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Please post here if you are the second daughter in your family
Just want to have some company and chat about what its like to be a second daughter. I think there are some unique things about us, and our position in the family....

You may or may not have younger siblings or brothers, but its being second that is salient...knowing we'll never be first
 
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Famous second daughters...

Jo March (Louisa May Alcott's alter ego...in Little Women - Louisa was number two herself)
Laura Ingalls Wilder
Rachel (in the Bible, younger sister to Leah)
Elizabeth Bennet in Pride and Prejudice
Princess Margaret
 
JesusLives

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I am a second daughter also the baby of the family. However, my brother was 16 years older than me and out of the house by the time I was aware and my sister had a different mother and 12 years older so I didn't grow up with her either. I am a third child raised as a single until I was 8 when my Mom died and I went to live with my teacher who had two girls and I was in the middle age wise there...
 
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I hate that for ya'll. I'm number one so I have no idea what you guys have to go through...:p.just kidding

I don't think it matters all that much. I'm the first daughter and have always been closer to my dad. My brother and sister are closer to my mom. So I really don't pick and choose over the number you were born into the family.

The bad thing about being the oldest is that your parents seem to put more responsibility and accountability on you. So I always wished I was number 2 instead of the oldest.

I'm only a year and 3 months older than my brother and he will tell you to this day I've always been like a second mother to him.

My mom recently even apologized to me for putting so much responsibility on me as a child. She said she was sorry because I never really even got to have a childhood, but then kinda backtracked and said it was probably for the best cause I was the only one that ever really grew up...lol

So yeah, number 1 is not all it's cracked up to be.
 
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JesusLives said:
I am a second daughter also the baby of the family. However, my brother was 16 years older than me and out of the house by the time I was aware and my sister had a different mother and 12 years older so I didn't grow up with her either. I am a third child raised as a single until I was 8 when my Mom died and I went to live with my teacher who had two girls and I was in the middle age wise there...
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interesting you went to live with your teacher...your school teacher? What about your dad?
 
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KarynLouise said:
I'm second, but I don't have a sister. My brother's definitely the golden child, though!
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firstborn always seems to get the best...dont know if they are aware or appreciate the privelige, or resent the responsibility. Ive heard firstborns sometimes think they are the 'guinea pigs' of the family..everything gets tested out on them first. The seconds get overlooked.
 
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1ofthem said:
I hate that for ya'll. I'm number one so I have no idea what you guys have to go through...:p.just kidding

I don't think it matters all that much. I'm the first daughter and have always been closer to my dad. My brother and sister are closer to my mom. So I really don't pick and choose over the number you were born into the family.

The bad thing about being the oldest is that your parents seem to put more responsibility and accountability on you. So I always wished I was number 2 instead of the oldest.

I'm only a year and 3 months older than my brother and he will tell you to this day I've always been like a second mother to him.

My mom recently even apologized to me for putting so much responsibility on me as a child. She said she was sorry because I never really even got to have a childhood, but then kinda backtracked and said it was probably for the best cause I was the only one that ever really grew up...lol

So yeah, number 1 is not all it's cracked up to be.
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I agree.
Whenever my siblings and I got in trouble, I was the one lectured on how I was the eldest so I had to be the responsible one. Blah, blah, blah.

I try not to do that to my eldest, though she IS responsible. As is our second born (boy).
 
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Lanolin said:
firstborn always seems to get the best...dont know if they are aware or appreciate the privelige, or resent the responsibility. Ive heard firstborns sometimes think they are the 'guinea pigs' of the family..everything gets tested out on them first. The seconds get overlooked.
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In my experience, the baby in the family usually gets the best. By then the parents are generally more financially stable and they've mellowed in their parenting style.

It's the middle kids that often get lost in the shuffle.
 
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Genipher said:
In my experience, the baby in the family usually gets the best. By then the parents are generally more financially stable and they've mellowed in their parenting style.

