Interracial Dating... Is it Biblically wrong?

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Elijah19

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Don't really know where to begin on this one, so I'll just say it like it is.

First off, I'm not a racist person. I don't really care about what color a person is, but I do care whether or not they have Christ, which is the really important thing. However, I was raised in a household where racism was not unusual, and one of the things I was always taught growing up was that it was unchristian for a white person to date a black person, regardless of which gender was which color. The basis for this teaching, my family told me, was the story of the tower of Babel.

According to the tradition I was taught, two people of a different race cannot marry each other with God's blessing because God separated the nations at the Tower of Babel, and racial intermarriage is therefore against his design for each nation staying pure and separate according to his plan. By this line of thinking, I was taught that it goes against the Bible - that a black marrying a white or an Asian marrying an Indian etc would be sacrilegious. Also, according to my family's rendering of other verses of the Old Testament, nations are supposed to keep themselves "pure" whatever that means.

Well, I'm not so convinced, but I want to be sure of what the right thing is. I do know that according to the Bible, Moses' wife was an Ethiopian (Cushite, and therefore a black women). Yet Moses, as a Hebrew, would have been a white man, right? Therefore Moses' marriage might have been interracial, correct? If so, wouldn't God have said something if interracial marriage was wrong?

The reason I ask this is not because there is a Christian girl in my life now who has confessed an interest in me. She is black and I am white. If interracial dating or marriage is wrong according to the Bible, we shouldn't see each other as a couple, right? If it's okay for different races to date, how would I go about that - given that my family would most likely deride me about being (I severely beg your forgiveness for using this phrase) a "xxxxxxxxx".

Also, please don't post anything racist on here. I know that racism is not a Christian thing, as much as many people have tried to twist it that direction. But if races are not supposed to mix according to God's commandment, I need that verified. If it's okay, I still need that verified. Scripture on this matter would be much welcomed. Should I or shouldn't I go out on a date with this dark girl?
 
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PennEd

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I didn't read you're whole post. Just the headline. And the answer to that is an emphatic NO!!!

I love ALL my brothers and sisters, and the entire concept of race is going to be beyond absurd in the Lord's Kingdom.
 

PennEd

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I didn't read you're whole post. Just the headline. And the answer to that is an emphatic NO!!!

I love ALL my brothers and sisters, and the entire concept of race is going to be beyond absurd in the Lord's Kingdom.

Sorry CC community. After reading a bit of his post I'm certain it is just to cause hatred and problems and politely ask the mods to remove it.
 
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coby2

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Only Jews could not marry non Jews, except when they converted, so it was about belief, not race.
Now you may not marry an unbeliever.
Mixed colors are the most beautiful and my kids are the sweetest of all. They prove it's no problem. Just a man made racist nonsense false theology about Sem and the serpent seed or something.
 
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Ugly

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Nothing wrong with mixed race marriage. I've heard the Tower of Babel excuse and it doesn't add up to me. That separation was put in place at that time for a specific reason. I see nothing that suggests it was intended as a command to live out. If the purpose was to spread out humanity, and we are now a 'global community' and we as people live all over the globe, that separation is no longer an issue.
 
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AuntieAnt

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I'll give you a dollar (in Monopoly money - :rolleyes: ) if you can find one person on this site who is 100% of any race.

I doubt very much there are many racial societies who have been isolated for hundreds of years and haven't interacted or procreated with other races.

 
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Elijah19

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PennEd, brother. I did not write this post for hatred or problems of any kind but because I wished to know the truth about this matter. As I said before, I believe racism is wrong. And as you said, in the Kingdom of God there will be no concept of race. I'm just asking because I want to know the truth, nothing more. Please don't misread what I wrote. By itself, it is not racist or unchristian, just the question of a man wanting to know how to proceed. If I have written anything wrong here, I apologize, as I must have done it in full ignorance.

