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It's sort of a long story... I'll abbreviate it.
I had dated a lot of women, many of them the epitome of a "great catch" .... beautiful, intelligent, sexy... you name it. For whatever reason, I became uninterested in them after a time... usually a short time. I dated a couple of women for 6 months to a year, but it still just didn't feel right.
When I met my wife (that's a whole other story in itself) we seemed to hit it off pretty well, and started dating. We dated for several months, and I realized that I was fully comfortable and relaxed with her. No putting up a front, no need to carry on a conversation.... just comfortable BEING together. We could be watching TV, or playing softball, or even shopping.... That's when I pretty much decided she was more than likely the one.
Don't get me wrong.. we had LOTS of fights/arguments/discussions
during the early years. She had a VERY quick temper (Irish) and I was more "slow to anger".... she'd holler and argue and push buttons until she got it out of her system, but by that time, she had gotten ME mad... so.... it was an interesting first 5 years or so. But we stuck it out, and got used to each others' faults, and after 33 years, I think it just might last.... She puts up with a lot. Wouldn't trade her for rubies....
I had dated a lot of women, many of them the epitome of a "great catch" .... beautiful, intelligent, sexy... you name it. For whatever reason, I became uninterested in them after a time... usually a short time. I dated a couple of women for 6 months to a year, but it still just didn't feel right.
When I met my wife (that's a whole other story in itself) we seemed to hit it off pretty well, and started dating. We dated for several months, and I realized that I was fully comfortable and relaxed with her. No putting up a front, no need to carry on a conversation.... just comfortable BEING together. We could be watching TV, or playing softball, or even shopping.... That's when I pretty much decided she was more than likely the one.
Don't get me wrong.. we had LOTS of fights/arguments/discussions
during the early years. She had a VERY quick temper (Irish) and I was more "slow to anger".... she'd holler and argue and push buttons until she got it out of her system, but by that time, she had gotten ME mad... so.... it was an interesting first 5 years or so. But we stuck it out, and got used to each others' faults, and after 33 years, I think it just might last.... She puts up with a lot. Wouldn't trade her for rubies....
It's sort of a long story... I'll abbreviate it.
I had dated a lot of women, many of them the epitome of a "great catch" .... beautiful, intelligent, sexy... you name it. For whatever reason, I became uninterested in them after a time... usually a short time. I dated a couple of women for 6 months to a year, but it still just didn't feel right.
When I met my wife (that's a whole other story in itself) we seemed to hit it off pretty well, and started dating. We dated for several months, and I realized that I was fully comfortable and relaxed with her. No putting up a front, no need to carry on a conversation.... just comfortable BEING together. We could be watching TV, or playing softball, or even shopping.... That's when I pretty much decided she was more than likely the one.
Don't get me wrong.. we had LOTS of fights/arguments/discussions during the early years. She had a VERY quick temper (Irish) and I was more "slow to anger".... she'd holler and argue and push buttons until she got it out of her system, but by that time, she had gotten ME mad... so.... it was an interesting first 5 years or so. But we stuck it out, and got used to each others' faults, and after 33 years, I think it just might last.... She puts up with a lot. Wouldn't trade her for rubies....
I had dated a lot of women, many of them the epitome of a "great catch" .... beautiful, intelligent, sexy... you name it. For whatever reason, I became uninterested in them after a time... usually a short time. I dated a couple of women for 6 months to a year, but it still just didn't feel right.
When I met my wife (that's a whole other story in itself) we seemed to hit it off pretty well, and started dating. We dated for several months, and I realized that I was fully comfortable and relaxed with her. No putting up a front, no need to carry on a conversation.... just comfortable BEING together. We could be watching TV, or playing softball, or even shopping.... That's when I pretty much decided she was more than likely the one.
Don't get me wrong.. we had LOTS of fights/arguments/discussions
during the early years. She had a VERY quick temper (Irish) and I was more "slow to anger".... she'd holler and argue and push buttons until she got it out of her system, but by that time, she had gotten ME mad... so.... it was an interesting first 5 years or so. But we stuck it out, and got used to each others' faults, and after 33 years, I think it just might last.... She puts up with a lot. Wouldn't trade her for rubies....
