Girls, don't you think you're being a little too hard on your stalker if...

[GreenNnice]

Choose good answers, ladies, TRUST me (and God) , guys everywhere await your answers. Let us say this though, many a-girls miss out on good guys because they THINK his actions are stalking

And, IF you want to answer a second question, girls, how about: When did you realize your stalker was really just a guy maturely, and, daré I say , Godly-bold AFTER you? What clued you in?

Remember, dolls, we guys' ears everywhere are listening to your every words.

 

[Jullianna]

When a guy hacks your email account, he's a stalker. If he calls you on a phone you didn't give him the number for, he's a stalker. If he makes friends with your friends and you don't know about it, he's a stalker. When a guy continuously interrupts conversations with others and becomes angry that you won't drop everything and talk with him, you've reached the dangerzone.

I don't really consider a guy who emails or calls a lot to be a stalker, but if it gets to be too much, you can just not answer all of them or ask him to back off. If he does back off, he might be normal, simply aggressive.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

When i think of stalking, i think of someone sitting outside your house watching you, but for real if some guy wants to waste his time sittin outside my house tryin to watch the boring stuff i do all day..... go for it.

This is the stuff i cant tolerate though

Calling over and over again, emailing over and over again even when i havent responded to the first email or call that was sent.
Asking my friends questions about me.
Getting mad cause i wont spend every waking second with him
Asking me where i am all the time

 

[syborg]

It's not stalking. . . . .it's surveillance. . . .at least that is what i told the judge and I stand by it

 

[David_1]

Is this going to turn into a RAPE apologist thread?

Stalking is seriously bad. Stalkers need to be locked up.

 

[evelina]

When a guy hacks your email account, he's a stalker. If he calls you on a phone you didn't give him the number for, he's a stalker. If he makes friends with your friends and you don't know about it, he's a stalker. When a guy continuously interrupts conversations with others and becomes angry that you won't drop everything and talk with him, you've reached the dangerzone.

I don't really consider a guy who emails or calls a lot to be a stalker, but if it gets to be too much, you can just not answer all of them or ask him to back off. If he does back off, he might be normal, simply aggressive.

Totally agree with that!!!
and btw. girls can be like that too

 

[christiancollegegirl]

So randomly showing up everywhere they go and wearing disguises would be considered stalking right?

 

[GreenNnice]

What about 'honest pursuit?'

Have you ever realized too late it was honest (of course, God-led) pursuit.

I agree, julieannie, Nods, your getting irritated from those emails, calls, possession-orientedness...


But I will say it again, just because a guy has no couth or , maybe 'game,' is the right word, then that does not necessarily mean he's a no-go does it. Just saying.

Some guys have no clue how to get across their attraction to a girl, but IF you can look past their apparent (note: I didn't say 'actual') stalkerisms, and, just give them ONE chance outside of their inability to e-mail unharrassingly sounding, they just might surprise you. Remember, too, God is in your life, right, so, this look-a-fool may--9outside of one dynamic of communication (i.e. e-mailing)--be, in your eyes, quite cool. The Lord leads.

 

[GreenNnice]

Guys, these poll results are something that can help you understand girls better, not to mention, help you understand...you better The Lord leads. Please vote too, the bigger the sample, the better the help. I am not a girl so I can't vote.

Poll is for GIRLS ONLY TO VOTE.

Thank you, miladies, for helping us guys understand this stuff better.

 

[allforfun]

Not having enough social grace and stumbling over themselves in communication can be overlooked.

Making us feel unsafe in our own skin? Never acceptable. Two totally different things. To argue differently is a waste of breathe.

 

[Liz01]

For me a stalker is someone that dont stop when you say it, so if someone send me mails is ok but if i tell him stop doing that and he continues he is definitely a stalker

 

[David_1]

Dirty harry said it best:

Harry Callahan: Well, when an adult male is chasing a female with intent to commit rape, I shoot the bastard. That's my policy.
The Mayor: Intent? How did you establish that?
Harry Callahan: When a naked man is chasing a woman through an alley with a butcher's knife and a hard-on, I figure he isn't out collecting for the Red Cross!
[walks out of the room]
The Mayor: He's got a point.

 

[christiancollegegirl]

Jajaja!! That's a good one!!

 

[GreenNnice]

David, we all make mistakes. Look no further than King David in the bible. He saw Bathsheba while he was on a different roof. Then though committed sin by having sex with a married woman.

Airway, we all make mistakes, what you said above-mentioned, although I, too, like the action hero , Harry Callahan , in The Gauntlet, Dirty Batry, etc. But saying the TWO comment you said here --- and, may God bless and be with you as we all say things from time to time we wish we could take back--do not need to have been said. A 'stalker' is a very serios term for a girl, the thread intent is for more of an understanding of what a guy can do to remove himself from 'stalker' status and, maybe, he can still let the Lord lead in his honest pursuit of her and win her back.

From the 1980's hit comedy sitcom, The Cosby show---

Irkle: I really like you, Vanessa. Why won't you go out with me. I give you flowers, cards, and, you know, my little cute wink like this, I don't see why not.

Vanessa: Irkle, I would only go out with you IF you were the last man on Earth !

Irkle pauses. Then replies to the girl of his dreams: 'So you're saying there's a chance.'

 

[allforfun]

If a guy has placed himself in "stalker" status in a woman's eyes? I know for me personally? There is no turning back. No there isn't. No. None.

I am a very forgiving person. But I will feel safe in my own skin, mind and soul. Even if the guy is well meaning.

This is a place the blame on the victim when in reality, the "man" should have been more aware of what he was doing in first place and when the line in the sand started to get fuzzy, he should have checked himself. But blaming the victim for his actions will never ever fly with me.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

If his occupation on Facebook says Stalker, then you have a problem, but until then i wouldn't worry about it. Nothing is solid unless its on facebook.

 

[VikkiKate89]

I make it a habit to cut all frustrating people out of my life, stalkers included.

 

[NukePooch]

If his occupation on Facebook says Stalker, then you have a problem, but until then i wouldn't worry about it. Nothing is solid unless its on facebook.

~shrinks in the awesomeness of that statement~

 

[NukePooch]

I make it a habit to cut all frustrating people out of my life, stalkers included.

So...you're saying you live in a tool shed in the middle of the wilderness all alone...like the Unibomber?

 

[Jullianna]

So...you're saying you live in a tool shed in the middle of the wilderness all alone...like the Unibomber?

Is it wrong that there are times when that sounds kinda cool?