Why women like men lol....

[Gojira]

Hey Gojira

There is a phenomenal difference... I have found it is much easier for people to conceal things about themselves and their character online. I think the other crucial point highlighted by Magenta & SoulSearch is that we can unknowingly make ourselves vulnerable to those who are not genuine, by disclosing information they can use. I know I have previously made it easy for someone to analyse me, from what I said I appreciated in a potential mate; and having a few paragraphs to keep referring back to, was probably useful for this person to make himself fit the criteria I had described. He was strategic, calculated and manipulative for months online, gaining my trust and building a friendship which, would not have got that established had I met him in person.
I have met a number of people online who were very different in person, because they were trying to conceal something physical initially, by using an online approach.
I have also noticed there are those who are not able to interact in a normal manner in real life, and masquerade as something they are not, until they think they’ve clinched the deal so to speak.

There’s nothing quite like real life, because you instantly get an impression of how someone is. Admittedly there are no guarantees when dealing with criminals, however, I have found there is less vulnerability generally.

I get that. You're right about the pitfalls. I object to this fear though because I've been rejected for the stupidest reasons. The woman on the other end was incredibly paranoid, causing her to make some very unfair judgements of me. All I could think was, 'how do you meet anyone with that kind of attitude? Why do you bother coming here at all?'

I am probably the most honest person you're going to meet. What you don't see in pictures I will tell you about, so you know what you're getting. I sometimes will send some unflattering pictures of myself just so that there are never ever any questions about my honesty.

Yeah yeah, 'oh but you're the exception'. No, I don't think I am. You are here, after all, too.

 

[Lynx]

Sarcasm. I was just kidding with you. I'll start using green text with you when it's sarcasm. I had skimmed through the thread a few times, I was just seeing a lot of male replies.

I know. I was answering in kind. Play along.

 

[JAPOV]

@Butterflyyy @Gojira ...
I think it's impossible to get to know someone online. Photos and typed messages are grossly inadequate, and that's the reason some people take advantage of "online anonymity". It's very prudent to be wary of online personas, but on the other hand... people lie to each other's faces all the time.

 

[Gojira]

@Butterflyyy @Gojira ...
I think it's impossible to get to know someone online. Photos and typed messages are grossly inadequate, and that's the reason some people take advantage of "online anonymity". It's very prudent to be wary of online personas, but on the other hand... people lie to each other's faces all the time.

This is why you have a lengthy chat first, then take it to the phone. For me at least, this has always worked, helping me to learn what I needed to before moving forward or moving on.

 

[SimpleSheep]

Thanks! I was hoping someone would pick those out for me. So 3 out of 75 replies (4%) is a female reply talking about what they like about men. An interesting social science phenomena.

The reason I didn't say more was because if I say some of the things I like about men, I know that not all men share those qualities. For example, if I say I like that they are tall...it might offend those men that are short. If I say I like guys who are extroverted, it doesn't mean I couldn't like introverted guys too.

It's like what Seoul said...it depends on the guy. I've gone out with two men: one was 6,3 and the other was about 5,7. One of them had short hair and the other long hair. One of them had a career in banking, the other was studying to be an electrician. It really just depends. If anything this just goes to show that personality is what really matters.

 

[JAPOV]

I was recently contacted (PMd) by a complete stranger with a brand new account, claiming to be female, quoting things that I previously said here @CSF, and basically tried to chat me up! Now I think I'm actually being stalked by argumentative juveniles from BDF... Who actually know me from other sites!

Am I just being paranoid? I say better safe than sorry...

 

[Magenta]

I was recently contacted (PMd) by a complete stranger with a brand new account, claiming to be female, quoting things that I previously said here @CSF, and basically tried to chat me up! Now I think I'm actually being stalked by argumentative juveniles from BDF... Who actually know me from other sites!

Am I just being paranoid? I say better safe than sorry...

I don't know which emoji to put on this ^ post

 

[JAPOV]

I don't know which emoji to put on this ^ post

Just believe it... I still have the conversation in my mailbox. I'd post it if I hadn't become so "creative" when I decided to get rid of her lol

 

[kinda]

I was recently contacted (PMd) by a complete stranger with a brand new account, claiming to be female, quoting things that I previously said here @CSF, and basically tried to chat me up! Now I think I'm actually being stalked by argumentative juveniles from BDF... Who actually know me from other sites!

Am I just being paranoid? I say better safe than sorry...

Just don't give this person your name, address, e-mail, or phone number, and you should be o.k.. lol

 

[Lanolin]

we used to have a height chart at the entrance in the public library it was to measure any offenders in case we had to identify them to the police in an armed hold up lol

Otherwise, tall is relative...I only know if someone is taller than me, shorter than me or the same height. Most men I meet are taller though I am actually taller than both my dad and my mum.

I notice that really short women tend to go out with really tall men just to balance each other out. I dont think that anything wrong with that or the reverse. But there is a reason why a lot of women wear high heel shoes. To be taller...duh.

 

[JesusLives]

Look at these guys what's not to like? I love a good smile, sense of humor, the way my husband makes me feel when I am around him.

I know I was talking with him one time and I was just rattling on and a little anxious and he just came and gave me a hug and it calmed me right down. I stopped talking and said Thank you that is just what I needed.

