There is a girl I like that I went on a couple dates with. We both had a great time and from what I can tell we are both interested and attracted to each other. We both go to the same church and we both serve in the same ministry. We were set up as a blind date for valentines. I am in my mid 20s and she is in her 2nd year of college.
After our 2nd date she told me she was not ready for a relationship. She did say she sees a possible future for us. I also told her my lack of experience and I said if there wasn't anyone else I would be willing to wait and see what happens as we try and build a friendship. She thought that was really cute and thought I had at least been with some girls in the past. (A lot of people thought that about me and are always shocked when I tell them for some reason).
However, even though we want to try and be friends, we just do not talk to each other at the moment. We both got super overwhelmed because I never dated anyone and she only had a high school thing from a high school guy at are church that was just learning how to drive that never went anywhere.
We clicked so well together that it almost seemed too good to be true!
At first we avoided each other as much as possible. Then we started to stare at each other when we are groups with friends or from afar. Sometimes when I am with my friends at a church event I would get this sixth sense that someone is watching me, and when I look over, its always her.
Recently her friends and I are starting to get to know each other. For example, one of her best friends asked me to join them when the girl was right there to see a movie my ministry went to as a group. Before I went on the couple dates with a girl, they never talked to me before. I just found out too that she is actually a really shy person.
I just don't know where to go from here. Every time I try and move on, my thoughts always circle back to her. I had to sit down and pray about it quite a few times and wrote down qualities I would like for a future Godly spouse, and qualities in a person I could see myself being paired up with - and the answer keeps going back to her. After the 2nd date I got really infatuated but after calming down, I am now back in control.
As anyone have any similar experience to this? I haven't seen any signs that she'd like to be approached yet but I also see her stare at me sometimes. I just don't know what to do. I don't know if trying to date this girl as a sign from God showing me what my future could look like, but He is holding it back from me for reasons I am still trying to figure out. Is this a trial from God to test my patience? I have been content of being single for a long time now and when I became comfortable with it, that's when all of this stuff started happening.
I would love some advice or similar stories you guys might have that could shed some light on this.
After our 2nd date she told me she was not ready for a relationship. She did say she sees a possible future for us. I also told her my lack of experience and I said if there wasn't anyone else I would be willing to wait and see what happens as we try and build a friendship. She thought that was really cute and thought I had at least been with some girls in the past. (A lot of people thought that about me and are always shocked when I tell them for some reason).
However, even though we want to try and be friends, we just do not talk to each other at the moment. We both got super overwhelmed because I never dated anyone and she only had a high school thing from a high school guy at are church that was just learning how to drive that never went anywhere.
We clicked so well together that it almost seemed too good to be true!
At first we avoided each other as much as possible. Then we started to stare at each other when we are groups with friends or from afar. Sometimes when I am with my friends at a church event I would get this sixth sense that someone is watching me, and when I look over, its always her.
Recently her friends and I are starting to get to know each other. For example, one of her best friends asked me to join them when the girl was right there to see a movie my ministry went to as a group. Before I went on the couple dates with a girl, they never talked to me before. I just found out too that she is actually a really shy person.
I just don't know where to go from here. Every time I try and move on, my thoughts always circle back to her. I had to sit down and pray about it quite a few times and wrote down qualities I would like for a future Godly spouse, and qualities in a person I could see myself being paired up with - and the answer keeps going back to her. After the 2nd date I got really infatuated but after calming down, I am now back in control.
As anyone have any similar experience to this? I haven't seen any signs that she'd like to be approached yet but I also see her stare at me sometimes. I just don't know what to do. I don't know if trying to date this girl as a sign from God showing me what my future could look like, but He is holding it back from me for reasons I am still trying to figure out. Is this a trial from God to test my patience? I have been content of being single for a long time now and when I became comfortable with it, that's when all of this stuff started happening.
I would love some advice or similar stories you guys might have that could shed some light on this.
