A question for the single ladies

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KingdomGeneration

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How would you respond to this hypothetical situation?

Let's say that one day you praying that God would introduce you to that special someone who are to spend the rest of your life with. Then God plainly answered you in an audible voice saying:

"Within the next few weeks you will meet this man. He is somewhat average looking but has a heart of gold. He is destined to be an assistant pastor of a very small church in a very small remote town. He will receive a very meager salary and you will learn to have to learn to lean on me for all of your finances. while you may never see a new house or a new car or a big ministry in your lifetime, you will see my very own hand move before your very eyes."

"You will never have a career or or some sort of ministry where you will receive recognition however I have chosen you for a special task. You will never have children of your own but I have ordained you to be the mother of many. You will face your share of hardships however I will meet your every need and in turn you will raise up young men and women who operate in my authority and my power."

My question is, despite the many hardships, the meager living and the lack of any recognition what so
ever, would you still marry this guy giving the promise that God was going to for and through in many powerful ways?
 
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missy2shoes

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....yep :) .....
 
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goth4god

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I would do it in a heartbeat!
 
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luke15chick

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The real question is are you A) trying to scare us away or B) giving a really specific example with minute detail in order to see if you will get rejected?
 
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KingdomGeneration

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luke15chick said:
The real question is are you A) trying to scare us away or B) giving a really specific example with minute detail in order to see if you will get rejected?
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We have ourselves an analyst! I can't fault you, I'm the same way. *lol*

Honestly, I wanted to see how deep the water actually is out there. Personally, I'm not cut out to be a pastor, at least not at this point and time. I don't have the patience to deal with some the nonsense that they have to put up with on a regular basis.
 
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luke15chick

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Well just as you stated that it takes a certain kind of person to be in the ministry field I also believes it takes a certain kind of woman to be wife to someone in the ministry field. Many woman think they can make it without actually knowing what a church really does to the minister and his wife. Unless a person has really gotten to know some of the ins and outs of their church they won't really know if they could make it as a minister's wife.
 
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goth4god

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well personally if God told me, and that was His plan i would go with it!

and this is off topic, but the title of this thread makes me think of that one song "all the single ladies! all the single ladies! if you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it!" lol
 
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luke15chick

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I was singing that song too when I read it!
 
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missy2shoes

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Missy wishes she knew the song so she could sing it too....hehe
 
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KingdomGeneration

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luke15chick said:
Well just as you stated that it takes a certain kind of person to be in the ministry field I also believes it takes a certain kind of woman to be wife to someone in the ministry field. Many woman think they can make it without actually knowing what a church really does to the minister and his wife. Unless a person has really gotten to know some of the ins and outs of their church they won't really know if they could make it as a minister's wife.
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Good point and I agree.
 
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KingdomGeneration

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The last several weeks have been a transitional period for me. My view of looking at the church has changed somewhat. In my opinion, the church looks a lot like the world these days which goes to show that we we consider to be church and what God considers to be church may not be the same thing.

I know a lot of people who get involved in ministry for all the wrong reasons. A lot of men get involved who possess a lot of pride and ambition and desire to have a huge ministry. Of course these are the wrong reasons to want to be involved and only goes to show that God's idea of success and our idea of success are two completely different concepts in and of themselves.

I have to admit, that when I posted this thread, it was out of curiousity. To basically see what a woman's idea of what a successful husband inside of the church should look like. I would love to hear your opinions.
 
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Baptistrw

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KingdomGeneration said:
How would you respond to this hypothetical situation?

Let's say that one day you praying that God would introduce you to that special someone who are to spend the rest of your life with. Then God plainly answered you in an audible voice saying:

"Within the next few weeks you will meet this man. He is somewhat average looking but has a heart of gold. He is destined to be an assistant pastor of a very small church in a very small remote town. He will receive a very meager salary and you will learn to have to learn to lean on me for all of your finances. while you may never see a new house or a new car or a big ministry in your lifetime, you will see my very own hand move before your very eyes."

"You will never have a career or or some sort of ministry where you will receive recognition however I have chosen you for a special task. You will never have children of your own but I have ordained you to be the mother of many. You will face your share of hardships however I will meet your every need and in turn you will raise up young men and women who operate in my authority and my power."

My question is, despite the many hardships, the meager living and the lack of any recognition what so
ever, would you still marry this guy giving the promise that God was going to for and through in many powerful ways?
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That's funny dude because you just described my life in a nutshell, and girls run fast when they hear God's calling you to true discipleship as guys do when they hear girls have kids. I have a ton of respect for the girls who are willing to follow a man as he follows God. It's not an easy life.
 
