I just threw up in my mouth a little.

[Magenta]

No,Magenta was being nasty. She has never talked to me that way. Shes upset at someone else and is slapping me down for it. People are getting meaner and meaner on here. Its getting to be all drama and no joy anymore. I can fight with family around me if Im that desperate. I dont need to be spoken to in a nasty manner from strangers.

I'd appreciate you not slandering me. This is not the first time either. Thank you.

 

[melita916]

i think everybody needs to take a nap.

 

[Magenta]

I think people need to stop assigning motive and projecting their feelings onto me.
If you can't stop being hateful then perhaps you need to go for a walk. Or a nap.

 

[Sirk]

I think people need to stop assigning motive and projecting their feelings onto me.
If you can't stop being hateful then perhaps you need to go for a walk. Or a nap.

I'm not entirely sure M but I think that you feel we are unfairly judging Paula. Is that the case?

 

[coby2]

I didn't get that. What I understood from Kayla is that people in leadership positions should have a little sense about it. Every little nook and cranny shouldn't be exposed on a woman who is in a leadership position in the body of Christ. Lay people can do whatever they want but shouldn't a "leader" lead their congregation by conducting themselves as if they actually hold fast to the the cross?

Why? That's nonsense. Anyone who dresses not decent in our church gets told that they can turn on the men and it's not decent, unless they aren't saved or just saved. I never had any comments. The pastor's wife wears tight jeans too. Very decent.

 

[Sirk]

Why? That's nonsense. Anyone who dresses not decent in our church gets told that they can turn on the men and it's not decent, unless they aren't saved or just saved. I never had any comments. The pastor's wife wears tight jeans too. Very decent.

I don't think it's nonsense. I said it...lol. And I think I'm a reasonably smart guy who is reasonable. Saying what I said is nonsense sort of feels like you are calling me stupid. I really don't care for that.

 

[kaylagrl]

looks like Paula has herself in a pickle seeins how she has opened herself up to this.

Posting a video where Miss Paula agrees with her guest,Jesus is not the only begotten son...

https://vimeo.com/9775256


Or this gem;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJIWIblUK6A


Still want to defend her ?

 

[coby2]

I don't think it's nonsense. I said it...lol. And I think I'm a reasonably smart guy who is reasonable. Saying what I said is nonsense sort of feels like you are calling me stupid. I really don't care for that.

I've been a pastor's wife and what annoyed me to no end was the double standard. A member cannot say when they are too lazy to pray that the pastor has to pray or walk in whatever clothes and make demands towards the pastor or his wife. Well they can but I don't care lol. Now that I'm just a member I shouldn't care anymore? It's church culture. I went to Canada and a guy preached in jeans. I was so not used to it but it made me think: yeah why not?
First church where I got saved the worship leader who was on fire for God left because they demanded he'd wear a tie. I had to wear a dress. Borrowed one from my mom. Didn't even have one. That's religion. I like those hippy churches better tbh.

 

[kaylagrl]

Besides, "God is concerned with the heart--the inner man, rather than the outward appearance."?

What do you mean? Do you have specific verse(s) in mind?

I Tim.- I desire…that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control...

 

[kaylagrl]

I'd appreciate you not slandering me. This is not the first time either. Thank you.

What do you mean slander you???? What are you talking about Magenta?!

 

[Justcallmetinman]

I've been a pastor's wife and what annoyed me to no end was the double standard. A member cannot say when they are too lazy to pray that the pastor has to pray or walk in whatever clothes and make demands towards the pastor or his wife. Well they can but I don't care lol. Now that I'm just a member I shouldn't care anymore? It's church culture. I went to Canada and a guy preached in jeans. I was so not used to it but it made me think: yeah why not?
First church where I got saved the worship leader who was on fire for God left because they demanded he'd wear a tie. I had to wear a dress. Borrowed one from my mom. Didn't even have one. That's religion. I like those hippy churches better tbh.

Its called REVERENCE. Its not religion.

 

[Justcallmetinman]

I think people need to stop assigning motive and projecting their feelings onto me.
If you can't stop being hateful then perhaps you need to go for a walk. Or a nap.