If it was the use of the "N" word, remember that I was quoting what my family would tell me, not reflecting my own views on colored people. God made all men/women equal, and I know that. But what about my question? Can you answer it from the Bible? That is all I ask...
 

melita916

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in the OT, God didn't want His people to marry other people groups because of spiritual purity. The other kingdoms had their idols.

so it's not about racial purity. it's about spiritual purity.

it's the same when Paul said to not be unequally yoked.
 

sharkwhales

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According to the tradition I was taught, two people of a different race cannot marry each other with God's blessing because God separated the nations at the Tower of Babel, and racial intermarriage is therefore against his design for each nation staying pure and separate according to his plan. By this line of thinking, I was taught that it goes against the Bible - that a black marrying a white or an Asian marrying an Indian etc would be sacrilegious. Also, according to my family's rendering of other verses of the Old Testament, nations are supposed to keep themselves "pure" whatever that means.
getting straight to the point, what you were taught is hogwash. I do not blame you for it, you are already questioning it. I will make 2 points about it.

1. If God meant to separate the races @ Babel he has undone that in Christ, bringing them back together as one body. Genetically, through Christ, we are all children of Israel, having been grafted into the tree. Communion (Eucharist) is a practice that reflects this. We have the flesh and blood of Christ; we are his race.

galatians 3:28 since you asked for scripture -- There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

2. However the point of Babel wasn't even to keep the races pure! It was to divide the impure ones so they couldn't be unified in their impurity. There Is No Pure Human Bloodline, that's why we needed Christ to come and start a new one! Even the jews mucked up their own bloodline. But Christ has made all things new.

Now that the doctrine is hopefully dismantled in your eyes, please renounce that accursed thing and disown any racist spirits that may have tried to get their dirty fingers on you through it. Again, I'm not accusing you of any wrong, but you don't want that dirtiness on you, because it can hurt others. I would advise you to give Holy Spirit control of how you see races, and especially, how you see people's hearts first. That's what God looks at first. And it's the heart that we give to God that makes us one people in him.

One more thing I will say -- racial purity as a concept was important because curses and blessings and covenants and spiritual access could be passed down through the bloodline. This is a basic spiritual reality -- the blood matters. However, if we think we have racial purity to maintain it is likely a racial familiar spirit trying to protect its hold on our blood. We Do Not Have Any Purity Outside Of Christ's Blood. the only one who keeps us pure is God, through his love, truth, and life, through his acts on heaven and earth. Through him we acquire pure blood, so that we can move with the holy spirit to bring others into the same bloodline, so they may be grafted in like we were (see romans 11 for more on this).bless you brother, I take your question as asked honestly with good intentions, thank you for asking it and be blessed to make a good holy spirit decisions regarding future romances. remember it's the heart that matters.
 
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sharkwhales

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Sorry CC community. After reading a bit of his post I'm certain it is just to cause hatred and problems and politely ask the mods to remove it.
please don't assume the worst. a lot of the OT can't be understood without talking about things modern culture is very sore about.
 

cinder

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Don't really know where to begin on this one, so I'll just say it like it is.

First off, I'm not a racist person. I don't really care about what color a person is, but I do care whether or not they have Christ, which is the really important thing. However, I was raised in a household where racism was not unusual, and one of the things I was always taught growing up was that it was unchristian for a white person to date a black person, regardless of which gender was which color. The basis for this teaching, my family told me, was the story of the tower of Babel.

According to the tradition I was taught, two people of a different race cannot marry each other with God's blessing because God separated the nations at the Tower of Babel, and racial intermarriage is therefore against his design for each nation staying pure and separate according to his plan. By this line of thinking, I was taught that it goes against the Bible - that a black marrying a white or an Asian marrying an Indian etc would be sacrilegious. Also, according to my family's rendering of other verses of the Old Testament, nations are supposed to keep themselves "pure" whatever that means.

Well, I'm not so convinced, but I want to be sure of what the right thing is. I do know that according to the Bible, Moses' wife was an Ethiopian (Cushite, and therefore a black women). Yet Moses, as a Hebrew, would have been a white man, right? Therefore Moses' marriage might have been interracial, correct? If so, wouldn't God have said something if interracial marriage was wrong?

