Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?
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Of course I'm angry. I'm a hard working, straight, White, conservative, Christian man living in the ever-increasing third-world socialist cesspool known as New Jersey. Everything is stacked against me here. Jesus is mocked and disrespected while everything else is revered. The hell with these jack-wagons who roam the streets where integrity once ruled the day but people they wipe their rear ends with the Bible and the U.S. Constitution. I'm fighting the Good Fight and make no apologies for my attitude.
And yet with all that said, yesterday I asked for prayers, asking God to help create in me a more gentile spirit while at the same time allowing me to remain ever firm in my resolve to proclaim the glorious Truth of Jesus Christ while standing up for decency and common sense. Up to this point I'm like John the Baptist with a take no prisoners attitude; if I can be more gentle in spirit, that would be wonderful, but if not, so be it. Into God's hands I commit my spirit.
And yet with all that said, yesterday I asked for prayers, asking God to help create in me a more gentile spirit while at the same time allowing me to remain ever firm in my resolve to proclaim the glorious Truth of Jesus Christ while standing up for decency and common sense. Up to this point I'm like John the Baptist with a take no prisoners attitude; if I can be more gentle in spirit, that would be wonderful, but if not, so be it. Into God's hands I commit my spirit.
Right there with you brother. That's why I can't get too animated about the condition of the country. My flesh is constantly pulling me toward anger and strife. If you look at what we as a nation were vs. what we have become, it is beyond sickening.
So my choice is to be angry and join a militia, and be ready when the civil war comes, or give myself TOTALLY to Christ, and accept that the demise of society will not be thwarted by me doing the former. This is a legitimate struggle for me. I'd like to think that the Holy Spirit is working to ensure I just live for Christ in Grace and love, even toward those responsible for the moral cesspool we are in.
So my choice is to be angry and join a militia, and be ready when the civil war comes, or give myself TOTALLY to Christ, and accept that the demise of society will not be thwarted by me doing the former. This is a legitimate struggle for me. I'd like to think that the Holy Spirit is working to ensure I just live for Christ in Grace and love, even toward those responsible for the moral cesspool we are in.
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Word, brother! 
I am very aware of my anger toward those who step on others like they are worthless and use religious extremism to justify their cruel behavior. I have intense bully radar and am quick to defend victims. *sigh* But I know in my spirit that it's not God's will for me to react like that, like Peter with his sword. I'm a slow learner but I'm learning. Over and over I gotta keep surrendering to the Lord's gentle spirit and waiting on him to move me in the way he wants me to go. Man, how happy I am that the Lord is patient and merciful and faithful.
I am very aware of my anger toward those who step on others like they are worthless and use religious extremism to justify their cruel behavior. I have intense bully radar and am quick to defend victims. *sigh* But I know in my spirit that it's not God's will for me to react like that, like Peter with his sword. I'm a slow learner but I'm learning. Over and over I gotta keep surrendering to the Lord's gentle spirit and waiting on him to move me in the way he wants me to go. Man, how happy I am that the Lord is patient and merciful and faithful.
Word, brother!
I am very aware of my anger toward those who step on others like they are worthless and use religious extremism to justify their cruel behavior. I have intense bully radar and am quick to defend victims. *sigh* But I know in my spirit that it's not God's will for me to react like that, like Peter with his sword. I'm a slow learner but I'm learning. Over and over I gotta keep surrendering to the Lord's gentle spirit and waiting on him to move me in the way he wants me to go. Man, how happy I am that the Lord is patient and merciful and faithful.
I am very aware of my anger toward those who step on others like they are worthless and use religious extremism to justify their cruel behavior. I have intense bully radar and am quick to defend victims. *sigh* But I know in my spirit that it's not God's will for me to react like that, like Peter with his sword. I'm a slow learner but I'm learning. Over and over I gotta keep surrendering to the Lord's gentle spirit and waiting on him to move me in the way he wants me to go. Man, how happy I am that the Lord is patient and merciful and faithful.
Thank you for sharing as always. God bless you!
Hmmmmmmmmmm where do I begin. The Lord is helping me with anger and has taught me better ways to let anger go. How I do it depends on the situation at hand. Most of the time I just walk away, which isn't always easy for me. Especially with bullies and people who think that they are better than someone. He has helped me with my tongue because it can be quick and sharp. He's helped me with forgiveness if you forgive that will help anger pass as well.
