What do I do when my own parents are turning against me and my faith? Last night I attended revival that my church is hosting. Church let out at 9 after it let out I went to one of couples houses for about an hour, which put me getting home around 10:30. When I got home my parents were furious. They lashed out at me and told me I didn't need to be hanging around with the people I go to church with. Which of course made me curious as to why they would say that, so I asked them what they meant. At first they just said I would find out on my own, but after some begging my mom finally told me they didn't agree with me going to that church. She literally called it a cult. Which it is far from. I love this church, the preach the gospel correct and the anointing is there. The people literally treat me like family so of course I love to hang out with them even outside of the church. See I don't expect my parents to understand my relationship with God or church. They aren't even saved nor even attend church. Don't even get me started on when I tried to explain to them. It hurt me so bad. I am not giving up going to this church. I feel God and the love there. I don't know what to do. I have reserved a hotel room tonight because I don't even want to go home, but I'm afraid that might be a bad idea too. What should I do?
Issues with my parents.
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T
I know how it feels to have your parents do that.
When my father saw I had a Bible he slapped me and took it. In order to go to church I have to make sure my step father doesn't know.
But, Jesus suffered much hate against himself and His beliefs. I don't know about you but it brings me comfort to know someone so divine knows what we suffer.
If I can remember the verse I have in mind I will put it on here.
God bless, and keep walking in God's light!
When my father saw I had a Bible he slapped me and took it. In order to go to church I have to make sure my step father doesn't know.
But, Jesus suffered much hate against himself and His beliefs. I don't know about you but it brings me comfort to know someone so divine knows what we suffer.
If I can remember the verse I have in mind I will put it on here.
God bless, and keep walking in God's light!
What about the commandment honor thy mother and father. Obviously I understand that I don't have to obey them on the issue with church because they are the ones going against God. However, I don't plan to stop seeing my friends from church outside of church. I will have to hide where I go and what I do. Which is hard to do because they know where I am supposed to be and the times. Is it a good idea to just stay away from them tonight?
The commandment doesnt mean perfect obedience without question. You should honour and respect them because God choose them to create you. They have been chosen so you are and become who you and and who he planned to be. Only because you honour them that doesnt mean you have to agree with them on everything. What would be good if you would just lean back and take some time in prayer and ask the Holy spirit to tell you what to do and start having a hearing heart towards Gods voice.
W
Well, there are two possible answers here, as I don't know the church you are in.
Your parents could be in the wrong , and should respect that you found a different community that you enjoy
Your parents could be right about it being a cult.
Make sure you match up both your parents words and your church's words to the bible
Your parents could be in the wrong , and should respect that you found a different community that you enjoy
Your parents could be right about it being a cult.
Make sure you match up both your parents words and your church's words to the bible
when i became a Christian my family was catholic....and all thought i had joined a cult...
i tried to explain like you did... what i learned then.. was that this was a walk i had to take alone...
so i clung to God...He became my family...and in return He gave me some amazing brothers
and sisters along the way...pray for your family...be respectful....stick close to God..hand Him this
and watch what He does for you...be strong and all will turn out for you...all by the Grace of our loving Father...
for He has never once let me down...peace jo
i tried to explain like you did... what i learned then.. was that this was a walk i had to take alone...
so i clung to God...He became my family...and in return He gave me some amazing brothers
and sisters along the way...pray for your family...be respectful....stick close to God..hand Him this
and watch what He does for you...be strong and all will turn out for you...all by the Grace of our loving Father...
for He has never once let me down...peace jo
T
1 Peter 4:12-19 (ESV)
Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ's sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. But let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a meddler. Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name. ...
Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ's sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. But let none of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evildoer or as a meddler. Yet if anyone suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God in that name. ...
If you are of legal age then your parents have no authority over you except that which comes from respect from living with them. It may be best that you let them know where you are and when you expect to return home to ease their anxiety of your whereabouts. The world is a dangerous place and as a father I have asked my children to let me know where they were going and when to expect their return. I only wanted a starting place incase I had to go look for them should they disappear.
Keep inviting your parents to come to church with you when you go. Tell them if they are with you they need not worry about you. Pray for God to save them and to give you wisdom to guide them toward Christ.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
Keep inviting your parents to come to church with you when you go. Tell them if they are with you they need not worry about you. Pray for God to save them and to give you wisdom to guide them toward Christ.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
T
I also invited a previously atheist friend to church and the service moved her so much she started crying and opened her eyes to the truth 
I recommend reading the Bible Acr96, and going through and reading about all those who converted. If God can work in their lives as well as lives today what stops Him from working in your parents?
Perhaps you were called to lead them to God? You never know
I recommend reading the Bible Acr96, and going through and reading about all those who converted. If God can work in their lives as well as lives today what stops Him from working in your parents?
Perhaps you were called to lead them to God? You never know
Thank you all. I will continue to keep praying most importantly, but they have done made it pretty clear that they would not be attending that church. Also, yes I am legal age. I'm just afraid of disobeying. They already think I am disrespectful. Which hurt being called a disrespectful brat. I probably do need to help more around the house. I have been helping with the bills and even doing somethings without even being asked.
you already planted the seed my girl....that means God is already at work on this...so for you to worry shows God
you don't trust Him...and i know you do..now is the time to smile and relax...because changes are coming...this is a Faith
builder....no worries..take the step of Faith keep studying and let God handle this...i feel a victory coming your way...
you don't trust Him...and i know you do..now is the time to smile and relax...because changes are coming...this is a Faith
builder....no worries..take the step of Faith keep studying and let God handle this...i feel a victory coming your way...
T
My father was about the least likely person to go to church in my life. He HATED religion. Hated any of his family even thinking about that sort if thing. Called everyone who believed in any religion words I can't say. But, with years and years and years of work I finally got Him to church.
Now, even if they go it doesn't mean they will start believing. I wasn't able to get my father into believing, but you can't give up trying.
I am praying for you
Now, even if they go it doesn't mean they will start believing. I wasn't able to get my father into believing, but you can't give up trying.
I am praying for you
U
I would say don't let your parents guilt you into feeling bad about yourself or your faith and the commitment to it you hold. Being called things like a 'disrespectful brat' speaks more about them, than it does about you. If you are already helping with bills and chores and feel like 'i probably need to do more around the house' that is just giving in to the mistreatment and trying to buy their love. Their love should be freely given, and if it's not, then chances are there is nothing more you can do to earn it short of surrendering your identity to live how they expect. But chances are they still wouldn't be happy.
It sounds like you've been spoken to this way for a long time, possibly, and have that mindset of accepting it and feeling guilty for 'making' them feel and act the way they do. This is not a healthy, nor accurate, way to think. You are not making them act the way they are, or say the things they're saying. They can disagree with you and still be loving and respectful. So that only proves the fault lies in their hearts, not yours.
And that you, even still, worry about disobedience, only verifies the above point even further.
It sounds like you've been spoken to this way for a long time, possibly, and have that mindset of accepting it and feeling guilty for 'making' them feel and act the way they do. This is not a healthy, nor accurate, way to think. You are not making them act the way they are, or say the things they're saying. They can disagree with you and still be loving and respectful. So that only proves the fault lies in their hearts, not yours.
And that you, even still, worry about disobedience, only verifies the above point even further.