How do you manage anger?

[Liz01]

In the last year i have had to deal with very difficult ppl at work that seem to have the hobby of make all the things i do more complicated than they are, so when i get angry then i go to pray to God to calm down myself, but it has been very hard so i was wondering what do you do to manage anger? what do you do when someone make you a bad thing or say some ugly words to you?

 

[princessbella]

Sometimes you just have to walk away and pray because you end up sayng things what you didnt want to

 

[zeroturbulence]

I remind myself that Jesus sees and hears everything so he knows exactly what that person did to you and knows how much it hurt you too. That way I don't feel alone in my suffering. If it still hurts bad and I find myself brimming with emotions I ask Jesus to please help me and banish the darkness that is enveloping my heart. I imagine a big dark storm cloud surrounding my heart and then ask I ask for Jesus's help. I imagine it dissipating with rays of bright light breaking through it making it disappear, revealing a bright, glad heart. I repeat this process several times if I have to. Imagery is a very powerful tool and with Jesus's help it can be amazing. Now, if the pain still won't go away or the attacks just keep coming, I picture Jesus suffering on the cross with the crown of thorns. I think about how much intense pain and suffering he endured to show how much he loved me. I remember how his bare back was torn to shreds by a whip as he stood tied to a post and how he endured this to save my soul. This gets me through the toughest trials because my pain is nothing compared to what Jesus had to endure and I offer my pain up to him as a gesture of willingness and see it as an opportunity to share in his pain because mankind still crucifies him everyday.

 

[shemaiah]

I simply say "Lord forgive them, for they know not what they do" and anger always leaves. Life is to precious to be spent in anger, Gods anger only lasts for a moment, live your life in forgiveness, love, joy and peace!

 

[Boanerges]

I'm looking fo another way to manage it. Cuz I am just quiet, and it got me sick.

 

[GreenNnice]

ARRRRRRRRRRGHHHHHHhhhhh !

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

If someone is yelling at me, or sayin stuff i dont like i usually just stare at them with a really bored look my face, all the while im saying really HORRIBLE things about them in my head

 

[Liz01]

thanks for your answers, they are very helpful to me

 

[GreenNnice]

thanks for your answers, they are very helpful to me

--mine, too, helpful,Liz, huh, huh? Can ya say yeah, can ya, can ya ? Can ya!! Oh, sorry, but , can ya ?

 

[Liz01]

--mine, too, helpful,Liz, huh, huh? Can ya say yeah, can ya, can ya ?

hahahaha ooooh yeeaaa lol

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I think liz was trying to say that mine was obviously the most helpful

 

[GreenNnice]

You know, Charlie Brown, maybe comic strip , with author Charles Schultz?

Anyway, Charlie Brown, the blockhead, says 'AAAARRRGGHH' whenever he goes running 20 feet forward to kick the football Lucy is holding and she pulls the football away right before he can kick it.

Little history lesson for you.

---On a serious note, Proverbs helps me when I struggle and want anger to floooooooow . On a purely practical methodology: Anger can be stemmed, first, by taking a deep breath. Trouble is, it's easy to forget to breathe when you're angry. And, then , all the while you're inhaling, GIVE the moment to God, because it too shall pass. And , with God consulted anger always passes well.

 

[GreenNnice]

I think liz was trying to say that mine was obviously the most helpful

Helpful to who? Her shrink?

 

[Psalm2713]

It all comes in the package of the Love of Christ in our hearts. I used to have a problem with anger before too but it disappeared as I started learning how to LOve. I spend sometime daily reading 1Corinthians 13 and meditating on it... and eventually memorize it all. especially the "keeps no record of wrongs part'...
Blessings

 

[thimsrebma]

I have had some stresses at work lately too. I turn on my youtube "worship music" channel I created. I listen throughout the day and that really calms my nerves. I also will pray in between classes.

 

[Liamson]

I was taught as a child that anger is a secondary emotion. Like we choose to be angry when we feel justified enough to flip the switch.

That is not to say that I do not get angry but, when I do, its on my terms, by my choice and it is my responsibility.

 

[Jullianna]

It takes quite a bit to make me angry (It's usually something that builds over time with repeated offenses or violated trusts. Watching someone being bullied will do it too.), but when it happens, I pretty much shut down, become EXTREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEMELY quiet, go into autopilot mode, do what I have to do and remove myself from the situation. Going for a drive with music blaring or sitting down at my piano for awhile is my normal outlet, though I will admit to slamming a door or two from time to time.

My pastor spoke a couple of weeks ago on this topic. He said that if Jesus said we should pluck out an eye or cut off an appendage that was causing us to sin, surely it's okay for us to remove ourselves from situations and people who do the same. Makes sense to me. I do believe, however, we should continue to pray for people who hurt or upset us because there's healing for everyone concerned in that. Besides, if we hold onto anger, we're only giving the person or thing that upset us control over us.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Anger makes me angry

 

[Epi]

When I get angry I keep quiet,i mean I don't answer back but will always speak to my heart from the word of God this has always helped me to get over it quickly.When I don't do it usually anger lingers around my heart longer.

 

[TDWP22]

u can hit a wall like i used to do (or hit yourself, which i also did and do sometimes) but most of the time i just play and instrument or listen to metal