It's the middle kids that often get lost in the shuffle.
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oh true the youngest is spoiled but the first born will get the lionshare of attention from the parents.

middles are mostly ignored. Or meat in the sandwich
 
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Lee Radziwell (Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis sister)

Serena Williams (sister to Venus, though actually, there was another 3 older half-sisters who didnt play tennis but one was tragically killed)
 
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Lanolin said:
interesting you went to live with your teacher...your school teacher? What about your dad?
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My Dad had gotten remarried and my Step Mom ended up being jealous of me because he would put me before her at times and she didn't like it. I was 8 and my Dad did it because he felt bad my Mom had died... Anyway he was going through a divorce so it was easier for me to go and live with my school teacher who knew the situation and loved me a bunch. So I would stay with Dad in the summers when school was out and he would visit on holidays. The teacher had moved from Indiana to Tennessee so Dad still lived in Indiana and I went to Tennessee.
 
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JesusLives said:
My Dad had gotten remarried and my Step Mom ended up being jealous of me because he would put me before her at times and she didn't like it. I was 8 and my Dad did it because he felt bad my Mom had died... Anyway he was going through a divorce so it was easier for me to go and live with my school teacher who knew the situation and loved me a bunch. So I would stay with Dad in the summers when school was out and he would visit on holidays. The teacher had moved from Indiana to Tennessee so Dad still lived in Indiana and I went to Tennessee.
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aw
after that divorce did he marry again or did he stay single and did you go back to your dad?
 
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Lanolin said:
oh true the youngest is spoiled but the first born will get the lionshare of attention from the parents.

middles are mostly ignored. Or meat in the sandwich
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Meat in the sandwich. 😆😆😆
 
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Lanolin said:
aw
after that divorce did he marry again or did he stay single and did you go back to your dad?
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Not the best childhood... I found my Mom dead at 8 years old... Dad remarried and got divorced he passed away from lung cancer when I was 12.

My parents loved me just didn't live to raise me. So I lived in a lot of different homes until I was 17 when I got married for the first time then divorced at 24.

Stayed single for 35 years met Tourist on CC in 2014 March and we married November 27, 2014.
 
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second sons might also commiserate, just reading Jodi Picoults 19 minutes, a novel based on school shootings in US. The killer/shooter turns out, just like the columbine massacre, to be a second son and the case is made that he was bullied by his older brother.

This is similar fashion to Diary of a Wimpy kid books in which Greg Heffley is the second son and middle brother. He is relentlessy teased and bullied by his older brother. (though Greg doesnt have dark violent tendencies, he assuredly does not get along with his older brother)

Then of course there is Esau and Jacob, which anyone whos read the Bible knows about, especially the importance of firstborn birthright.
and Cain and Abel though in that case younger Abel was the golden child and Cain was the bad one. Abel paid the price for being good

In the sweet Valley high series, Jessica is the younger, more flaky twin to Elizabeth who is the 'perfect' more responsible older twin
 
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Lanolin said:
Rachel (in the Bible, younger sister to Leah)
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And then we have Rachel weeping for her children with reference to Herod's slaughter of the innocents. The name Rachel in Hebrew is raw-khale' and means "ewe".
 
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JesusLives said:
Not the best childhood... I found my Mom dead at 8 years old... Dad remarried and got divorced he passed away from lung cancer when I was 12.

My parents loved me just didn't live to raise me. So I lived in a lot of different homes until I was 17 when I got married for the first time then divorced at 24.

Stayed single for 35 years met Tourist on CC in 2014 March and we married November 27, 2014.
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you parents must have had you much later in their lives
did you stay in touch with your siblings or your foster siblings..?
 
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Lanolin said:
you parents must have had you much later in their lives
did you stay in touch with your siblings or your foster siblings..?
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Ginny was the older girl the teacher had adopted I have known her since I was 6 years old and now I am 67. Ginny currently lives in North Carolina and I am in Tennessee. Cindy, Ginny's younger sister passed away several years ago. My brother passed away when he was 39 long time ago. My sister Linda lives in Treasure Island Florida.
 
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