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So… you are single. Before you make that thread about how terrible your love life is I would like to share a few thoughts with you. I am 23 and I am single myself (at the time of writing this thread). I do not offer the following information as truth, there is no scientific data to support me, and it is one dimensional. Take it as you will and I can only hope it will help you as much as it has helped me.
I am single and I am upset about it.
Why? I want you to take a moment and think deeply as to why you are truly upset. If you are not a complete person alone you will not be a complete person with someone else. Trust me. It is a common misconception to think that you are incomplete without a significant other in your life. You are perfect and I can prove it.
Ok, prove it.
Open your eyes and look into the mirror. You will never be as beautiful as you are now, this very moment. A lot of things had to be perfect for you to be where you are. You are your toughest critic in your mind, that’s what you need to change. Not your body. If you have the confidence in yourself then the rest will follow suit. Your body will reflect your mentalities. Your body language, all of it. Smile, it helps too.
You have gifts.
You see things that no one else can. You feel things that only you understand. You have talents and skills that are hidden behind a brick wall. Want to know a secret? Brick walls are not designed to keep you out. They are just there to test how badly you want what is on the other side. You can knock it down, climb over it, go around, point is you can do it! You hold the tools and there is nothing stopping you. If you get out of your way anything is possible.
I just want a boy/girl friend.
Before you begin to search you need to realize something. This isn’t something you look for. There is no treasure beneath an oasis, no X marks the spot. You can’t search for something you cannot see or touch. That is what faith is, love is the same way. It is an experience. It defies all natural laws: created from nothing and it can never be destroyed. There is no magic line that will give you that person. There are no genies to give you those three wishes; it’s all in your heart. All of it.
Don’t search, LIVE!
Regardless on your thoughts or beliefs in regards to an afterlife we can all agree that we are here, right now. Take a deep breath and take a plunge into what life has to offer. Life is not a goal. Life is not a destination. Life is a journey that we all take; a story to be told. Open your book and write in its’ pages. Write down 10 goals that you want to accomplish. This can be in a week, month, year, or lifetime. Then go do it! If you pick up a book and read the last chapter you will not understand, feel empty, cheated, deceived of something that you know is so much better. Life is the same way. Go!
Open your wings and fly.
The most beautiful birds in the world are only so beautiful because they open their wings and fly. Feel the wind in your face and see all that is around you. Take it with you when you go. On your journey you will meet someone. I promise. If you live your life to the fullest and keep a heart of gold; that special someone will take notice. Trust me.
My mentality of life: “If you live life to the fullest you will always be out of breath, have windswept hair, and have the biggest grin on your face. Welcome to my life. Welcome to my adventure. I have gifts, I am beautiful, I have wings, and I can fly.”
I am single and I am upset about it.
Why? I want you to take a moment and think deeply as to why you are truly upset. If you are not a complete person alone you will not be a complete person with someone else. Trust me. It is a common misconception to think that you are incomplete without a significant other in your life. You are perfect and I can prove it.
Ok, prove it.
Open your eyes and look into the mirror. You will never be as beautiful as you are now, this very moment. A lot of things had to be perfect for you to be where you are. You are your toughest critic in your mind, that’s what you need to change. Not your body. If you have the confidence in yourself then the rest will follow suit. Your body will reflect your mentalities. Your body language, all of it. Smile, it helps too.
You have gifts.
You see things that no one else can. You feel things that only you understand. You have talents and skills that are hidden behind a brick wall. Want to know a secret? Brick walls are not designed to keep you out. They are just there to test how badly you want what is on the other side. You can knock it down, climb over it, go around, point is you can do it! You hold the tools and there is nothing stopping you. If you get out of your way anything is possible.
I just want a boy/girl friend.
Before you begin to search you need to realize something. This isn’t something you look for. There is no treasure beneath an oasis, no X marks the spot. You can’t search for something you cannot see or touch. That is what faith is, love is the same way. It is an experience. It defies all natural laws: created from nothing and it can never be destroyed. There is no magic line that will give you that person. There are no genies to give you those three wishes; it’s all in your heart. All of it.
Don’t search, LIVE!
Regardless on your thoughts or beliefs in regards to an afterlife we can all agree that we are here, right now. Take a deep breath and take a plunge into what life has to offer. Life is not a goal. Life is not a destination. Life is a journey that we all take; a story to be told. Open your book and write in its’ pages. Write down 10 goals that you want to accomplish. This can be in a week, month, year, or lifetime. Then go do it! If you pick up a book and read the last chapter you will not understand, feel empty, cheated, deceived of something that you know is so much better. Life is the same way. Go!
Open your wings and fly.
The most beautiful birds in the world are only so beautiful because they open their wings and fly. Feel the wind in your face and see all that is around you. Take it with you when you go. On your journey you will meet someone. I promise. If you live your life to the fullest and keep a heart of gold; that special someone will take notice. Trust me.
My mentality of life: “If you live life to the fullest you will always be out of breath, have windswept hair, and have the biggest grin on your face. Welcome to my life. Welcome to my adventure. I have gifts, I am beautiful, I have wings, and I can fly.”
maybe because im busy at school! anyway im infatuated with a certain someone but she's not the type who'd go for me so im like whatever!