When I'm angry I tend to get quiet and off to myself to avoid saying something that I shouldn't, I don't have to have the last word. I may come back to address things later, maybe not, again it depends on the situation and the people involved..
I use to be a brawler, not because I wanted to be because I had to be. I'm to old for that now although there are times I'd like to give someone a good whack. I'm a work in progress, God is a Great God and He can change any man/woman if they want it and open their hearts to receive it. He's done amazing things in my life with more amazing things to come.
When I'm angry I tend to get quiet and off to myself to avoid saying something that I shouldn't, I don't have to have the last word. I may come back to address things later, maybe not, again it depends on the situation and the people involved..
I use to be a brawler, not because I wanted to be because I had to be. I'm to old for that now although there are times I'd like to give someone a good whack.
I'm a work in progress, God is a Great God and He can change any man/woman if they want it and open their hearts to receive it. He's done amazing things in my life with more amazing things to come.
Some will say that anger is a secondary emotion, that the primary feeling is one
of being hurt as a result of some boundary being violated. Anger may even help
us understand what our boundaries are so we can better maintain them in looking
after ourselves and being aware of where our values are.
The problem, though, is that often we have unmet, unrealistic expectations
of others. I am no more capable of always living up to other people's
expectations of me than anyone else is capable of living up to my expectations
of them. I also need to know what my expectations are and how realistic and
willing I am to try to meet the expectations of others. Boundaries...
That is why I must forgive others when they unknowingly trample my boundaries.
Carrying resentment is like taking poison hoping someone else dies.
When people do cross my boundaries, I have to determine if they do so maliciously
or unwittingly. If it is an ongoing problem where they show that they simply have no
consideration for me, or I come to the conclusion that the other is really untrustworthy
for whatever reason, then it is up to me to deal with my own feelings in a way that
does no harm to them. Yes, easier said than done. Impossible at times.
I may not be able to control my emotions, but I do have some measure of control
over how I act as a result of the things I feel. As I grow and mature, my ability to
maintain some modicum of circumspection increases. As Laura said, perspective is key.
Insanity is the loss of perspective. If I get too self focused, my life can spin out of control.
Having Jesus in my life, and being able to turn things over to God, makes everything
so much better. I still get angry. I just don't feel as driven any more to get even.
That is such a relief
All the posts seem to have covered the topic perfectly with some great suggestions but my original thought with the OP was "how do you define anger," I have come to realize that some people actually define anger as when a person turns red in the face, spewing obscenties, throwing objects while screaming. To me that is not anger but uncontrolled rage. In this case, no I dont struggle with anger and never have.
Others define anger as being upset about something said so you open up to someone and through discussion in a normal controlled tone of voice express how your upset by x statement or action and want to know why that person said x or did x. Their response, "well I dont know why ypur angry.." Im not angry, Im upset there is a difference. In this case I do experience "anger" but I define that as being upset. Im too analytical at times, yes I realize.
The older I get I have zero tolerance for rage unless someones life is in literal danger I guess.
Anger and frustration I have finally gotten to a place where I disengage for a minimum of 15 min before I try to reapproach which prevents me from saying or doing something I will regret. While driving, if someone cuts me off I immediately picture Jesus sitting in my passenger seat and not let words or thoughts escape that I wouldnt want Him to hear. Works about 80% of time.
Others define anger as being upset about something said so you open up to someone and through discussion in a normal controlled tone of voice express how your upset by x statement or action and want to know why that person said x or did x. Their response, "well I dont know why ypur angry.." Im not angry, Im upset there is a difference. In this case I do experience "anger" but I define that as being upset. Im too analytical at times, yes I realize.
The older I get I have zero tolerance for rage unless someones life is in literal danger I guess.
Anger and frustration I have finally gotten to a place where I disengage for a minimum of 15 min before I try to reapproach which prevents me from saying or doing something I will regret. While driving, if someone cuts me off I immediately picture Jesus sitting in my passenger seat and not let words or thoughts escape that I wouldnt want Him to hear. Works about 80% of time.
Agreed. I had the same thought about defining what anger actually is. I rarely ever have any sort of outburst, and even then it's only ever been with immediate family (ex-husband). I do sometimes "rant" which is a display of anger, but it's more like passionate griping, and rarely in direct conflict with someone. I get irritated regularly, usually while driving. I don't think that's really the same thing as "anger" though.
Love the honesty coming out in this thread!
I don't think that's really the same thing as "anger" though. Love the honesty coming out in this thread!