What is a Date? (for you)

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tjogs

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Jun 28, 2009
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Alright here goes my first thread. I have kept reading about your opinions and statements about relationships dating and all such and I got couple of questions I like to hear how you see these.
I don't speak english as my mother language so that's also one reason I like to hear your thoughts. (and to increase my own knowledge) In my language you can (say) go to a date without dating anyone, and dating is possible without going to a dates.

First and the one that covers all is. What does Date (not dating) means for you? how do you understand it? Is it important or totally un neccesary, or happens naturally and unavoidable with everyone who are dating?

In my point of view. I have dated 3 times but haven't gone a single date. or if I had (looked from lil bit diffrent angle) the date have lasted one weekend at least with girl. (with her family too present there)
 
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Baptistrw

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My definition of a date is when you go out with someone of the opposite gender to do something you don't normally do with that person.
 
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more

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for me a date is a way of knowing the girl more
 
Kakashi

Kakashi

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A girl i like making me a sammich!
 
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missy2shoes

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is a sammich a cross between a sandwich and a mammich? :p
 
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Wug

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"I was wandering through the streets of the city, rambling throught the avenues of time, when from nowhere my eyes fell onto a girl, and by chance her eyes fell onto mine. . ."

--Brett MacKinzee

To me, a date is when a chick and a dude get together and do something cool that they wouldn't normally do. I think a great date is to go to a busy airport, and watch families meeting eachother and giving hugs. It would be romantic and good to see all the love. Also, as a young American ladykiller, you should totally serenade on the first date. You should play a harmonica. Ladies dig harmonicas.
 
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Mordred

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LOL, YES!

Wug you got it completely together, Thank you.
 
Moviefan2k4

Moviefan2k4

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To me, the purpose of dating in general is two-fold: first, if done properly its a way to let go of everyday stresses and relax, while enjoying the company of the opposite sex. Second, it's a part of the search for a lifelng husband or wife. In my personal opinion, if you don't ever plan on getting married, then dating seems like a rather pointless exercise. People can go out and have fun with the opposite sex, but to be a "date" there's usually a romantic or intimate connotation about the whole thing.
 
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buckeyegirl700

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Wug said:
"I was wandering through the streets of the city, rambling throught the avenues of time, when from nowhere my eyes fell onto a girl, and by chance her eyes fell onto mine. . ."

--Brett MacKinzee

To me, a date is when a chick and a dude get together and do something cool that they wouldn't normally do. I think a great date is to go to a busy airport, and watch families meeting eachother and giving hugs. It would be romantic and good to see all the love. Also, as a young American ladykiller, you should totally serenade on the first date. You should play a harmonica. Ladies dig harmonicas.
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Wow, I dont think I have ever heard of a date like that. Thumbs up for being creative.
 
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Zerubbabel

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Dec 28, 2009
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A date... yes I eat them reguarly... best with nuts... oh and a bit of coconut. New fetish...
Yea....
 
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Jullianna

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Where have all of the harmonica players gone? :(
 
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djness

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Jullianna said:
Where have all of the harmonica players gone? :(
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I have a harmonica ......but I prefer to play the vocal chords.
And I've been to airports, that could possibly be the last date you ever go on Wug.
 
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Jullianna

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Would love to hear ya sometime...when I'm taking a break from my secret project. :D
 
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Rissa77

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My views on dating is somewhat radical... I'll try my best to explain them...

You can be "dating" without having declared that you're "dating". This means spending exclusive time with this person, which could be a subtle "I tend to gravitate towards a certain person when hanging out in a group and talk with him/her the most" to "I've been spending more time with this person than anyone else." At this point, you may know the two of you aren't dating. Maybe no romantic interests have been expressed. BUT other people may ask questions or simply assume you're together. There's nothing wrong with this if you two have it straight in your own heads, but keep in mind what pressure you may feel from others based on what they say and think. It could lead one of you to expect a relationship to emerge when it may not, which could lead to hurt feelings as if you broke up, when in reality, there was nothing there. (Speaking from experience)

You could be considered "dating" if you go on a date with someone. In the teenage years, this happens a lot. Two people go on a date and automatically they are considered a couple. This isn't so much applied in older age groups. They consider dates to be just that.. dates... until romantic interest is expressed more and they agree to be labeled as a couple.

A "date" is when two people spend exclusive time together. This could be casual or romantic, alone or with other people, in a private setting or public... it's when two people get to know each other more. It normally involves some planning, but it doesn't have to.


So to me, dating is either unintentional or intentional. The unintentional dating is what can cause confusion and hurt feelings. Intentional dating shouldn't be confusing, and thought it can be hurtful, that's for different reasons.
 
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1still_waters

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I don't date. I do mundane, everyday stuff with a person, so I can actually get to know them. Eating and talking or sipping drinks is good. I'm for saving dating for marriage, because an escape from reality might be a nice treat once married.
 
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Jullianna

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Seems like some folks see dating as such a formal thing. To me it can be pretty much anything: window shopping at the mall, riding bikes in the rain (always wanted to ride a tandum), swimming, watching a movie, sitting on the back porch eating watermelon...
 
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christiancollegegirl

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*cuts a watermelon and waits for her date to join her* Any takers?
 
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