So... out of curiosity, why do you think you are attracted to women, and not men? Any ideas at all, or was it just "always that way" ?
Please don't be defensive, I'm just curious... if you'd rather not answer, no problem.
I'm not angry I just wanted to write a good responce, hornetguy. Let's see.... I hope this isn't too graphic, but to a dude sex is: Get erection, put it in something, finish and relax.
I've never really had sex, but I think I'd prefer not to do it with a ticking time bomb.
Because lets admit it, studies show that most men are done before a woman even orgasms. Even if she communicates she's not quite 'done' most men will continue but half heartedly, some will just say they're too tired.
(if this is too graphic I can change the wording.)
Lets see, guys don't shave body hair.
Guys don't pull off chubby like women can.
If I was with a man he'd probably feel inclined to be the one who opens my door, and makes the first move and I'd be socially inclined to let him. This is personal preference I have nothing against men or women who are heterosexual, but if was in a relationship with a woman and I was the less dominant one, it wouldn't bother me, because its obviously mine and her conscious or unconscious choice. Not something society pushed on us.
Now without the dynamic of man and women, both different but together we'd be in quite a predicament. But having some same sex couples on the side takes nothing from the heterosexual majority.
For the minority of people who are attracted to the same sex, well I think the mental difference between man and women explains it.
While for the average couple the difference between man and woman works for good.
However for a homosexual the different behavior of opposite sex partner is baffling and uncomfortable because of how they're partner can't quite get them. The attraction to different traits is not found in them. Men and women are wired differently in the brain, so of course there are noticeable differences in behaviour. These difference cause stress for those who's minds (for whatever reason) doesn't find them compelling or even a likeable or comforting difference.
Most homosexual men like befriending women
And for the lesbians who aren't simply gay because of a hatred of men, they also tend to have male friends.
When a man and a woman are friends (both heterosexual) there's often a tension because they are of the sex they find attractive. This makes close contact they'd call friendly with someone of the same sex seem awkward or even wrong.
For homosexuals, they don't get that tension with the opposite sex but with the same one.
A lesbian probably isn't uncomfortable about wrestling a man for the last piece of pizza.
A Gay man probably isn't uncomfortable about giggling, watching romance movies and sharing deep thoughts with a woman, it doesn't get awkward because there's no sexual or romantic attraction.
I hope this helps you understand. I'm not trying to make you believe being gay is good or even okay but I hope you can understand more about the reason some people are attracted to the same sex.
