my hair wet... and cooling me off. lol)
I do believe people do many things to show their hatred of God, but not hair length. Most simply don't even know that's a thing in the Bible, except to cover up hair if a woman going to church. The complete world-version of what hair is.
So, maybe some are angry, but I will always think laying down hair length as a sign of rebellion against God is streeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeetching it.
I also find it telling this is now three pages long so far.
I do believe people do many things to show their hatred of God, but not hair length. Most simply don't even know that's a thing in the Bible, except to cover up hair if a woman going to church. The complete world-version of what hair is.
So, maybe some are angry, but I will always think laying down hair length as a sign of rebellion against God is streeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeetching it.
I also find it telling this is now three pages long so far.