They look so good when they are all dressed up, knowing that they will take care of things that I can't take care of. Tourist helps me out so much as I don't breathe very well and can't do a lot of the physical things I used to do like carrying a laundry basket to the washer or taking out trash or even waling to the mail box which is a real chore for me not breathing so well. He does those things and it helps me out so much.

Just sharing life with a man you love is such a comforting thing and I know all about single life as I was single for 35 years between marriages an it was so hard having to do everything alone and no one to bounce ideas off of. So I like my man for the partner aspect that we have going. Nice to have someone to travel with, nice to have a dance partner also.

Love it when a man knows how to cook as cooking together can be fun, nice when there are same interests shared and wonderful when you find a man that loves God and will go to church and loves to read the Bible with you.

 

[Lanolin]

mmm but who says you have to live alone when you single. Theres plenty of living arrangements where you do not have to be married. i.e flatting, with extended family, pets etc.

 

[Lanolin]

Yea I dont know about shy, plenty of women can speak their mind if they not going to be beaten up for doing so.

Just put the gun down...

 

[Lanolin]

although, telling a woman exactly how he feels can be rather creepy

I dont need to know about your jock itch. Truly.

 

[JAPOV]

Yea I dont know about shy, plenty of women can speak their mind if they not going to be beaten up for doing so.
Just put the gun down...

although, telling a woman exactly how he feels can be rather creepy
I dont need to know about your jock itch. Truly.

 

[Magenta]

Just believe it... I still have the conversation in my mailbox. I'd post
it if I hadn't become so "creative" when I decided to get rid of her lol

I believe you... when I began talking to people online as a Christian, it was actually somewhat shocking to discover how much hatred was directed toward me simply because I was a professing Christian on a secular site (albeit in the religion forum). Some of the non-believers would stop at nothing to try to psychologically shred a person and destroy their faith, and sadly enough, I witnessed it happening, too. There was not much I could do when a Christian was crashing and burning, because they would be so focused on the negativity assailing them, my words of support would go unnoticed as they sunk into the sea of their despair. Chilling. And it has also happened here that a new member has joined and signed up as a woman, and then invited men only to talk about her relationship issues and sexuality. When some of us cautioned the men, a couple of the guys here went on prolonged rampages against us. It is kind of funny to remember that now... but I have been here for coming up to seven years now, so a lot has gone down in that time LOL.
PS~ those two guys eventually got banned, but not because of me

 

[JAPOV]

I believe you... when I began talking to people online as a Christian, it was actually somewhat shocking to discover how much hatred was directed toward me simply because I was a professing Christian on a secular site (albeit in the religion forum). Some of the non-believers would stop at nothing to try to psychologically shred a person and destroy their faith, and sadly enough, I witnessed it happening, too. There was not much I could do when a Christian was crashing and burning, because they would be so focused on the negativity assailing them, my words of support would go unnoticed as they sunk into the sea of their despair. Chilling. And it has also happened here that a new member has joined and signed up as a woman, and then invited men only to talk about her relationship issues and sexuality. When some of us cautioned the men, a couple of the guys here went on prolonged rampages against us. It is kind of funny to remember that now... but I have been here for coming up to seven years now, so a lot has gone down in that time LOL.
PS~ those two guys eventually got banned, but not because of me

I can't believe how much dissension exists in every forum of THIS site. Especially BDF! It's as if, without argument, without disagreement, there's hardly any reason to post. I've been banned/canceled on Facebook, Twitter, and many songwriter/recording sites... but to see all that argument mirrored HERE is truly discouraging.

Father God, Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done...
The sooner the better!

 

[eXric]

you dont have to talk back. When a woman wants to talk, I think they dont really expect a man to talk back as well. Just listen...at the same time as doing your task

cos we know men cant really do more than 3 things at once. My dad just got around this (listening to women /aunties talk) by putting on his headphones and listening to music. But then, hed sometimes forget that he could do other stuff and just stare blankly at the records going round and round on the turntable while he's listening to the music. Yes the needle is in the record. Are you REALLY listening to the music or just timing how long it takes?

I dont know with my dad. lol

I notice that a boy might read a book he couldnt actually tell you what it was about but he might boast and say it was this thick and had this many pages!

But if a girl reads a book she'll tell you the plot and act out the voices.

" 3 things at once" you or to kind milady.

 

[eXric]

Lol I must say, I do keep wondering why no one is willing to say what they like about men, especially when so many of us hope for a Godly husband one day😂☺️

Most women like to be mysterious and do not want to give up the secrets. Like most of the time they are mad at a guy and are venting to him, it is not about anything he did wrong. It is she is thinking about those great looking shoe that went on sale and she missed out on getting a pair, is why she is mad.

 

[Amanuensis]

Most women like to be mysterious and do not want to give up the secrets. Like most of the time they are mad at a guy and are venting to him, it is not about anything he did wrong. It is she is thinking about those great looking shoe that went on sale and she missed out on getting a pair, is why she is mad.

That's really messed up. But I think it might actually be true.
However, it is not at all godly nor should they do it. They are using their man as their pin cushion to poke and abuse and vent on, thinking that their man is tough and can take it, but it is a miserable life for the man. Just as it would be for them if he did it to them. It is not really a woman thing, it is a devil thing.