The reason I ask this is not because there is a Christian girl in my life now who has confessed an interest in me. She is black and I am white. If interracial dating or marriage is wrong according to the Bible, we shouldn't see each other as a couple, right? If it's okay for different races to date, how would I go about that - given that my family would most likely deride me about being (I severely beg your forgiveness for using this phrase) a "nigger lover".

Also, please don't post anything racist on here. I know that racism is not a Christian thing, as much as many people have tried to twist it that direction. But if races are not supposed to mix according to God's commandment, I need that verified. If it's okay, I still need that verified. Scripture on this matter would be much welcomed. Should I or shouldn't I go out on a date with this dark girl?
Frankly there is more in the Bible to support the practices of slavery and polygamy than there is against interracial marriage (not that I think those are good practices, just saying that it takes a very prejudiced reading to see the Bible as universally against interracial marriage). I'm going to say that if God was willing to send his son through a mixed race line (Rahab, Ruth, and Tamar (most likely) were all foreigners who were ancestors of Jesus (see Matt 1)) then he's not going to have any issue with interracial marriage. Nor do we see that it was even enough of a concern in the multicultural world of the new testament to be addressed.

While there's nothing morally wrong with it, I would encourage you to think long and hard about the strain that family disapproval would put on you and on such a relationship. It's not a reason not to pursue such a relationship, but it is part of the cost you should count and be ready to deal with before beginning a relationship your family is likely to disapprove of.
 

PennEd

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PennEd, brother. I did not write this post for hatred or problems of any kind but because I wished to know the truth about this matter. As I said before, I believe racism is wrong. And as you said, in the Kingdom of God there will be no concept of race. I'm just asking because I want to know the truth, nothing more. Please don't misread what I wrote. By itself, it is not racist or unchristian, just the question of a man wanting to know how to proceed. If I have written anything wrong here, I apologize, as I must have done it in full ignorance.

If it was the use of the "N" word, remember that I was quoting what my family would tell me, not reflecting my own views on colored people. God made all men/women equal, and I know that. But what about my question? Can you answer it from the Bible? That is all I ask...

I can't quite determine if there is true ignorance or something else going on. You've used the "N" word "colored" people and "dark girl"

There is nothing wrong with your question. I admit myself that as a child and teen I thought it wrong to racially inter-marry or date. But I find it hard to believe that you could think it would be ok to refer to black people like that. Even in describing how others might refer.
You don't have to apologize to me brother. I am NOBODY'S judge. I just thought that the language was inappropriate for here.
 

Lynx

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I remember the last time this thread came up, and... if memory serves... I think it was the same OP who started the topic. I might be wrong but I could almost swear Elijah started this topic last time.
 
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crosstweed

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Fun fact: Moses' wife Zipporah was from Ethiopia. Guess what color Ethiopians are?

I seem to recall Aaron and Miriam criticizing Moses over her and getting smitten with leprosy as a result... hmm...

Numbers 12:1
 

Lynx

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Yeah but that was just an excuse to find fault with Moses. They showed their real chip-on-the-shoulder in the next verse.
 
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crosstweed

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Yeah but that was just an excuse to find fault with Moses. They showed their real chip-on-the-shoulder in the next verse.
Yeah, but it does also show that Moses was married to a black woman and that God was obviously okay with that.
 

Lynx

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Yup. And there is nowhere in the Bible where it ever says otherwise.

AuntieAnt, what you said reminds me of something I read one time. "I went to the shelter to get a dog, and I got a mutt instead of a purebreed. I'm not a purebreed either, so I figured a mutt was good enough for me." :cool:
 

melita916

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my first boyfriend is not hispanic.

my current boyfriend is not hispanic.

i'm hispanic.

lol
 

Lynx

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For it is written, thou hispanics, thou shalt date only mexicans. Them and them only shalt thou date.

I swear I read that somewhere in the Bible... :p

Sorry melita, I just couldn't pass it up.
 

melita916

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For it is written, thou hispanics, thou shalt date only mexicans. Them and them only shalt thou date.

I swear I read that somewhere in the Bible... :p

Sorry melita, I just couldn't pass it up.
silly lynx. this is why we can't have nice things. lol