I think you need to take your own advice.................... btw, why did you put that you are 61 when you made a statement on the forums that you have lived 7 decades? Isnt that lying?

 

[Willie-T]

Its called REVERENCE. Its not religion.

/////////////////////////////////////////////*sigh*

 

[BrotherJustin]

I think people need to stop assigning motive and projecting their feelings onto me.
If you can't stop being hateful then perhaps you need to go for a walk. Or a nap.

You're right--people should not project their feelings onto others. People should work to distinguish between what was actually said and what was understood.

By my understanding, Kayla feels like you were being nasty towards her, she feels like you never talk to her "that way", she feels like you are "slapping her down".

Let's take a look at what you said that rubbed her the wrong way:

You are being awfully defensive. Who said you called her a prostitute, and why would you even say that? You cannot say that the men in this picture I posted were also adulterers! Why do you even say that? Gosh, they were simply sinners, as are we all. Jesus said, "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." He did not say, you may cast stones if you have never committed adultery. Therefore it does have a correlation to what you are saying.

I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that it was the first line that rubbed her the wrong way. In a sense, you are projecting your feelings about her onto her ("You are being awfully defensive").

Kayla responded very respectfully at first: Here -- without projecting any feelings on you.

Your next response is where the whole thing goes south: Here -- where you make statements such as, "take responsibility for what you do", "stop blaming me", "stop projecting your thoughts onto me, pretending I said or implied things I did not"

But, she had not yet blamed you are accused you of anything. All she said was: Your picture has no correlation to what she was saying.

By my understanding, your need to "be right" trumps compassion and empathy, in this instance.

 

[coby2]

Its called REVERENCE. Its not religion.

But as soon as they kick people out of church for it it's dead religion.

 

[Justcallmetinman]

I think you need to take your own advice.................... btw, why did you put that you are 61 when you made a statement on the forums that you have lived 7 decades? Isnt that lying?

Oh, so you have received your PhD from the school of hard knocks? I am into my seventh decade of this earth walk and I am still learning

But yet you had the gall to call MsSuzanna a liar yesterday .

 

[coby2]

Its called REVERENCE. Its not religion.

And reverence makes that you can judge others I assume. Okay then.

 

[Justcallmetinman]

I've been a pastor's wife and what annoyed me to no end was the double standard. A member cannot say when they are too lazy to pray that the pastor has to pray or walk in whatever clothes and make demands towards the pastor or his wife. Well they can but I don't care lol. Now that I'm just a member I shouldn't care anymore? It's church culture. I went to Canada and a guy preached in jeans. I was so not used to it but it made me think: yeah why not?
First church where I got saved the worship leader who was on fire for God left because they demanded he'd wear a tie. I had to wear a dress. Borrowed one from my mom. Didn't even have one. That's religion. I like those hippy churches better tbh.

Wearing a tie was obviously something they did at that church. It sounds like the guy was a rebel and wanted to write his own rules.

 

[Willie-T]

I Tim.- I desire…that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control...

Written by the same guy who said women should keep their mouths shut, and ask questions of only their husbands. (A little wanting to eat some cake, but keep it, too, going on?)

 

[kaylagrl]

You're right--people should not project their feelings onto others. People should work to distinguish between what was actually said and what was understood.

By my understanding, Kayla feels like you were being nasty towards her, she feels like you never talk to her "that way", she feels like you are "slapping her down".

Let's take a look at what you said that rubbed her the wrong way:



I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that it was the first line that rubbed her the wrong way. In a sense, you are projecting your feelings about her onto her ("You are being awfully defensive").

Kayla responded very respectfully at first: Here -- without projecting any feelings on you.

Your next response is where the whole thing goes south: Here -- where you make statements such as, "take responsibility for what you do", "stop blaming me", "stop projecting your thoughts onto me, pretending I said or implied things I did not"

But, she had not yet blamed you are accused you of anything. All she said was: Your picture has no correlation to what she was saying.

By my understanding, your need to "be right" trumps compassion and empathy, in this instance.

Yes,thank you.You stated it perfectly.