dockhackzero... no offense man... but you create a new thread about this every single day... where's the patience? You say you pray but you create a new thread every day! What... do you want a girl to magically appear and slap you in the face and say "im your girlfriend"? I mean... cmon man. Give it time. You have to work on yourself before you can expect things in return. I know it may be hard, but with the defeatist attitude you mine as well quit now. You won't get anywhere acting like that. Either you keep trying and keeping pushing and keep praying and eventually see results, or you keep defeating yourself before you even begin by making these threads every single day. How many threads with the same title do you need before you realize you aren't helping yourself?
Look at it this way... Prayer works on faith. Faith is not only a belief, but it is an action as well. You are removing the ability for both to work by creating these "doubt" threads in the first place. You obviously doubt your own prayer, so why do you expect it to work? Prayer only works with faith. You aren't showing faith when you keep saying "i don't think I'll ever get a girlfriend, I'll never get a wife, I'll never have anything I pray for." Look at it this way... for years you've prayed... yet for years you've doubted it too. You just wasted years of prayer with your unbelief. See how that works?
Also, you were getting on the right foot by attempting to fix your problems talking to women, but you also did it the completely wrong way. Why would you go to a random girl to try to get comfortable talking to her? You have to jump into the shark tank with things like talking to women. You have to allow yourself to sink before you can learn to swim. You have to make mistakes and get rejected before you can learn how to do it. You aren't showing faith by allowing that in the first place. You aren't trusting God to help you talk to women, because you AREN'T DOING IT! You can't expect to get a girlfriend without trying. You can't expect a random girl to help save you from your own mind. Your fears are COMPLETELY based on your own mind. You have to learn to drop that fear inside of yourself. YOU yourself are limiting YOU yourself. Do you see what I'm saying here? You are the only one that is holding yourself back. Nobody else is doing anything to you to stop you from talking to women and getting a girlfriend. The only one that is doing that is you.
What do you need to do? Pray and believe. Pray and act. Trust in God. Trust God to help you find the words when you speak with women. Trust that God will guide you. Trust that God will pick you up when you fail and help you learn and grow stronger. Trust that God will eventually have you meet the right girl. TRUST GOD. Without that, and you are always always always going to fail.
Until you do that, then these threads are useless. Creating a new one everyday won't find you new insight. The same people are in these forums as before.
I'm starting to think you do these threads for attention rather than truly asking for help. You make a new one so much that I wonder what the point is anymore? You aren't taking the advice or you wouldn't be making new ones asking the same questions over and over constantly. You have one thread that has over 100 pages worth of replies. A HUNDRED PAGES! READ THEM MAN! Cmon... why do you create new threads now asking the same questions? Did you read the old ones? Did you take the advice? Did you even attempt it? I'm sorry if I'm sounding rude or abrasive, but I'm being trying to honestly relate to you here and I find that I can't. If you won't accept the advice of 100 pages of people, then why would you create new threads asking those same people the same things? You are being redundant and not helping yourself.
Overall, you need to help yourself here. Nobody can fix your problems but you. Your fear of talking to women is just that... fear... and fear is a symptom of the mind. Fear can only be overcame by facing it. To face your fears, you have to do exactly what you are afraid of. You have to go out and talk to women. Go talk to a friend that is a girl if you have one. Go talk to a friend's girlfriend. Try to get a friend to set you up on a double date if they can. All women have friends, and all women have at least one single friend. Do it as a friendly double date, even if its awkward. Through the awkwardness, you will find a way to make it enjoyable and tolerable. You will learn how to lighten up the mood, and in learning that, you already have gained a valuable skill. You learned how to make a girl comfortable. Women are just as nervous as you. They aren't these amazing creatures that are so different from us men that they really are from Venus and we are from Mars. Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Own it and accept it.
Now... the ball is in your court and it will only go through the hoop if you try to shoot it. Nobody else can shoot it for you. Take the shot and miss... and keep shooting til you sink the basket. Keep trying... and HAVE FAITH IN GOD. TRUST GOD and show your faith in God's ability to help you buy ACTING on it.
That is the only solution for your problem. Take it or leave it, but you really need to listen to the advice at this point. You can't keep using a crutch to get by with this one. It is time to face your fears my man. Its time to go out there and do what you keep praying for. Just do it! Its that simple. I don't care if you fail. I don't care if you get rejected. ALL of us men get rejected. ALL of us men fail. I could ask 10 girls out today and all 10 might reject me. OR, I could ask 10 girls out and ONE might accept it... and guess what? I just won. Look at it as those other 9 just lost out on a really good thing, and that one girl was smart. She is worth your time. So... GET OUT THERE AND DO IT!
Also, for anxiety... the only way to get past it is to just get past it. Everyone has a little bit of anxiety in their lives. Everyone... obviously in your case the symptoms are a bit worse... but you have to realize... everyone gets it at one point or another in their lives. Everyone faces it. I understand you have a bigger problem than most with it, but don't let that hold you back from living your life! For 7 years now you've not been able to get a girlfriend or even be friends with a female... and all because of your social anxiety. You've had problems with friends all because of that, correct? NOW is the time to fix this my friend. NOW is the time to change your life for the better. Do you really want to keep on living the quality of life you've had? Do you? I don't think you do, or you wouldn't be making these threads about it. You have NOTHING to lose at this point. You really don't man. You've tried your way for 7 years and it hasn't worked. Now is the time to try it my way. My way is to go out there and fail and fail and fail as many times as it takes until you succeed. When you fall, pick yourself back up and do it again. You grow stronger and stronger every time you fall. Trust me on this. You get more and more confident every time you talk to a girl. The outcome doesn't matter, good or bad. You WILL have good outcomes, and those will completely lift your spirits from all the girls that possibly deny you. With 7 years of prayer, you have plenty of God's power on your side buddy. The force is strong with this one
hahaha Trust me man... 7 years of prayer is a lot. God is with you. I have faith in that. Trust in God and go out there buddy and change your life man. Let the joy of Christ fill your life by changing it right now. Whenever you read this... take the advice to heart and go out with some friends... and if you see a cute girl that is by herself... approach her. Tell her hello, you noticed her and just wanted to say hi. Strike up a conversation from anywhere between her eyes are pretty to her dress/shirt looks nice and you wanted to tell her that... to how you are a nervous guy and you really just want to approach a girl and work on fixing your shyness. To be honest, the honesty part (the last option) will work the best. Most women will find this cute at the very least, and she will be glad to talk to you after realizing how shy and nice of a guy you are. Women really do like nice shy guys, but the nice shy guys don't know it because they are too nice to approach her!
Anyway, I hope this helps. It is long, but I feel it needed to be said after reading all of your posts. Bro, don't take it personally... just take the good bit of advice and do your best to take action. Trust God first and foremost. God will NEVER fail you. God will NEVER let you down. God will always pick you up and dust you off if you happen to fall. Trust in Him and your life will be so much better and fulfilling.
Best wishes buddy,
Dabears85
And if you ever need anything... advice... questions... even encouragement... just send me a message man. Let me know how things go for you too. I'd love to hear if you ever get any awesome success stories! I'll be praying for you and I know that God will come through for you. He always does.