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missy2shoes

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KingdomGeneration said:
The last several weeks have been a transitional period for me. My view of looking at the church has changed somewhat. In my opinion, the church looks a lot like the world these days which goes to show that we we consider to be church and what God considers to be church may not be the same thing.

I know a lot of people who get involved in ministry for all the wrong reasons. A lot of men get involved who possess a lot of pride and ambition and desire to have a huge ministry. Of course these are the wrong reasons to want to be involved and only goes to show that God's idea of success and our idea of success are two completely different concepts in and of themselves.

I have to admit, that when I posted this thread, it was out of curiousity. To basically see what a woman's idea of what a successful husband inside of the church should look like. I would love to hear your opinions.
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....the way I see it is simple.....Jesus is the example we each need to follow......His ministry on earth was being about His Father's business not making a name for Himself and having people 'sow seeds' into His ministry.

The apostle Paul ( and in fact all of the other apostles) followed this example.

A successful ministry is NOT one that has your name in lights and a million dollar wage.......a successful ministry is one in which at the end of your life you can say, that you have fought the good fight and been faithful to the end. You can say with all honesty.....I did all God asked of me......whether it was cleaning the loo for an old lady down the street or witnessing to a crowd of thousands.
 
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One of my favorite quotes is......*A womans heart should be so grounded in Christ that a man should have to seek Him to find her.*

If this quote is true..(and I believe it is and should be).....then a woman will heed the will of God over the selfish desires that the world throws at us.

To me, it does not matter what a man lookes like on the outside if his heart is ugly. It is truly about the condition of ones heart.

The financial aspect of things....if God has been saught in the union, and is kept at the center of the union.....then I doublt that couple will lack for anything. :)

It says in Eccl. that a cord of three strands is not easily broken. :) Pretty much sums it up does'nt it..?
 
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Josephb

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Brothers and sisters,

Im not a woman but I hope you dont mind me posting here :p

Thats a very beautiful situation you outlined there KingdomGeneration. Frankly I can't see many true christian women who would so plainly have god's plan for them outlined, and choose to turn it down. As christians we are given clear instructions in the bible. We are not to lay up riches on earth, but to lay up riches in heaven. Our ultimate goal as christians, if I may give my take on it in simple English, is to basically emulate the life of Jesus Christ. We know as christians we will undergo hardships in the name of the lord, the bible tells us that, it does not try and hide it. Knowing the above, the decision to follow the lord and marry such a man if instructed to is hardly something to think about negatively. And to add a bit of perspective, the hardships that KingdomGeneration described are as nothing compared to what biblical figures such as Jesus himself, the apostles, and countless Christians throughout history have experienced in the name of the lord.

And look at the positives that are even apparent to the eye. Is not a godly wife/husband what we need more than anything else in a partner? The bible states "Wives, submit to your own hubands, as to the lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church." It is the husband's duty to lead his wife. Knowing that, the word also says that one cannot serve two masters. The implication of this is simple. The leadership given by the lord and the husband must allign if the wife fulfills her duty of submitting to and respecting both her husband and the lord. This can only occur if the husband is a godly man, and a humble pastor with a "heart of gold" as KingdomGeneration said, sounds quite the ideal if you ask me.

My apologies if I went off on a tangent :D

God bless.
 
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I know I'm a guy and all, but if God spoke to me like that I think I'd want a little more than a voice before I believed that it wasn't the other guy speaking to me. Of course I guess it could be said that he would be promising riches instead of nothing, but there it is.

If this makes me a person without faith than so be it.
 
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Abing

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haha mind if i join?

if i was in that situation, i would so totally be shocked, lol. i may think twice and pray about it over and over again. first, i would thank Him for giving me a special task!, and its a very difficult situation, so i would demand for an increase of faith and strength. ! i would beg Him everyday to prepare for that kind of battle haha
 
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Chameleon

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Straight-up, you seem to be emphasising a lack of material wealth. I have had material wealth, and I promise you it is meaningless (except for how much you can give away). Our life here is very short, and all that matters is your relationship with our Lord and spreading the gospel message, loving your neighbour and what you can with what God has given you for a short time to help other people.
I bet if most of you died today one of your regrets would have been not giving more away to bless other people while you had the chance.
 
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worldlover

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do what he says because he is GOD!^^
 
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