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He literally saved my life, and I saved his. (long story)
Honestly though, I don't believe there is one person for each.....I believe that love is a choice we make, and to have a choice to make we have to have options. I could have chosen another, and still choose to love that man for the rest of my life. My life would be different but still mine. I CHOOSE to love him daily, and I am thankful to God for bringing this amazing man into my life daily.
Is he perfect? Notta chance. Is he perfect for me? Probably. Is he perfect in Christ? ABSOLUTELY!
If you trust God, then you can trust yourself, with God in you, to make the right choice.
Honestly though, I don't believe there is one person for each.....I believe that love is a choice we make, and to have a choice to make we have to have options. I could have chosen another, and still choose to love that man for the rest of my life. My life would be different but still mine. I CHOOSE to love him daily, and I am thankful to God for bringing this amazing man into my life daily.
Is he perfect? Notta chance. Is he perfect for me? Probably. Is he perfect in Christ? ABSOLUTELY!
If you trust God, then you can trust yourself, with God in you, to make the right choice.
for me it wasn't so much her, you see my former wife died and I was convinced and quite ready to be single and just go about doing Gods work... no tie, not family left to keep me from fully devoting my non_work time to the real purpose of my existence...anyway after many an amazing experience with waking up in the morning and saying to Him, "Father what would you have me do today?" and He would always guide my way to someone who needed a word or simply encouragement, or help in some other way... and I was always blessed far more then the one He sent me to.
One evening in prayer he told me I would be married, and even named the woman I was to marry, her and I had known each other for many years and she too was widowed but it was a couple of years before I was... anyway we had always been friends, (nothing more) or less any way when the spirit told me I would be married to her I was speechless I hadn't even spoken to her in a couple of years... I told the father that is this was Him... He would have to do this and she need to hear from Him not me, the next day she calls me on the phone and we began to reconnect... 2 months later we were married... I said all that to say.. I knew form the Father as did she, our love is strong and we always put Him first. it works so much better that way.. I am blessed and humbled that the King of the universe would look to one such as I and bless me as much as he has, she is my best friend and my 2nd greatets love, He being first of course.
I know this testimony must sound strange to some, but I really do believe that if we truly trust and commit all we are to Him he will surely give us the desire of our hearts.
One evening in prayer he told me I would be married, and even named the woman I was to marry, her and I had known each other for many years and she too was widowed but it was a couple of years before I was... anyway we had always been friends, (nothing more) or less any way when the spirit told me I would be married to her I was speechless I hadn't even spoken to her in a couple of years... I told the father that is this was Him... He would have to do this and she need to hear from Him not me, the next day she calls me on the phone and we began to reconnect... 2 months later we were married... I said all that to say.. I knew form the Father as did she, our love is strong and we always put Him first. it works so much better that way.. I am blessed and humbled that the King of the universe would look to one such as I and bless me as much as he has, she is my best friend and my 2nd greatets love, He being first of course.
I know this testimony must sound strange to some, but I really do believe that if we truly trust and commit all we are to Him he will surely give us the desire of our hearts.
VERY well put. I agree completely!
I also re-read my post, and it almost sounded like my wife was not beautiful, sexy, etc.... which is 180 degrees from the truth.... I was simply blessed to find all of those things along with the person I could be comfortable with.... this is us at our wedding... a long time ago... I still had hair.. She still looks as good now as she did then, to me. I chose wisely.... of course, I had a lot of help from God... as did most of us here, I imagine.
I also re-read my post, and it almost sounded like my wife was not beautiful, sexy, etc.... which is 180 degrees from the truth.... I was simply blessed to find all of those things along with the person I could be comfortable with.... this is us at our wedding... a long time ago... I still had hair.. She still looks as good now as she did then, to me. I chose wisely....
of course, I had a lot of help from God... as did most of us here, I imagine.
Ouch! A sledge hammer? That would really hurt . You really have a funny way of expressing yourself. Lol!
