I just wonder why a lot in here says that they haven't dated anyone and they're almost in their 30's so let me ask this, men out there what takes you to ask a girl on a date? Is it the physical appearance or is it if the girl shows interest on you first or what...?,and for the girls...for you to agree on a date.
just wonder...
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I'm 24 and never been in a relationship, but it's because I don't want to date casually. If I date someone it will be someone I already know well, he'll have asked me pastors, and he'll already have marriage in mind. If you think of dating that way then it's not unusual for someone in their 30s to never have dated.
jangel,
I see you live in the Philippines. I live in the United States. If, for example, you and I were to hypothetically develop a serious relationship together, eventually one of us would have to hypothetically move in order to hypothetically be closer to each other. I'm not talking about sharing a hypothetical apartment together; I'm saying we should probably hypothetically be within a one hour drive away from each other and hypothetically meet at least once a week.
Very long distance relationships aren't always practical, especially if you've never met in person, because the person with whom you are in a relationship will probably only show you their good side and try to make the best impression, which is not always accurate. You're not getting to know the real person, their quirks, their mannerisms, their habits, etc. You are not there in person to smell each other's pheromones. I do not feel that God is calling me to the Philippines, and I don't know whether you feel called here to the 'States, so this hypothetical "relationship" would probably not work out very well. I'm just speaking in terms of practicality; what works and what doesn't. I'm sorry to use myself as an example, but I can only speak for myself.
I see you live in the Philippines. I live in the United States. If, for example, you and I were to hypothetically develop a serious relationship together, eventually one of us would have to hypothetically move in order to hypothetically be closer to each other. I'm not talking about sharing a hypothetical apartment together; I'm saying we should probably hypothetically be within a one hour drive away from each other and hypothetically meet at least once a week.
Very long distance relationships aren't always practical, especially if you've never met in person, because the person with whom you are in a relationship will probably only show you their good side and try to make the best impression, which is not always accurate. You're not getting to know the real person, their quirks, their mannerisms, their habits, etc. You are not there in person to smell each other's pheromones. I do not feel that God is calling me to the Philippines, and I don't know whether you feel called here to the 'States, so this hypothetical "relationship" would probably not work out very well. I'm just speaking in terms of practicality; what works and what doesn't. I'm sorry to use myself as an example, but I can only speak for myself.
I've been on dates and have always been the one to ask the woman out (its rare that a woman asks a guy out). If I am attracted to someone I will try to find clues first to see if they like me at all. I'm not looking to see if they're attracted to me, I just want to know that they won't laugh and point at me hysterically if I ask them out. (thats not a joke). If I get the sense that maybe they might say yes, then I will ask them if they want to join me for lunch or something casual like to check out a local comedy club or local band that is playing. This way it doesn't seem like "a date". I think that makes it easier for the girl to say yes because the idea of meeting someone for dinner (intimate one-on-one contact) and a movie (alone with someone in a dark theater) can be intimidating for some.
I'm really surprised by some of the replies here. There is nothing wrong with dating. The bible doesn't forbid it. It only forbids is having sex before marriage. How will you ever find a partner if you don't get out there and start dating? I've never heard of anyone saying " I just prayed and prayed and one day this person showed up and said that God sent him/her to me and asked me to get married." That just doesn't happen.
I'm really surprised by some of the replies here. There is nothing wrong with dating. The bible doesn't forbid it. It only forbids is having sex before marriage. How will you ever find a partner if you don't get out there and start dating? I've never heard of anyone saying " I just prayed and prayed and one day this person showed up and said that God sent him/her to me and asked me to get married." That just doesn't happen.
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Hi step, wow you really have a very high standard in dating!
I’m not stepping in to what you believe in but I must say you missed the fun in dating. I have the kind of thinking also not to waste my time to someone I’m not interested with and I’m not the type of person who will give hope to someone I don’t like. I used to say before I’m busy, or this and that if someone asks me to go out, until one day it came to my mind, why not try going out with guys. Well, for me I don’t go out alone with a guy if I don’t know him from the beginning, I don’t like serious date right away, it should start from a friendly date, just have fun and if I’m already comfortable with him that’s the time I go with him alone. It’s a plus though if someone will asks permission first for them to take you out to someone who is close to you, I started dating when I’m not living with my parents anymore so for me it’s not really necessary. Dating doesn’t mean you’re going to have relationship with him, it’s just giving each other a chance to know each other well, and if you are not interested with him at least I would say it’s a way of thanking him for noticing you out of million girls out there.
Hi step, wow you really have a very high standard in dating! I’m not stepping in to what you believe in but I must say you missed the fun in dating. I have the kind of thinking also not to waste my time to someone I’m not interested with and I’m not the type of person who will give hope to someone I don’t like. I used to say before I’m busy, or this and that if someone asks me to go out, until one day it came to my mind, why not try going out with guys. Well, for me I don’t go out alone with a guy if I don’t know him from the beginning, I don’t like serious date right away, it should start from a friendly date, just have fun and if I’m already comfortable with him that’s the time I go with him alone. It’s a plus though if someone will asks permission first for them to take you out to someone who is close to you, I started dating when I’m not living with my parents anymore so for me it’s not really necessary. Dating doesn’t mean you’re going to have relationship with him, it’s just giving each other a chance to know each other well, and if you are not interested with him at least I would say it’s a way of thanking him for noticing you out of million girls out there.
I’m not stepping in to what you believe in but I must say you missed the fun in dating. I have the kind of thinking also not to waste my time to someone I’m not interested with and I’m not the type of person who will give hope to someone I don’t like. I used to say before I’m busy, or this and that if someone asks me to go out, until one day it came to my mind, why not try going out with guys. Well, for me I don’t go out alone with a guy if I don’t know him from the beginning, I don’t like serious date right away, it should start from a friendly date, just have fun and if I’m already comfortable with him that’s the time I go with him alone. It’s a plus though if someone will asks permission first for them to take you out to someone who is close to you, I started dating when I’m not living with my parents anymore so for me it’s not really necessary. Dating doesn’t mean you’re going to have relationship with him, it’s just giving each other a chance to know each other well, and if you are not interested with him at least I would say it’s a way of thanking him for noticing you out of million girls out there.