Someone said that the line "I can't live without you" is quite exaggerated or not realistic. I mean, how did you survive before when you have not met him yet? This is better "My life would suck without you"
Someone said that the line "I can't live without you" is quite exaggerated or not realistic. I mean, how did you survive before when you have not met him yet? This is better "My life would suck without you"
VERY well put. I agree completely!
I also re-read my post, and it almost sounded like my wife was not beautiful, sexy, etc.... which is 180 degrees from the truth.... I was simply blessed to find all of those things along with the person I could be comfortable with.... this is us at our wedding... a long time ago... I still had hair.. She still looks as good now as she did then, to me. I chose wisely.... of course, I had a lot of help from God... as did most of us here, I imagine.
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I also re-read my post, and it almost sounded like my wife was not beautiful, sexy, etc.... which is 180 degrees from the truth.... I was simply blessed to find all of those things along with the person I could be comfortable with.... this is us at our wedding... a long time ago... I still had hair.. She still looks as good now as she did then, to me. I chose wisely....
of course, I had a lot of help from God... as did most of us here, I imagine. View attachment 148179
Lovely couple. Looks like barbie and ken.
Thanks for sharing your inspiring story. So its really true, the Holy Spirit whispers to some people and tell them who to marry. This also happened to our pastor. He heard a voice that said "WIFE" the moment he saw her. He did nothing but prayed for the girl to notice him. The girl was already engaged to another guy but somehow the engagement was broken and everything fell into place,they ended up getting married. Its amazing how God works.
Thanks newwine. I also believe that our choices become our destiny. But sometimes I can't help but believe that God has chosen someone to be our suitable mate, its up to us to trust God and hopefully to recognize that person and choose him when the time comes that God brings him to your life. That belief and the inspiring stories posted in this thread gives me hope that true love exists.
My wife and I dated, and even lived together, for 4 years. We broke up and over the next 8 years went on to have other girl/boyfriends. But as they came and went, we remained friends. One day we found ourselves consoling each other over another set of breakups. That’s when we came to the realization that while passionate love affairs were going to come and go, we were just naturally going to be together till death does us part. That was 12 years ago and we're still good.
I do not believe that God has "one" person who is supposed to be our soul mate, and we just wait for God to point out who it is so we can be married. Although a testimony in this thread certainly is an exception that proves the rule!
But I do believe God can lead and guide us to a person who is best suited to us to be our life mate. That means both similarities and differences.
My husband was a Christian when I met him and I was not. He was determined to witness to me and tell me about Jesus. I just thought he was cute, and might be fun to go out with for a date. After 5 months, he finally sat me down and proclaimed the gospel.
Lo and behold! I got saved! We spent the rest of the night talking, and realized we loved each other. We were never really apart after that, except to go home to our separate houses to sleep till we got married. That was 35 years ago. We've been through some really rocky patches, and had some incredible years doing things together, like traveling and raising our 4 children. We've both put up with way too much from each other, and that was God helping us learn how to forgive.
I can't begin to imagine life without my husband. While we don't agree on things like music/movies/TV, we both agree that serving God is the most important thing of all. I praise God for allowing doors to open, so I met my husband, got saved, and for the life we have had together, and will continue to have.
But I do believe God can lead and guide us to a person who is best suited to us to be our life mate. That means both similarities and differences.
My husband was a Christian when I met him and I was not. He was determined to witness to me and tell me about Jesus. I just thought he was cute, and might be fun to go out with for a date. After 5 months, he finally sat me down and proclaimed the gospel.
Lo and behold! I got saved! We spent the rest of the night talking, and realized we loved each other. We were never really apart after that, except to go home to our separate houses to sleep till we got married. That was 35 years ago. We've been through some really rocky patches, and had some incredible years doing things together, like traveling and raising our 4 children. We've both put up with way too much from each other, and that was God helping us learn how to forgive.
I can't begin to imagine life without my husband. While we don't agree on things like music/movies/TV, we both agree that serving God is the most important thing of all. I praise God for allowing doors to open, so I met my husband, got saved, and for the life we have had together, and will continue to have.